The Dangers of Living on Auto-Pilot

Life comes at you fast. It can be full of ups and downs. There’s some good and some bad. And sometimes you end up just plain tired – stressed and overwhelmed. And you might want something to just go on predictably for a change, right? Maybe? Or maybe not so much.

How’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re on top of your game and things are going well? Or are you starting to feel that nagging sensation that there’s got to be more? Or do you  feel like it’s time for a change – but you might be a little bit afraid or a lot afraid of doing what it needs to be done in order to create that change? I feel you. I’ve been there. Many times.

Today I just want to encourage you about not getting lulled into the complacency of autopilot. Because here’s the tragedy. The tragedy is that many, many people live their lives on autopilot. They wake up, get dressed, go to work or go about their days – business as usual. One day blends into the next and blends into the next and you look up in five years have passed. You think about all those dreams and all those ambitions that you had once upon a time. You might start to think maybe it’s too late.

But let me say something to you loud and clear! It is NEVER TOO LATE!

It’s never too late to try something new.

It’s never too late to pursue your passion.

It’s never too late to say yes to your soul.

If you are ready to say yes to your soul and to pursue something that has been tugging at your heart for a very long time – IT IS TIME TO START.

It’s time to take a risk.

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone.

It’s time to take yourself seriously and honor your truest desires.

ARE YOU READY?

Come with me and let’s take this adventure together! Because after all – it’s YOUR life, and you have a say! And it is time to JUST DO YOU!

Many blessings to you and yours from in from my heart to yours.  I pray that you will create the life of your dreams. If anything in this message inspired you to think about something different, to do something different, to make a bold decision – I encourage you to reach out to me.

Email me at trina@mycoachtrina.com, and let’s set up a time to talk about how you can take things to the next level in your life. I look forward to speaking with you!

Yours in UNLIMITED possibility,

Trina Ramsey


Career & Life Strategist

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The Strengths Within

Hello Friends!

I am expecting great things for you and me in 2016 because with faith and some creative positioning, there is nothing we can’t do!!! Absolutely NOTHING!


So I wanted to drop by quickly to see if you will join me in exploring your strengths and talents. You know those finely developed skills that set you apart or those God given abilities that make you special. I believe our strengths and talents are the guideposts to our purpose in life. And once you’ve figured out your purpose, a dynamic vision for your life can be born. But it all starts with knowing and understanding the strengths within.


When I began my coaching practice, I decided to focus my coaching on Positive Psychology. Positive Psychology focuses on how to help human beings prosper and lead healthy, happy lives mainly by helping them access their strengths, gifts and talents. Simply put…the thought is… the more you operate in your strengths, the happier your life will be. I am a walking testimony to this fact which is why I encourage my clients through strength building. Sounds great, right? I think so. The problem however, is that most people have no idea what their strengths are. They don’t understand the power of their gifts and have no idea how to direct their talents to lead happy, successful lives.


I want to help you all in this area. So back to my request at the beginning of this post…please join me in exploring your strengths. I am going to give you two easy ways to begin to tap into your strengths within. Below are a few assessments that will give you a good indication of what you are working with. They are all FREE. YAY! But very capable.


Please do yourself a favor and learn more about what makes you uniquely who you are. This is the first step in the Vision Making process. Tis the season for Vision Boards and Goal Setting. I’m asking you to Pause this year, Explore your strengths and Learn how to leverage them for success, AND THEN Create your Vision Boards or Goals. StrengthsFinder 2.0 is another tool that I make EVERY client take at the beginning of working together. The cost on that assessment is about $15.00, however you will need someone certified in StrengthsFinder to interpret your results accurately.


In any case, do yourself a favor and identify your strengths within. Trust me, you will thank me later.


Via Survey of Character Strengths AND Brief Strengths Test

https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/user/login?destination=node/434 

You will need to do a quick registration. They can be found under questionnaires.

Spiritual Gifts Test  

http://giftstest.com/ 

You will need to do a quick registration.


Blessings!


Natasha Gayden is the founder of Elevate! Master Coaching. Natasha brings over 20 years of corporate experience identifying and developing high potential talent within individuals and teams. She as has many years of life experiences and a track record of helping people unstuck in their lives. Natasha specializes in the development of human potential across the personal/professional spectrum of life. She brings to the table significant Coaching, Training, and Consulting experience in the areas of Strategic Planning, insight, leadership skills, executive presence and overall life resiliency.

Source: www.elevatemastercoaching.com

Intentional Living

Friends,
Back in 2012, my husband and I were planning to go on a mission trip to Haiti with our church. They were in the process of prepping us when one of the group leaders looked at me and told me I would need to take my acrylic nails off. I was told jokingly there would be no need for them in Haiti. But it was true, Haiti was no place for someone sporting nail tips.
I didn’t hesitate taking them off, but I began to wonder why I even wore them in the first place. I wondered this because I wore nail tips for 20 years and I hated… I mean dreaded going to get them done. It was a chore. I can’t say I wore them for fashion purposes since my own nails grow long and pretty and every time I had nail tips put on, they would have to cut my nails shorter. Huh…..So why did I faithfully go every 2 weeks and get these nails done, when I 1) Hated it. and 2) Had my own healthy nails? The answer is I was sleepwalking. I was doing things because I had always done them and mindlessly walking through life. My wake up call started with nail tips, but I’m sure you can relate to sleepwalking through the years, letting life live you, while not being intentional in your daily life and purpose. Intentional Living is habit of successful people and this is why my Vision Group has selected it as our 2016 theme. We want to be women who live intentionally, while walking in our purpose.
So what is intentional living you ask? Intentional living is any attempt to live in alignment with your beliefs and values. It’s your alignment of your short term actions with long term vision. This simply means that everything you work on daily and all of your short term actions should be in direct alignment with your long term vision. You are intentionally actionable around what you want and believe. Now here’s the trick…or the lie. We all say we want to be happy. We want to be healthy. We want to travel, etc, etc. However, our day to day actions don’t align with what we say we want. For example, someone may say they want to travel and can’t because they have no money. But they spend thousands of dollars shopping for clothes they don’t need. Or maybe you say you want to be in a house, however you keep living above your means and never actually budget and save to buy this house you want. Or you just can’t find the time to work out, but you spent over 380 hours on FB this year. Doesn’t Line up, right? I could go on, but you get the point. To bring it home personally, when I did the math for those 20 years I was getting those nail tips, I calculated that I had spent over $18,000. Now I was one of those people who said I wanted to travel and take life altering trips, but my habits were not intentional in reaching my goals. I could have bought at least 12 international trips with this money and had some great life experiences!!! Talk about a wake up from sleepwalking and an unintentional life.
So here are a few things to consider when thinking about living an intentional life:

  1. Understand your vision, purpose or calling
  2. Set SMART (Specific Measureable Achievable Results-oriented Time-Based) goals that support your vision
  3. Create actionable daily habits that align with your long term goals
  4. Get rid of the excuses as to why you can’t live out your values and beliefs
  5. Examine your current habits: Either they take you towards your goal or away from them. There is no in between.

Friends, as we enter a new year I hope this post incites you to WAKE UP and live an Intentional LIfe. I hope it provides you the wisdom needed to move towards your goals. And finally, I hope it provides revelation which opens your hearts and minds to living an intentional life…full of purpose…..fully awake and meeting all that you seek and hope for. My humble wish for you….

Many Blessings!


Natasha Gayden is the founder of Elevate! Master Coaching. Natasha brings over 20 years of corporate experience identifying and developing high potential talent within individuals and teams. She as has many years of life experiences and a track record of helping people unstuck in their lives. Natasha specializes in the development of human potential across the personal/professional spectrum of life. She brings to the table significant Coaching, Training, and Consulting experience in the areas of Strategic Planning, insight, leadership skills, executive presence and overall life resiliency.

Source: www.elevatemastercoaching.com

My Word for 2016

As a society we seem to have turned away from New Year’s resolutions and turned toward a single word to sum up our intentions for the clean slate of a new year. A Word which could and would bring us back to center in moments of uncertainty, moments when a decision mandates we consider the bigger picture of our why and how.

As I embraced the search for my own why and how I paused to take a look deep inside, to see what was important to me. Really, I was searching for a word that summed up my goals and aspirations – but what are they? Some aspirations like prioritizing my marriage, regaining a higher level of fitness and shedding the final forty pounds of baby weight have been with me for a while. Other goals like ignoring comparisons to other mothers are newer, but no less compelling. These goals required a word that was action oriented and contemplative.  A word that wouldn’t shrink under the sheer volume and momentum of a mompreneur’s to do list.

I’m not entirely sure if I found my word or my word found me. Either way it is concise, compact and oddly liberating.

My word for 2016 is Me.

That’s Me with a deliberately capitalized M – the Me of my higher, enlightened Self.

What does Me mean? It means a year of radical self-love and radical self-care, which ensures I show up as the best version of Me possible.

Me: connecting deliberately with my husband. Sharing my joy, my strength, my passion and my compassion.

Me: connecting consciously with my child.  Focusing when we are together kicking the ‘must multitask’ monkey mind to the curb and reveling in the joy of raising a competent, independent thinker.

Me: shrugging off unsolicited advice and comparisons. I’m the Wife, Mother and Woman I’m meant to be. I am enough as I am and I chose to grow stronger and more fearless each day.

Me: eating healthy foods 85-90% of the time. Me and My Family are worth the time and cost associated with proper, healthy meals, nutritious foods and luscious desserts. Oh and drinking more water because I’m worth the potty break time-outs.

Me: Running. Lifting. Coming back to my badass self who could once out lift every other chick in the gym.

Me: Splurging on new running shoes, seamless socks and a weekly yoga class.

Me: growing into my professional role. Working during office hours with clients and on programs that bring passion, purpose and empowerment.

Me: caring about those who care about me. Friendship is built on trust, loyalty and laughter.

Me: laughing long and loud with those friends I value who force me to level up my game.

That’s Me for 2016. What’s your word?


Jennifer Bellber is a Certified Professional Life Coach & Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner. She's a wife, mother of a toddler, sometimes blogger, photographer for fun and charitable causes, slow runner and weight lifting enthusiast who reduced her physical self by 120 pounds a few years ago. 

Jennifer's passion is helping overwhelmed parents figure out who they want to be when their kids grow up, ditch the Mommy Guilt (or Daddy Guilt as the case may be) and live a connected, empowered, wickedly amazing sexy life of their own design.

To learn more about Jennifer, visit: www.jenniferbellber.com

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My Visions Of Christmas Spirit Dancing In My Head

Isn't there anyone who knows what Christmas is all about asks our friend Charlie Brown.  So in the spirit of Christmas, I am not going to write about advice or what my view of relationships are but instead focus on what's upon us..the spirit of Christmas.  The magic of the holidays are in the air and it brings people together like nothing else we know.  Enemies become friends after a few drinks at the company party or around the Festivus Pole.  Grinch's hearts will grow three sizes when embraced by the power of giving this time of year.  What about the magic of mistletoe that allows all of us to feel a little giddy, get a little lucky and steal a kiss from someone that you never thought possible.  Now that's my idea of Christmas Stollen! Speaking of, if you are thinking of passing that off as a holiday treat, I WILL report your bread stolen because you should be arrested!

For most of us, it brings back memories of childhoods past, making gigantic lists, helping bake cookies and watching the timeless classics on TV.  Schools would be decorated with the red and green rings we made with dull scissors that bruised our fingers, fragile (it must be Italian!) paper and minty paste.  

Maybe you went to a neighbor's house like I did and made trimmings of popcorn and cranberry for your tree with thread and a needle that you stabbed yourself with repeatedly.  Or maybe you went to the mall to get a picture taken on the Big Man's lap and whisper a last minute gift in his ear.  He asks, “How about a nice football?”.  And your response is, “No! No! I want an Official Red Ryder Carbine-Action Two-Hundred-Shot Range Model Air Rifle!”.  All together now...YOU'LL SHOOT YOUR EYE OUT KID!  

One of my fondest memories was waiting outside on a cold night for Santa to come around on the firetruck.  I could hear the music and see the lights flashing from blocks away.  

My heart raced with anticipation and filled up with such joy and excitement as he pulled onto my street.  To see him wave to me and have his helpers give out candy canes as my dad handed them a bottle of holiday “spirits” will be something that will always bring me back to what being a kid at Christmas was all about.  Appropriately enough as I write this, I'm listening to the only song that truly puts me in the holiday mood, Santa Claus Is Comin' To Town by Bruce Springsteen.  It gives me the chills every time I hear the bells shaking, Bruce talking to the band and Clarence and then saying “Everybody out there been good or what? That's not many, you guys are in trouble out here.”.  The power of that song makes me happier than you can imagine at Christmas time.  What else would you expect from a Jersey boy?

Most importantly, let us not forget this time of year is not about gift giving but more about appreciating your fellow man, not taking for granted what you have and giving back in any way, no matter how small it might be.  Every gesture done in good faith this time of year is magnified tenfold because there are so many who won't have an opportunity to experience what a real Christmas should feel like.  

Therefore, take a moment to be thankful for your health, your family and your friends who support you year round.  In doing so, it just may inspire you to do something great and show others what the Christmas spirit truly means to you!


Sean Michael Kehoe is a certified personal trainer of ten years who owns and operates Transformations By Sean Michael, a fitness and wellness solutions training company.  Certified by the National Academy of Sports Medicine, he holds certifications as a Personal Trainer, Weight Loss Specialist and Golf Fitness Specialist.  

Source: http://www.transformedbysean.com/

Beauty For Ashes - Living with Pain

About two years ago, my husband and I decided to do a 7 day fast. I had not done a fast in several years due to being diagnosed as Pre-Diabetic, having Fibromyalgia Syndrome and High Blood Pressure. I typically wouldn’t alter anything from the routine of food I consumed because any little imbalance could result in weeks of unrelenting pain. I chose not to take all of the pain meds prescribed by my doctors because I believe they just mask the pain, cause dependency and decrease the quality of life. Some people believe differently, however this is my choice. I choose to endure the pain, press through, lean into it, so I can lead a somewhat normal life. So as you can imagine a 7 day fast could have grave implications on my well-being, not to mention I had to go to the corporate headquarters to sit in meetings for 4 days. Well I was on day 3 and I had a headache that was unbearable!!! I felt like I was going to pass out. Then a co- worker noticed I was not myself and asked me what was wrong. I broke down and told her I was fasting and just like someone delirious in pain, I went on and on about how hungry I was and how the pain was racking my body. I was almost in tears. But then this women looked at me with so much love and compassion and said to me, “Compare the suffering”. It was like a bolt of lightning had struck and landed directly on my soul. What she was saying was to compare the suffering of Jesus with my own current situation. Well how was I supposed to do that? There is no comparison and her point was well received. I went to the bathroom and prayed for strength and thanked Jesus for His suffering for me. I then put mind over matter and went on with my meeting. An hour later, lunch was served and miraculously all the things I could eat, were served. My pain was still there, but I needed to put it into perspective. Pain is sometimes necessary. In Jesus case it was necessary and in our lives it can be a necessary benefit as well. This is how pain benefits me:

Pain lets me know I’m alive. We’ve all heard the saying “I pinched myself to see if this is real”. People say that because the pain from the pinch lets them know whatever it is, is real. So many of us go through life sleepwalking and acting like the walking dead. We are not living life, just going through it, numb to everything around us. But when you experience pain, it becomes a wake up call. Pain lets you know you are still here and have work to do.

Pain lets me know something is wrong. In general, pain is an indicator that something is amiss in the body and needs to be healed or corrected. Similarly, pain in my life lets me know I’m not sleeping enough, not eating properly or dealing with too much stress. It also tells me when my body has had its fill of activities and when it is time to rest. My body in the past would lie to me. I would be tired and stressed and it would keep going, acting as if everything was okay when it wasn’t. My pain is like the truth ringing in my ears, loudly, screaming….TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!

