What is the number one killer of dreams?
... Lack of drive?
All of those things can contribute to us not getting what we want out of life. But in my opinion, the biggest factor keeping us from pursuing our dreams is a simple 4-letter word....fear.
Fear attacks us from all sides. We’re afraid to fail, afraid to not do “what’s expected of us”, afraid of looking bad, afraid to succeed! We’re afraid of losing money, prestige, standing in the community. Afraid of what “they” will think of us.
So we ignore our inner voice. We stuff down the yearning inside of us. We play it safe. We stay in our lane. And life goes on… and on… and on.
And sometimes, most of the time, things work out ok. And that’s fine. Except for that nagging voice that always wonders “what if”. What if I had gone for that promotion, moved to another city or country, found the courage to leave a bad relationship or a job I detest instead of settling for “it’s better than nothing”?
But sometimes the nagging sensation eats at us, and we slowly over time realize that “there’s got to be more to life than this”. Yet we allow our fear to keep us trapped in that smaller, safer place. And we become miserable. And we may in turn make the other people in our lives miserable too.
Here’s the thing.
I’m on a mission y’all. I want to inspire and support people to push past their fear and say “yes” to themselves. I know what it’s like to say “no” to my inner voice, who quietly prodded me to try something new. And I shut her down… QUICKLY (in 30 seconds flat - to be specific).
And now I also know what it’s like to say “yes” to myself and pursue my gift. No I’m not a millionaire, and this is still a “side gig” for me. But let me tell you… I’m having a BALL! If you’ve listened to my radio show or been to one of my workshops, I’m sure it’s pretty evident. And THIS feeling is what I feel called to help others achieve. Because at the end of the day, we only get one crack at this thing called life. And I’m determined to squeeze every drop out of it.
Take a few minutes to ponder this…
We’ve got a little more than 90 days left in 2014. What are you going to do with the rest of it?
Try this exercise for me. Are you game? OK… Here we go.
Sit comfortably for 5 minutes and ponder these questions. If you want, write about it. Or just think. If now is not a good time, print this out and come back to it. Trust me – it’s worth it.
1. What do I want that I haven’t allowed myself to consider – for whatever practical reason (or out of fear)?
2. What would change if I allowed myself to consider the POSSIBILITY of pursuing this thing?
3. How do I feel right now even thinking about this?
4. What ONE thing can I do that is within my power, time and resources, to make a positive impact in my life before 2014 ends?
What came up for you? Did that feel exciting or SCARY? Empowering? If you came up with something positive to do before 2014, I implore you to follow through on it – no matter how big or small. Because here’s the bottom line. Life ticks by… moment by moment… day by day... And we look up and it’s 10 years later. Carpe Diem my friend! Seize this moment. Who knows where this one decision will take you!
Today I’m not selling anything. I just want to encourage you to think more about what’s possible in your life. And if this message encouraged you or caused even a tiny shift, I’d love to hear about it. If you know someone who would benefit from this message, please forward it on.
Pay it forward!
Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business.