The Truth About Life Coaching: Skepticism & Optimism

I never questioned the validity of a Life Coach before I was called to become one. I knew what they did and had to offer but never thought in a million years that after I made it a priority to find my purpose that this would come knocking at my door. So when I get “perceived” negative feedback about it, admittedly, “I am shocked!”

The story goes…

“What’s the point of being a Life Coach when there are already counselors and therapists out there?”

My reply was…”I don’t know; ask Michael Jordan if a counselor would have been able to coach him into the stratosphere of his career. Ask Oprah what’s the purpose of partnering with Iyanla Vanzant, Brene Brown or Tony Robbins. Ask Celine Dion how she manages to sing the way she does night after night without consulting with a coach…”

The next statement was, “That’s different. They’re athletes and entertainers.”

My reply, “The only difference is it sounds like you’ve given them permission to be the best, do their best with the aide of many types of coaches and separated yourself from having the same opportunities.”

Followed by, “How the hell is a life coach going to help me though?”

My final reply was “A life coach is your personal champion and cheerleading squad. You all sit down and pick the plays and you get in the game and kick your life into capacity. Everyone is different and when you make a decision to optimize certain areas of your life, you select someone to assist you with that from personal trainers and wellness coaches to marriage counselors and coaches but we all have one thing in common-YOU! We care about you living your best life.”

Last reply was…”Never thought about it that way. Wow…!”


Ben Carter is a Life Transformation Coach and CEO of L.I.V.E, LLC (Leap Into Victory Every day).  He lives by the affirmation, “We can all transform our lives one decision at a time. “ Ben uses his life experience as the foundation of his coaching practice. He has a unique way of combining his secular professional career with his deeply spiritual intuition that makes his coaching sessions and speaking engagements “one of a kind.”

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It's Time To Get On With It.

It’s time. Now’s the time. Not tomorrow. Not next week. NOW. It’s February. The confetti has fallen. The dust has settled, and whatever goals or resolutions we've& made for the New Year – either we are pursuing them, or we’re NOT. So how’s it going for you? Are you excited about the direction 2014 is taking? Kudos to you if you are taking action to pursue your goals this year! 

But this message is to those of us who are NOT moving forward.

I hope it encourages you.

What’s going on in your life? Are you…

…overwhelmed? Are you too busy – pulled in too many directions to really focus on your future? It’s hard to move forward if you are stuck on the treadmill, feeling like you are going nowhere.

… in a rut? Do you have a case of the “why bother’s”?  Have you told yourself that things can’t change, so why waste the effort? Or worse – is someone else in your ear telling you that you won’t succeed?

… in pain? Are you recovering from a letdown or loss of some sort, and it’s stopping you from feeling the excitement and positive outlook you once held for life?

… scared? Fear is the #1 dream killer. We worry about making the right choice, about failing, about looking bad. What fears are keeping you from taking action?

Whatever is keeping you from moving forward, I encourage you to shake it off and find a way to take at least ONE STEP toward your ideal future.   

Here are a few tips: 

Too busy? It is absolutely essential for you to carve out some time for yourself.  Even if it’s 10 minutes of quiet during the day, or a 30 minute walk. If you are racing from one thing to the next, you don’t have time or energy to devote creating something new. Remember, before you're able to build something new, you must first create it in your mind. Try to find one hour for yourself THIS WEEK. Do something that’s important to YOU. Or spend time on something fun - like relaxing, listening to music, reading a book, or exercise. 

·         Feeling stuck? If you are lacking the motivation to move forward, it’s hard to make positive changes in your life. Try to build time into your schedule for things that you enjoy – that feed your spirit. Have fun. Relax more. Spend time with friends and family. Once your spirit is replenished you may be more energized and optimistic – and more capable to take on a new adventure.

·         Suffering?  Any loss is damaging to the spirit. It’s important to allow yourself to go through the grieving process, so that you can begin to heal and then move on to bigger and better things. The sun will shine again. Surround yourself with positive people to help you get through this period.

·         Afraid?  There is simply no way around the fact that in order to conquer your fears, you must face them head on. Arm yourself and just go for it. Answer this question: What’s the worst that could happen? Put on your big boy or girl pants and then GO FOR IT!

Here’s the bottom line:  life progresses minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.  We can move with it or we can stay where we are.  It’s tragic when people stay on auto-pilot, or live their lives governed by priorities other than their own, only to look up 5 or 10 years later, wondering where the time went.  LIVE WITH URGENCY.  For today is really all we have. Make the most of it! 


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, and founder of Perspectives Plus Coaching.  She encourages her clients to pursue career goals that are in line with their spirit – to push past fear and insecurities to make their dreams a reality. Visit her online at www.trinaramsey.com

Tune into Success ~ Tune into Resilience!

Have you ever had a friend or relative who, no matter how many times they fell down, scraped their knee or faced some unexpected hardship, they got back up again with a focused positive attitude.   You know, those people who after a long day they still have a great smile on their face, ready to take on any new challenge that comes their way!  They always seem to see the glass as half full.  When situations occur that get others mad or depressed, they’re energy is bubbly!  Amazing isn’t it?   What planet are they from anyway???