Pain helps me to be more compassionate. I have to admit, before my fibromyalgia diagnosis, I was hard on people who claimed limitations. If you were sick, get over it and come to work anyway. If you were going through a break up, cry for 2 days and get back on the wagon. When people claimed to be fatigued, I thought that just meant they were tired or sleepy. And hey, we can sleep when we are dead, right? Wrong! The first time I felt fatigue, which is commonplace these days, I thought I was dying a slow death. Tired is to someone pinching you as fatigue is to someone hitting you with a baseball bat. They are NOT the same. And everything people go through in life, whether pain in their body, hearts or minds should be handled with the utmost care. People in pain should be held with compassion, not pity, not disbelief and not business as usual, but compassion. God blessed me with a compassionate husband who along with my pain has taught me to extend grace, passion and love. I am thankful for my pain because It has made me a better person.

Finally, pain gives me purpose.God promises us Beauty for Ashes. This simply means that out of our pain, disappointments and brokenness, beauty will manifest itself. There is a purpose to everything….nothing God does is in vain. I… like Paul have asked God to take this thorn from me and He up to this point has said no. And because I trust God and refuse to lean on my own understanding, I know there is a purpose for my pain. Around the same time I was diagnosed with my incurable, life long pain, my grandson died. It was because of these instances that my purpose was born. I got serious about my life, I got engaged in life, I stopped playing church and lived for Christ. I sought my purpose and began living in it. Now pain moved in with my purpose and they will not be separated. And I’m okay with that as long as I am living a purposeful life. No one ever told us that finding our purpose would be a painless life. Just look at Mother Theresa, Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Pain followed them, it was part of their purpose. And part of my purpose is to help other Chronic pain sufferers know that they can still have purposeful and wonderful life.

Beauty for Ashes is what God promised me. So I can hold on. I can see the big picture. I can endure the pain. I understand its benefits. I thank the Lord for my pain. But its hard. It’s especially hard on days like today when I can barely type this blog, I’m fatigued, I’m experiencing brain fog and my body feels like its been hit by a Mack truck. However, I will overcome, because I have work to do. I have a purpose…..

Audaciously,

Natasha

Source: https://elevatesite.wordpress.com/2015/10/...

The Power Of Your Thoughts

Have you ever wondered how powerful your thoughts are? Do you know that what you think is what you make manifest in your life?

You may profess you seek for abundance but without having a thought process or mindset inline and aligned with abundance, it will be hard to achieve. Our thoughts are life and bring about the blessings we experience. The moment we align our thoughts to the words we speak as our minds process those, we walk in the realm of that which is spoken.

We may subconsciously think that some things are not attainable. The more we allow our thoughts to remain in that subconscious state; we will not be able to achieve those things. We are created to achieve the impossible and can truly make this happen by a making a shift in our mindset.

We were created with abundance from our inception and our conception. In this lies the power that allows us to fulfill every possibility. However, some tasks may seem daunting but are attainable, as long as we set our minds on endless possibilities. 

Choose to speak life to every situation you face. What you speak is what you make happen. What you make happen, is what you work at. What you work at, is what leads to your success. Without a shift in your mindset, there will be no shift. Start to make that shift and see things begin to manifest in abundance. Learn to tame your thoughts; do not let your thoughts tame you. There is power in your thoughts and it commands the words you utter. The more positive thoughts you have, the more positive things will manifest in your life. Shift your thoughts towards positivity. A positive mindset can only yield positive results.

Copyright © 2014 Kemi Sogunle - www.love-not-hurt.org

Kemi Sogunle is an author, writer, speaker, professional life and relationship coach.  She is also the Founder/CEO of the nonprofit organization (501c3), Love Not Hurt, an organization that promotes self-development, building healthier and stronger relationships while living with purpose.

Source: http://www.love-not-hurt.org