It’s Time To Take Back Our Power!

It’s been on my heart to discuss the sharp uptick in angst, anger, and dismay over the upcoming transition of power. It’s been a very difficult time for many as we watch in horror the things that have transpired since the election. Twitter fights, bullying, unnecessary aggression and devaluing of citizens lives, as legislators rush to dismantle cornerstones of our democracy and leave the public hanging high and dry… people they were elected (and paid very well) to protect and serve. It’s scarcity mentality at the utmost level.

Personally, I’ve had difficulty dealing with it as well – I cycle between anger, frustration, and sheer disbelief – along with what I have coined “Election Induced Tourrete Syndrome” – the compulsion to yell and curse in response to news commentators and public figures. Anyone else?

But I’m here today with good news.

WE CAN TAKE BACK OUR POWER. WE MUST. This moment in American history is like none other, and we cannot afford to stand back and take it.

  • If you’ve been wringing your hands, worrying and shut down, it’s time to shake it off and get into action.
  • If you’ve been waging wars on Facebook and Twitter, it’s time to turn that energy towards those in power and hold them accountable.

WE THE PEOPLE are in charge of this democracy. We own it. And we MUST step up to the plate. There have been other regimes around the world where tyrants have taken over, and people have survived. Resistances have formed. People find a way to thrive and stand for each other. It is no longer appropriate to sit back and wait for THEM to fix things. We are the leaders the worlds been waiting for. Each of us. It’s time to get to work.

What you can do:

  1. Like a good friend says, “Get local”. Volunteer for a cause you believe in. Get involved in local politics. Heck – run for office yourself! You have no idea the power that you possess. Be a part of the solution.
  2. Use your voice. Lobby your elected officials (at all levels) for the changes you stand for. Defend policies that are under attack. Be vigilant. Be fearless. There are many great organizations that stand for “the people” where you can amplify your voice – such as Common Cause, ACLU, People for the American Way, Color of Change, NAACP, Planned Parenthood and many others. Get involved. You don’t have to have all the answers.
  3. Take care of yourself, your family and your community. Life goes on. Enjoy life and embrace the people around you. Pray, feed your spiritual life and connect with like-minded people. Count your blessings and do what you can in the spaces you occupy.
  4. Be the change. Start something new. If you see a problem, find new ways to fix it. Step up in leadership. Use your gifts and talents to inject positivity and creativity into the world.

AND REMEMBER….

If it’s to be, it’s UP TO ME. 
The people, united, can never be defeated!

NOW is the time to step up to the challenge before us. WE CAN DO THIS. WE MUST. Future generations are depending on us. We can’t let them down.

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Dance

Listening to a discussion of Shamanism on the radio, I hear dancing as an aspect of shamanism referred to as pejoratively.  Indigenous people do, “dance around, wear headdresses and blow smoke at you “…  

In my life, I have spent many years participating in indigenous ceremonies.

The dances expressing the essence have been the most profound, exquisite, healing, bonding and creative song to multiplicity of our worlds. 

One of the reasons I feel such confusion about contemporary western psychological shamanism is that there is no dancing, that the community aspect of shamanism is missing. 

I first heard buffalo songs in womb if indeed they were not what called me into this life. 

An intact ceremonial dance is created from a community, from its deep history  thousands of years of dancing, looking at buffalo dancers thousands of years of buffalo dancers present past and future dance there, the multiverse opens to hold us in its sweet compassionate embrace. 

Songs are created from heart, history and knowing, singing of gratitude for all that we receive, life breaths wisdom, light night, plant life, animal life, rock life, mountain and river life, sunlight, stars, wind, song, dance, creativity.  A specific group in a specific place in a specific time dons the dance. In the fullness of ceremony a community is called together, preparations are made, logs are gathered, food is prepared, songs are prepared, dances are prepared, hearts are prepared, souls are prepared, our sweet frail humanness is prepared. There is fasting, fasting from meat, from salt, from anger list hatred, revenge, fear, shame, pride.  Each cleanses the earth, the heart, the village, the body, the soul, the song, the community, the dance.   Step by note the community reweaves life consciously, with beauty and love, with receptivity and release.

In dance the community honors and shines its wholeness, it is not individuals, it is a living organism expanded through the multiverse beyond space and time. We each with great reverence and joy take up our note, our step, our thread in weaving of reality.  With the song and dances our hearts beat as one, we move into deep reality the rich compassionate multiplicity of being.  

We dance to create the world
— Marcello

Nika Annon incorporates Nuero-linguistic programming (NLP) & Nuero-plasticity techniques to help individuals move beyond limiting beliefs & assumptions that hold them back & create new habits to reinforce the changes which create the desired outcomes. To learn more about Nika, please visit www.nikaannon.com

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How to Fight Cyberbullying

From “The Karate Kid” to “How to Train Your Dragon” to “Little House on the Prairie,” bullying is a common theme that reflects the real issues children and young adults face when peers begin a campaign of hate. And because learning how to subdue a rare dragon or perform a threatening karate kick isn’t effective (or even realistic) in social settings, parents have struggled to find the best way to explain bullying and give their children the tools necessary to combat — or simply survive — the unwanted attention.

Even more confusing is the rise of cyberbullying — something most teachers, parents, or other adults have little experience with and may be unaware of as the exploitation occurs on private online networks or is hurled by anonymous users. This can’t be ignored, however. Nearly one in five children who use social networking sites is the victim of cyberbullying, according to a recent study by children’s charity NSCPP.

Hannah Smith, a 14-year-old girl living in England, was one victim of online bullying. Gabrielle Molina was teased and taunted online and in the classroom. Both of these young girls’ deaths have been linked to cyberbullying. Most recently, a 17-year-old boy living in Scotland took his life after communication with a person he believed to be a teenage girl turned out to be someone extorting money. Stalking and bullying online are serious threats to our children, and they require parents to remain vigilant in monitoring their children’s online habits.

Recognizing the Abuse 

The signs of cyberbullying are similar to those of “traditional” bullying. A bullied child will tend to be withdrawn, agitated, and reluctant to share conversation. He might suffer from loss of appetite, a decline in the quality of his schoolwork, general worry, or emotional upsets like crying for no apparent reason. 

Many times, the victim does not even know who the abuser is due to anonymous comments or user profiles. This leaves the child feeling paranoid, wondering who is making his life miserable and whether he knows the person in real life.

Unfortunately, the effects of cyberbullying aren’t limited to digital spaces. While the perpetrator might not attend the same school — or even be the same age — the child’s peers can read the comments online and bring them to life in the “real world.”

Why is cyberbullying so harmful? Many children have self-doubt, fear, and imposed beliefs that they are “no good,” and a few unkind words displayed on a message board can turn these common insecurities into total desperation. These messages can be reviewed again and again, and the hateful comments tend to be much harsher as abusers act more brazenly when sheltered by a screen.

Because it’s so difficult to stop or monitor online activity, parents need to support, guide, and help their children develop skills to combat the abuse and deal with the psychological aftermath. 

How to Fight Back

For many parents, their first reaction to an instance of bullying is to take away the cell phone, the Facebook account, and any online privileges. No cyber life means no cyberbullying, right?

However, this tactic can actually make things worse. For many children and young teens, having hundreds or thousands of contacts, Facebook friends, or Twitter followers is a measure of popularity and self-worth. The phone is a portal to their world. While some negativity and abuse might be coming through, closing the door entirely is not the answer. Taking privileges away can feel like a punishment during a time when the child really needs trust, support, and open communication with his parents.

That said, there are some steps a parent can take to make a child’s digital world safer right away:

  • If the abuse is happening through SMS, change the child’s cell phone number or block the abuser’s number.
  • Shut down any profiles or accounts where users are anonymous, such as Ask.fm. These sites attract users who prey on youthful insecurities.
  • Have an honest conversation about how to respond to hateful messages and how to understand the other person’s motivations.

If Things Get Worse

Bullying can become an unmanageable issue, especially if a child’s abusers attend the same school or participate in the same activities. Often, a child being bullied is viewed by other bullies as an easy target, and this results in a vicious cycle of hateful comments, teasing, and threats, both online and at school.

Create a team to address the issue. Include teachers, other parents, and siblings. Provide a supportive environment where the child can talk openly about the abuse and how he feels. If a young adult is uncomfortable discussing these issues with a parent, a coach or therapist could help him work through the bullying, regain his confidence, and reaffirm his values.

If threats have been made, you should immediately contact the police — even if it’s an online issue. Technology has become more sophisticated, and police departments may have the ability to track down the abuser through his or her digital signature. Hiring a lawyer or working with social services are also options for families or children who have experienced serious disruptions because of a cyber bully.

Having an online presence is a natural part of a young adult’s life today, so the most important thing you can do for your child is to instill in him the belief that he can discuss anything with you — including mistakes made online. If you make discussing online behavior and interactions a regular event, you can build a relationship in which online teasing, bullying, or even coercion are issues you fight together. 


For more than 30 years, Rod Beau has been an internationally sought-after education and management consultant and keynote speaker. His practical, real-world business experience and career have been in educational leadership, relocation consulting and executive and leadership coaching. As a Senior Consultant and Master Executive Coach, Rod is also an Accredited ANLP Trainer - specializing in Executive and Leadership Coaching. To learn more about Rod Beau, please visit www.sherpanlp.com

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Don’t Say, “I don’t know”… You’re Better Than That!

The first time I’d heard “What’s the difference between ignorance and stupidity?” and then the answer/punch line “I don’t know and I don’t care” was in a movie many years ago. In the movie everyone listening to the person who delivered the punch line began to laugh in a pompous manner. As if their intellect was superior and therefore couldn’t possibly fall into the category of being either ignorant or stupid. 

When I am in a coaching session with someone, I have a rule that anyone over the age of twelve is not allowed to say “I don’t know” when I ask them a question about why they took a specific action or how they feel about something. I explain that after the age of twelve with all of the growing and learning we have done up to that point, we should all know and or have already formulated our own thought processes of what motivates, drives, frightens, and makes up happy. We should all know the reasons behind the actions we take, the things we pursue, the love we feel, what angers us, why we feel frustration, or why we experience emotional pain.

