Mothers are special. And we at Life Coach Radio Networks have decided to pause and encourage others to share the love beyond the traditional mother to child relationship. This Mother's Day season we are hosting a special edition of #1Love1People #KindnessInMotion.
For 7 days leading up to Mother’s Day we invite you to reach out to mothers in your lives: Your neighbor. Your teacher or professor. Your coworker or friend. Your sister. Your cousin. Your distant aunt or second or third cousin that lives a few states away from you. Think of ways to reach out and tell them you appreciate them.
MY STORY: WHEN MOM IS NO LONGER THERE
Mother's Day also can bring with it sadness. I lost my mom when I was 14 years old – so most Mother’s Days have been bitter sweet for me ever since. Sometimes I am so sad – because I miss her. I was old enough to remember her wisdom, and how fun she was. Even the little songs she used to sing while cooking. And I inherited her analytical brain and penchant for puzzles and word games. And then when I became a mother myself Mother’s Day took on a different texture – because I get to enjoy my children. But then I get sad again because they never got to meet their grandmom.
Now I have spent more years without her than with her. And it amazes me how the pain can still sneak up on me. But I know she is smiling down on us. Both of my kids occasionally wear this smile she had – with the corners of their mouths slightly downturned. The first time I saw I was amazed! It was like she was reaching out to me – saying, “I see you honey – and I’m proud of you!” Now I just smile when I see it – and I tell them about it – it helps them feel connected to her in some small way.
IT TAKES A VILLAGE.
On Mother’s Day it’s also important for me take time to reach out to the women (and men!) in my family who embraced me and my sisters and filled the gap for us. They helped to ensure that we grew to be thriving happy and healthy young women. I am so very grateful. Our family bonds are so strong – and it made all the difference!
WE ARE ALL CONNECTED. REACH OUT. SHARE LOVE.
I want to take a moment to share an encouraging word to others who might be sad on Mother's Day. There are others like me who have lost their moms at a young age – or they passed on later in life. To my sisters in spirit – I want to encourage you. Cherish the memories. Cherish the time you had with them – even if it was brief. Know that God is in control, even in our sadness and our brokenness. Find ways to build community within and beyond formal family ties.
There are women who cannot conceive and for whom motherhood is a sad time because it reminds them of their barrenness. If you know of anyone in that situation please take some time to be kind to them. You may mention Mother's Day or not. Maybe just do something nice and don't even mention the fact that Mother's Day is coming up.
Some of you have lost your mothers or grandmother or aunt or some other special woman in recent years. So you may still be grieving. Or you know someone who is in the situation. Please take some time to build bridges and to reach out to them and remind them that you care. There are other mothers who themselves have lost children. It may be a child who was born prematurely. Or a miscarriage. Or someone who died too young and the mother was left to bury them. Please be sure to embrace those mothers. Show them love and affection and try to do something nice to close the gap for them. To help them not hurt so much.
We are all connected. And Mother's Day is one of those larger-than-life days that can be a bit difficult to get through. But we're looking for here are simple acts of kindness. We're not looking for you to break the bank and buy expensive gifts for people for 7 days. We aren't looking for you to take everybody out to dinner or brunch. We're looking for you to think of small creative ways to reach out to these special people in your life and spread a little kindness. Please check out this video and you'll see exactly what we mean. Many blessings to you and yours. Thank you for joining this effort with us.
Many blessings to you and yours – and if it applies – HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!
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Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit mycoachtrina.com. @PerspectivePlus or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina