Inspiring A Young Boxer

Situation

Rod's client was a 19 year old who had previously been a successful junior champion amateur boxer. However lately he had dropped out of college and been unable to get a job. He had turned himself from competition and local society by going into drinking and minor drug use. If he continued as he was he was heading to become unemployable as well as putting his health in danger.

Objective

Rod's objective was to help him reconnect him with his passion of competitive boxing, create a vision and take action to win senior boxing titles, and in doing so create a direction for his life. 

Actions

Rod's first action was to do what was necessary to build a relationship of mutual respect and trust. When he achieved this he took his client through a series of mental and physical exercises to reconnect to his inner purpose and strength. He then acted as a role model, mentor and guide to help his client restart  training and work on his diet and health.

He then taught his client to be his own coach, so Rod was able to reduce his sessions from weekly, to every two weeks and then once a month.

Results

The results were evident not only to his client but also his friends and family. Within a matter of weeks he was less dependent on alcohol and drugs, increasing self confidence, looking better and coming over better and fitter. He was training five out of seven days and getting himself ready for a series of fights.

And so

Two years later James has become successful boxer – no longer dependent on alcohol and drugs, he has a healthy diet, healthy body, and trains every day. He is now winning his fights at local, regional and international level. His self confidence has increased dramatically. He has secured a part time job at Tesco which allows him the time to train for boxing. 


For more than 30 years, Rod Beau has been an internationally sought-after education and management consultant and keynote speaker. His practical, real-world business experience and career have been in educational leadership, relocation consulting and executive and leadership coaching. As a Senior Consultant and Master Executive Coach, Rod is also an Accredited ANLP Trainer - specializing in Executive and Leadership Coaching. To learn more about Rod Beau, please visit www.sherpanlp.com

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Tune into Success ~ Tune into Resilience!

Have you ever had a friend or relative who, no matter how many times they fell down, scraped their knee or faced some unexpected hardship, they got back up again with a focused positive attitude.   You know, those people who after a long day they still have a great smile on their face, ready to take on any new challenge that comes their way!  They always seem to see the glass as half full.  When situations occur that get others mad or depressed, they’re energy is bubbly!  Amazing isn’t it?   What planet are they from anyway???

In the proverbial search for the meaning of life, the question is asked over and over again:  What is it that we all want out of life?  Some say it’s success, however if so many are struggling, just to get by, can we even tune into the thought?  “Do I believe I am capable”  Those voices are always standing by, ready to resolve to defeat.

Enter into the picture, a second person who’s extremely quiet and shy.  Someone with very little confidence and a very small circle of friends.  We observe this person socializes with comfort food as a crutch to drown his mood and goes through each day with little direction much less any focused energy on a target or long-term goals. 

Take a few minutes to conjure up in your mind, the image of these two very different people.  You probably know a number of people who fit into the positive achiever mode as well as people go through life with a down, why does this always happen to me, energy.  It’s always fascinating when you meet two people from the same family, who are total opposites. What’s the driving force that drives these two diverse personalities?

The studies of Bruce Lipton, PhD, in “biology of belief” and “the wisdom of our cells” enlighten us to the understanding of our conscious mind and the far more powerful sub-conscious mind which is runs our immune system, nervous system, respiratory, keeps our heart beating, and is the core to our belief system.  We can actually change our DNA with our thoughts.  Lipton’s studies show how our subconscious programming is all established in the first six years of our lives.  Every aspect of our environment establishes our core beliefs.  We grow up nourished, knowing we can do anything our mind sets out to do or we grow up skeptical, always the “devils advocate”.  Dr. Lipton would say this is the sub conscience tuning into all possibilities.  If we weren’t so fortunate to grow up surrounded with a loving energy with support and positive feedback, we can work on re-programming our internal tape to see if we can overcome feelings of self doubt.

A women looses her mother in her teenage years, she is lost, rebelling, and it appears no one seems to understand her.  She is sent away to college to find herself, maybe meet new friends.  With a depressed nature she succumbs to peer pressure, and spirals into a drug addiction.   Was there a resilient foundation in place before her mothers death?

Another women discovers she has cancer, she is told it is a very aggressive cancer and she will have to fight hard for her life.  Without skipping a beat she takes control with ease and a beautiful smile.  It is tiring at times but her friends, (her support system) are by her side.  She discovers she is stronger then she knew herself to be.  She lives.

Two friends are chatting about their diets.  The first one says, “I wish someday I could be healthy and feel great.”  The second one says, “I intend to be healthy and feel great.”

Which one do you think is going to get healthy and feel great?  Yep ~ the one who intends it. 

Can we all have support, positive intentions and beliefs?

Yes we can.  Two keys to intention in business and health is support and action – Taking action no matter who stands in your way, negative nelly or those voices in your head. 

Did you know that you can even set an intention to have a great day?

Rather than diving into your morning and hoping you’ll achieve your day’s big goal, why not take a moment and tune yourself up for success?  You can Have a Great Day… Every Day!

You can start with healthy food choices such as a variety of organic fruits, nuts and veggies.  One can’t have a healthy “in tune brain” without a “healthy gut”.  Can you tune into your gut feelings?

  • Think about your desired outcome. Take a deep breath and visualize yourself succeeding.
  • Replay your success several times in your mind.
  • Next, add other senses, including sounds, smells, taste and touch. All these affect our inner energy. For instance, if you listen to crap radio, that sound can interfere with intention and focus.
  • As you replay your success tape, you now also hear the director offering you the gig, or you feel the physical sensation of your finger hitting the “send” button on your latest assignment.
  • Lastly, replay the scene again, adding emotions.  Feel your elation at getting to your desired weight or your pride at finally finishing your project.

So how can you build your intention muscle? 

  1. Get clear on what you want, what you believe in and what you desire.
  2. Resolve- to find an answer or solution to the roadblocks of your life.
  3. Do something to make your desire happen.
  4. Do you intend to lose weight, eat healthy, and feel fantastic?  Make a plan to tune into success, resilience and health by getting the support you need!
  5. Remember to Nourish-because nourishing thoughts, foods and behavior makes that spoon full of medicine go down much easier. Having a nourishing lifestyle means you can make the choice to have a solid belief system, lean toward a healthy glow, feed your body with organic foods, share a genuine smile, attain peace and serenity.

Along our journey, there will be challenges as the road is never perfect.  The strength and resolve of our belief system, anchored in a total commitment to do what ever it takes, is the difference between reaching our intended goal, or giving up.  What is your intention today?

Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Health Coach. She supports her clients on their way to true health. Make a plan to tune into success at www.bitesizepieces.net

For more tips on how to use resilience to tune in to success, please join co-hosts Connie Rogers, (www.bitesizepieces.net), Filomena A. Iorio-Tasoluk (www.bounce-life.com), and Veronica Taylor (www.lifeleaderscoaching.com) on Monday, February 3, 2014 at 7pm/est on Life Coach Radio Network:  HOW RESILIENCE CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS!

 

There Is No Place For Bullying

On Friday, November 6, on my radio show Train Your Brain to Up Your Game with Coach Mandy  show focused on a few topics hot in youth sports. One of them was whether or not a lopsided game of 91-0 constituted a bullying accusation filed by a parent of the losing team.  In doing some research it became apparent the players stayed respectful, showed good sportsmanship, the clock stayed running, and the players even did some things to not score a few times when they could. On the show we discussed there is a difference between one team being over matched due to talents levels and bullying and that the parent filing a formal complaint actually diminished the serious nature of bullying that we do have going on right now.  The lopsided win, in my opinion, was not a bullying case, it was an unfortunate mismatch of player abilities and schools that will need to reevaluate their schedules.  I wish one team did not have to experience such a loss, but the players weren't targeted, taunted, or ridiculed.  It was a bad loss and I wish it didn't happen.

Unfortunately, over the past week a true and serious bullying/hazing situation has come to the surface within the Miami Dolphins organization.  Ritchie Incognito was suspended from the Dolphins for bullying fellow player, Jonathan Martin, to the extent Martin left the team due to mental distress.  Presently, the NFL is further investigating the situation.  There is no place for bullying/hazing in sports and certainly not in our everyday lives. 

It is time we started showing more compassion for each other, time to start welcoming others instead of closing doors.  Making yourself feel good by hurting someone else, doesn't take away the bullies pain (because that's what they are, in pain or in fear of something) it only brings another person down into an emotionally and sometimes physically distressed state.  Bullying is painful, bullying has pushed way too many kids and people to believe they are not good enough to the point they try to commit suicide - with far too many not being saved in time.  It has to stop, but it won't.  My only hope is a serious story such as this will bring a new light to the seriousness of bullying and that it happens everywhere.  Even to big and physically intimidating and strong football players.  The size of the person being bullied has no bearing on the pain it internally inflicts.  Inside we're all the same size.  Inside we all want to be liked, loved, accepted, and know we have value and matter.  Usually the bully doesn't feel any of that and when they inflict their words or physical harm on another, the one being bullied certainly doesn't feel it.  Yet we all do MATTER, we all do have VALUE, and we are all LOVEABLE.

So the next time you make a joke at someone's expense remember to them it's not funny.  The next time you laugh at a practical joke that humiliates another, think of the deeper pain it may be causing.  We don't know what is going on inside another and we should never do anything to make ourselves feel better by bringing someone else down.  Live with compassion and empathy and together we can all make this a safer, more accepting world.

 

 Mandy Roczniak

Mandy Roczniak

Mandy Roczniak has more than 23 years of experience in the field of coaching; 20 years as a collegiate softball coach (nine as a DI Head Coach) and three years as a certified life coach. She has mentored and coached high-level athletes throughout her career to help them reach their full potential and attain their athletic, academic, career,  and life goals.   To learn more about how Mandy can help you reach your full potential, visit www.coachmandy.com

Turning a Lopsided Loss into a Win-Win

 There was a recent youth sports story from Parker County in Texas that hit the news.  The story was about the mother of a high school football player who filed bullying charges against the coaching staff of the opposing team.  The mom made this claim because her son’s team lost  91-0.    The complaint suggests the coaches should have told the players to take it easy on the competition.  The irony to the complaint is she goes on to say the players from (Aledo High School) showed respect to her son and thanked them for the good sportsmanship.  So why even file the complaint in the first place?  She states she didn’t know what to say to my son on the ride home.  The issue with the filing of this complaint is that bullying is a problem in our school systems right now; it is a real epidemic with how freely kids can be targeted through social media and taunting at school.  Lives are being lost due to bullying and this complaint minimizes the legitimacy and severity of bullying.

 It’s the reality of sports that one team wins and one team losses.  It is certainly more difficult to be on the losing team, especially if it’s as lopsided as 91-0, but does this constitute bullying?  If the players played their best, displayed good sportsmanship, didn’t intentionally run up the score, how is this bullying?

 This game can be used to teach some life lessons, for both teams.  The winning team can foster discussions around; how do you continue to show respect for an opponent when it’s clear they are over-matched?  Is stopping at the goal line instead of scoring respectful or not?  What would they want the other team to do if they were on the other side?  If they were in another game like this, what would they do differently and still be respectful of the other team?  What did you learn from this experience and how can you use this lesson later on in life?

The discussions that can be had with the losing team could be; what did you learn about yourself by continuing to play hard even though you weren’t going to win?  What would you have wanted the other team do differently?  What would you have done if you had been the other team? How will being in a game like this help you later on in life?

When you play sports, the basic concept is one team wins and one team loses.  It is very unfortunate the Fort Worth’s Western Hills football team lost 91-0.  It is certainly not the way anyone ever wants a game to go, but it does happen and it appears the Aledo players did their best to limit the damage.   But I think it can be agreed that a lopsided score does not qualify as bullying.  Everyday we’re faced with obstacles, how we take on these challenges is what shapes who we are.  What we learn from these experiences helps us in how we will show up the next an issue arises.  Ultimately, it leads us to form what actions we will take.  There are opportunities in everything that happens to us, we just need to be able to have an open mind to take these win – loss experiences and shift them into a win-win.

 Mandy Roczniak

Mandy Roczniak

 Mandy Roczniak has more than 23 years of experience in the field of coaching; 20 years as a collegiate softball coach (nine as a DI Head Coach) and three years as a certified life coach. She has mentored and coached high-level athletes throughout her career to help them reach their full potential and attain their athletic, academic, career,  and life goals.   To learn more about how Mandy can help you reach your full potential, visit www.coachmandy.com