When someone asks you “Why did you do that?” and you reply “I don’t know” it is not an accurate statement and it is definitely not a statement I allow. I think we all know why we’ve done what we’ve done or why we do what we do. We all know what has caused us to take a certain action. Now not wanting to admit it because of guilt, or shame, or fear of reprisal, is still you knowing why you took an action. You now just have other motivations for not wanting to admit it. 

Saying “I don’t know, I will think about it,” is very intelligent because now you are giving conscious thought to something you don’t know. And now you will think about it in order to come to an intelligent conclusion. It could apply to a piece of artwork, a mathematical equation, the breed of a horse, or simply the capital city of a state/country, etc. You are saying to someone that you don’t know the answer, and that you will look it up and come up with an answer to replace the first comment you made of “I don’t know.” It is about being conscious, being aware, and being smart in your own life. Sometimes to formulate the correct answer, the question you ask yourself after “I don’t know” needs to be deeper in order to come to an intelligent answer. 

At times, this doesn’t necessarily always apply easily to your actions or your feelings. Sometimes, the “I don’t know” rolls off of your tongue easily because you are not sure if what you are feeling is right. You know what you’re feeling and you know why you took an action, but you are unsure of whether the feeling is right or the action you took is right. That has to do with “owning” it. Own what you’ve done. Own the feelings that led up to your action and own the feelings the action created. Let’s own what we do. If we’ve done it, it belongs to us and we need to own it and figure it out. Think about what you do, how you feel, who you are, and why you do what you do. What is it that motivates you? What drives you to an action? Why are certain things driving you to the good/bad action you are taking? You should always know the “Why?” 

“I don’t know” should always be followed with “I will think about it” and then should be followed through with the deep conscious contemplation that will bring you to the answer of what you didn’t know. Be smart in your own life.

Peace and Love to the Universe!


Monica Ortiz is a successful Life Coach, Author, and Speaker whose award-winning work has touched thousands of lives over her 20-year career. Her debut book in 2013 received over 100 five-star reviews and critical acclaim, and has led to speaking invitations at leading institutions such as Stanford University on topics ranging from Success in Your Career and Relationships to Shifting Your Energy to Shape Your Reality. She is founder of The Universe Series, a professional organization bringing the tools she teaches to millions of people around the globe. To learn more, visit www.theuniverseseries.com

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Tweak Your Speak

I was going to title this "Tweaking Your Speak" but "Tweak Your Speak" rhymes so that's what I stayed with.

One of the many things I've learned over the years from working with so many people on so many levels and doing lectures is that everyone understands things differently, which means they also have different speech patterns, methods of speaking, and different mannerisms while speaking.

The bottom line is we all feed and digest information differently. This quite often leads to miscommunication and hurt feelings across the board.

The Fix:

Tweak Your Speak

While communicating, listen intently, ask questions, listen to the explanation, and ask a question about the explanation if you need to. Reply "Just to make sure we are on the same page", "This is what you mean", or "This is what we're doing." While communicating, it is also important when speaking to acknowledge the person who is listening by asking questions to ensure they are understanding you. Both parties communicating have a shared responsibility in the communication they are having.

Never assume anything while communicating. We enter into legal agreements, peace treaties, property ownership transfers, etc. through purposeful mediation, a great deal of verbal communication, and finally written word so there is full understanding of expectations on all parties and terms. Therefore, there is no miscommunication. Remember, the words you use are powerful and can inflect love, pain, happiness, joy, sadness, a state of confusion, understanding, peace, turmoil, and respect. So why not speak carefully, with intent, and with purpose.

Remember, mannerisms say a lot. If you are aggressive in your body language, even speaking kind words can be construed as harsh. When you are speaking about a positive event happening in your life and you put an "it might work out, it might not" spin on it (I have witnessed this method of communication countless times), it will not be understood as the positive event or news you are hoping for and/or not even as important as you feel it is, so when the people around you aren't congratulating you, you shouldn't become disappointed or upset with them, instead evaluate your speak. How could you have gotten the people around you to understand the importance of what is happening in your life?

This may seem like a lot of work, but if you think about it, how much work is it to fix things, feelings, relationships, that have gone awry because of miscommunication.

Take a moment, breathe, and reevaluate the way you speak, the way you listen, and the way you and the people around you are communicating. Make sure it is effective communication. Life becomes much simpler when everyone is understanding communication.

Peace and Love to the Universe!!!


Monica Ortiz is a successful Life Coach, Author, and Speaker whose award-winning work has touched thousands of lives over her 20-year career. Her debut book in 2013 received over 100 five-star reviews and critical acclaim, and has led to speaking invitations at leading institutions such as Stanford University on topics ranging from Success in Your Career and Relationships to Shifting Your Energy to Shape Your Reality. She is founder of The Universe Series, a professional organization bringing the tools she teaches to millions of people around the globe. To learn more, visit www.theuniverseseries.com