In the proverbial search for the meaning of life, the question is asked over and over again:  What is it that we all want out of life?  Some say it’s success, however if so many are struggling, just to get by, can we even tune into the thought?  “Do I believe I am capable”  Those voices are always standing by, ready to resolve to defeat.

Enter into the picture, a second person who’s extremely quiet and shy.  Someone with very little confidence and a very small circle of friends.  We observe this person socializes with comfort food as a crutch to drown his mood and goes through each day with little direction much less any focused energy on a target or long-term goals. 

Take a few minutes to conjure up in your mind, the image of these two very different people.  You probably know a number of people who fit into the positive achiever mode as well as people go through life with a down, why does this always happen to me, energy.  It’s always fascinating when you meet two people from the same family, who are total opposites. What’s the driving force that drives these two diverse personalities?

The studies of Bruce Lipton, PhD, in “biology of belief” and “the wisdom of our cells” enlighten us to the understanding of our conscious mind and the far more powerful sub-conscious mind which is runs our immune system, nervous system, respiratory, keeps our heart beating, and is the core to our belief system.  We can actually change our DNA with our thoughts.  Lipton’s studies show how our subconscious programming is all established in the first six years of our lives.  Every aspect of our environment establishes our core beliefs.  We grow up nourished, knowing we can do anything our mind sets out to do or we grow up skeptical, always the “devils advocate”.  Dr. Lipton would say this is the sub conscience tuning into all possibilities.  If we weren’t so fortunate to grow up surrounded with a loving energy with support and positive feedback, we can work on re-programming our internal tape to see if we can overcome feelings of self doubt.

A women looses her mother in her teenage years, she is lost, rebelling, and it appears no one seems to understand her.  She is sent away to college to find herself, maybe meet new friends.  With a depressed nature she succumbs to peer pressure, and spirals into a drug addiction.   Was there a resilient foundation in place before her mothers death?

Another women discovers she has cancer, she is told it is a very aggressive cancer and she will have to fight hard for her life.  Without skipping a beat she takes control with ease and a beautiful smile.  It is tiring at times but her friends, (her support system) are by her side.  She discovers she is stronger then she knew herself to be.  She lives.

Two friends are chatting about their diets.  The first one says, “I wish someday I could be healthy and feel great.”  The second one says, “I intend to be healthy and feel great.”

Which one do you think is going to get healthy and feel great?  Yep ~ the one who intends it. 

Can we all have support, positive intentions and beliefs?

Yes we can.  Two keys to intention in business and health is support and action – Taking action no matter who stands in your way, negative nelly or those voices in your head. 

Did you know that you can even set an intention to have a great day?

Rather than diving into your morning and hoping you’ll achieve your day’s big goal, why not take a moment and tune yourself up for success?  You can Have a Great Day… Every Day!

You can start with healthy food choices such as a variety of organic fruits, nuts and veggies.  One can’t have a healthy “in tune brain” without a “healthy gut”.  Can you tune into your gut feelings?

  • Think about your desired outcome. Take a deep breath and visualize yourself succeeding.
  • Replay your success several times in your mind.
  • Next, add other senses, including sounds, smells, taste and touch. All these affect our inner energy. For instance, if you listen to crap radio, that sound can interfere with intention and focus.
  • As you replay your success tape, you now also hear the director offering you the gig, or you feel the physical sensation of your finger hitting the “send” button on your latest assignment.
  • Lastly, replay the scene again, adding emotions.  Feel your elation at getting to your desired weight or your pride at finally finishing your project.

So how can you build your intention muscle? 

  1. Get clear on what you want, what you believe in and what you desire.
  2. Resolve- to find an answer or solution to the roadblocks of your life.
  3. Do something to make your desire happen.
  4. Do you intend to lose weight, eat healthy, and feel fantastic?  Make a plan to tune into success, resilience and health by getting the support you need!
  5. Remember to Nourish-because nourishing thoughts, foods and behavior makes that spoon full of medicine go down much easier. Having a nourishing lifestyle means you can make the choice to have a solid belief system, lean toward a healthy glow, feed your body with organic foods, share a genuine smile, attain peace and serenity.

Along our journey, there will be challenges as the road is never perfect.  The strength and resolve of our belief system, anchored in a total commitment to do what ever it takes, is the difference between reaching our intended goal, or giving up.  What is your intention today?

Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Health Coach. She supports her clients on their way to true health. Make a plan to tune into success at www.bitesizepieces.net

For more tips on how to use resilience to tune in to success, please join co-hosts Connie Rogers, (www.bitesizepieces.net), Filomena A. Iorio-Tasoluk (www.bounce-life.com), and Veronica Taylor (www.lifeleaderscoaching.com) on Monday, February 3, 2014 at 7pm/est on Life Coach Radio Network:  HOW RESILIENCE CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS!