Affirmation Of The Day: “Treatment is happening on all levels, and my future is benefiting now!”

I found this affirmation and thought it was appropriate to share what came up for me around it. For most of my young adult life I thought I wasn’t good enough. Then I started to dig deep to find the answers why because I didn’t want to live in that space anymore. With the help of others and life experiences, I relearned that I was in fact good enough and my confidence started to build, even though I had always excelled at everything I did. However, now things were different, I felt I had a purpose in my life. I continued to work to bring my inner child to the surface and then another life event happened. My mother, my best friend, was diagnosed with late stage ovarian cancer. I did all I could to support her, going to doctors’ appointments with her, doing research on clinical trials at medical libraries in Manhattan in an effort to save her life when the statistics read differently for her disease. I was the buffer between her doctors receiving news that I didn’t want to fall on her ears. It just wasn’t necessary. I wanted her to live the time she had left in the moment and with dignity. At the end my sister and I decided to take her home to hospice to live her last days in the comfort of her home and after 2 days the way she passed will be forever etched in our minds. It was painful, yet beautiful at the same time.

So this is where I started to fully step into my passion. I started fundraising for women’s cancers and became quite successful at it. For me the greatest gift was touching others’ lives and creating connections that might not have been made if I hadn’t had the life experience that put me in this arena. I did this for years and then one day I thought I would stop since I figured I had done all I could in raising dollars for research and support of women’s cancers.

Shortly after, my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer and I knew I couldn’t stop. A year later my own breast cancer diagnosis came all of the experiences that I had gone through with my mom, sister and myself lead me to becoming a life coach with a niche in working with women facing a cancer diagnosis and undergoing treatment.

Throughout my training and even in building my business I felt the old voices of “I’m not good enough” coming back and at times I wanted to give all of it up and throw the baby out with the bathwater. I internalized things and thought to myself: “I’m not good enough because if I managed my cancer journey so well, how could I think of serving others when I had not experienced some of the parts of their journey they had?” I was comparing myself to others and this was a huge mistake. I knew in my heart because of all I had been through I could inspire others. That had been my passion since I was a child.

It was at that time, and because of the benefit of my life experiences, coach training and the supportive individuals in my circle that I looked back at all of the events of my life and how I had inspired others with my strength. And that is where I came to the place where I fully realized that my life purpose was inspiring others as a survivorship coach and empowering women to get through fearful and overwhelming events of their lives and to educate and give them the tools to get rid of all of the “I’m not good enough” that resides in them so that they could rebuild their lives and create new beginnings during treatment and after cancer.

Clearly this has been a process for me over many years and I think I was finally able get to the place where I realized my purpose of inspiring others via the help of a friend and fellow coach. Knowing her and seeing all of the challenges she has gone through, far more than mine, and seeing her take one each punch, each step at a time with the will and determination and unstoppable attitude and knowing I could be by her side to love, inspire her and make her smile even brighter helped me seal the deal.

The win, win of this later experience has been that even in the face of her own adversity, she has managed to love, inspire and make me smile. We have been mirrors for each other and inspiring each other in ways we never imagined. We are 2 amazing coaches with the ability to inspire others in their journey like no others!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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Cancer, It’s A Marathon, Not A Sprint!

When surgeries and treatment are over it’s time to embark on new territory. Adjusting to life after treatment can be challenging. Treatments and doctor visits stop and in some cases survivors can feel very alone and isolated. You can be left with the feeling of: “What direction do I go in now? I feel so lost!” These feelings and emotions that come up at this stage of the journey are completely valid and normal for what you are going through. Don’t forget, for the last year to two years you have probably been using all of the energy that you have to get from point “A” to “B” and all of your doctors, nurses and other caregivers have become your family over the months and years of treatment. So when the routine ends, of course you are left feeling a little bewildered as to where to turn next.

During this time, your relationships may have also changed along with other changes like career adjustments, eating and exercise habits. You may also be feeling fatigue as a result of anesthesia’s, chemotherapy or hormone therapies. Your energy and engagement definitely feel different as well.

Although this can feel like a downer to most survivors in that moment of discovery, the good news is that we all have choices and there are so many options open to us. Consider this a time for recreating your life and your perspective of how you view your life and how you want to live it moving forward. It is really all an education and growth process. Some of the choices that we can make from the “get go” are letting go of how you “used to do things”, e.g., constantly picking up around the house and making sure laundry is folded immediately and that the house is pristine or whatever your “used to be” modus of operation was. This is the time to learn to let go of the little things take the time to focus on what matters, mainly healing and living! Learn to ask for help, delegate to others and most of all exercise self-care! One of the best ways, aside of physical activity, to decrease fatigue is to decrease stress levels and this may mean doing less, or doing things differently and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It can open you up to so much more of what you really want to do. You might also want to give yourself permission to take a break or nap or simply take some “alone” time for yourself to reflect on what is next for you.

I encourage my clients to take a look back and embrace how far they have come, then to look at their old way of doing things to see if those old thoughts and behaviors still serve them. In many cases, your eyes can be opened to a whole new way of living and you might even be wondering why you hadn’t made these choices in the past. The answer to that question really doesn’t matter, what matters is that you realize that you have these choices in the now are you are ready to start acting upon them.

Again, it’s a marathon, not a sprint, and the process can be an enlightening one! If you need support along the way, contact me!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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New Beginnings After Breast Cancer - A Survivor's Story

So much comes up when we receive our initial cancer diagnosis. I remember receiving mine and I immediately reframed it to taking cancer out of the equation. I told my husband right there in the moment: “this isn’t cancer, this is the boob job I always wanted.” And yes, the tears definitely fell from my eyes throughout the experience, but I kept an Rx of humor in my back pocket along with many other coping skills I had collected over the years.

For me personally, I was able to embrace a positive mindset immediately because of the lengthy and rocky relationship I had with cancer. I was caregiver to my mother who died of complications of being treated with chemo for her stage 4 ovarian cancer in 2001. She passed away and 3 days later I gave birth to my first born. To say the least, this was a very dark period for me but when I came out of it I vowed to turn all of my negative life events into positive ones. This was a conscious choice that I made on how I wanted to live my life moving forward. It helped me shed so much of the negativity that surrounded me as a child. It further lead me to being very proactive in my own health, pursuing genetic testing and becoming a top individual fundraiser for women’s cancers for an organization based in NYC and LA. Then I had the experience of my sister being diagnosed with breast cancer and a year later I received the same diagnosis.

I had a lot of tools to get me through my diagnosis and treatment. However, I still went through the entire process. Initially, I had feelings of being overwhelmed and anxious, followed by doubt and a little depression which ultimately lead me to acceptance. I had doubts on what my life would look like “after cancer” and how people would receive me. Getting through and to all of these emotions is key to getting to a place of peace and acceptance. When you get to that point you are fully able to accept what has been placed on your doorstep so that you can put your efforts into working on what you can control in your life and letting go of what you can’t. What you can do is take control of your health and your life from this point on.

Giving up control of “doing it all” for the sake of others and getting support is also critical, followed by self-care. There is no other way to fully heal unless you learn to go down this path. So many of my clients have trouble giving up the old mindset of: “If I don’t do it myself, it won’t get done” or finally coming to the place where they realize everything they have done up until this point in their lives has been to please others and they rarely do anything for themselves first. They get to a place where they realize that it is “OK” to allow them to receive!

You see, with a cancer diagnosis, not only do thoughts and emotions come up around a diagnosis and treatment, they also come up about who you are at your core. I am not one to minimize the impact of a cancer diagnosis (I saw my mother through her last days in hospice, they are forever etched in my mind and I have had my own physical and emotional journey with breast cancer) but I try to help my clients come to a place where they can see the opportunity to create awareness of who they are,  how they are living and how they can use this life altering experiencing to reassess their lives to reduce stress which feeds not only physical healing but in the mind as well and making choices to pursue the life you have always wanted to live. This can include looking at yourself and why you act as you do on a deeper level, looking at your relationships to see which serve you and those that do not, looking at the patterns in your lifestyle that have kept you on the same page and left you wondering why you are still there and so much more. When you go to your core to find out who you really are vs. who you think you should be, magical things can happen.

The next step is taking action and making choices to change your life. The choice is yours!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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