Beauty For Ashes - Living with Pain

About two years ago, my husband and I decided to do a 7 day fast. I had not done a fast in several years due to being diagnosed as Pre-Diabetic, having Fibromyalgia Syndrome and High Blood Pressure. I typically wouldn’t alter anything from the routine of food I consumed because any little imbalance could result in weeks of unrelenting pain. I chose not to take all of the pain meds prescribed by my doctors because I believe they just mask the pain, cause dependency and decrease the quality of life. Some people believe differently, however this is my choice. I choose to endure the pain, press through, lean into it, so I can lead a somewhat normal life. So as you can imagine a 7 day fast could have grave implications on my well-being, not to mention I had to go to the corporate headquarters to sit in meetings for 4 days. Well I was on day 3 and I had a headache that was unbearable!!! I felt like I was going to pass out. Then a co- worker noticed I was not myself and asked me what was wrong. I broke down and told her I was fasting and just like someone delirious in pain, I went on and on about how hungry I was and how the pain was racking my body. I was almost in tears. But then this women looked at me with so much love and compassion and said to me, “Compare the suffering”. It was like a bolt of lightning had struck and landed directly on my soul. What she was saying was to compare the suffering of Jesus with my own current situation. Well how was I supposed to do that? There is no comparison and her point was well received. I went to the bathroom and prayed for strength and thanked Jesus for His suffering for me. I then put mind over matter and went on with my meeting. An hour later, lunch was served and miraculously all the things I could eat, were served. My pain was still there, but I needed to put it into perspective. Pain is sometimes necessary. In Jesus case it was necessary and in our lives it can be a necessary benefit as well. This is how pain benefits me:

Pain lets me know I’m alive. We’ve all heard the saying “I pinched myself to see if this is real”. People say that because the pain from the pinch lets them know whatever it is, is real. So many of us go through life sleepwalking and acting like the walking dead. We are not living life, just going through it, numb to everything around us. But when you experience pain, it becomes a wake up call. Pain lets you know you are still here and have work to do.

Pain lets me know something is wrong. In general, pain is an indicator that something is amiss in the body and needs to be healed or corrected. Similarly, pain in my life lets me know I’m not sleeping enough, not eating properly or dealing with too much stress. It also tells me when my body has had its fill of activities and when it is time to rest. My body in the past would lie to me. I would be tired and stressed and it would keep going, acting as if everything was okay when it wasn’t. My pain is like the truth ringing in my ears, loudly, screaming….TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!

Pain helps me to be more compassionate. I have to admit, before my fibromyalgia diagnosis, I was hard on people who claimed limitations. If you were sick, get over it and come to work anyway. If you were going through a break up, cry for 2 days and get back on the wagon. When people claimed to be fatigued, I thought that just meant they were tired or sleepy. And hey, we can sleep when we are dead, right? Wrong! The first time I felt fatigue, which is commonplace these days, I thought I was dying a slow death. Tired is to someone pinching you as fatigue is to someone hitting you with a baseball bat. They are NOT the same. And everything people go through in life, whether pain in their body, hearts or minds should be handled with the utmost care. People in pain should be held with compassion, not pity, not disbelief and not business as usual, but compassion. God blessed me with a compassionate husband who along with my pain has taught me to extend grace, passion and love. I am thankful for my pain because It has made me a better person.

Finally, pain gives me purpose.God promises us Beauty for Ashes. This simply means that out of our pain, disappointments and brokenness, beauty will manifest itself. There is a purpose to everything….nothing God does is in vain. I… like Paul have asked God to take this thorn from me and He up to this point has said no. And because I trust God and refuse to lean on my own understanding, I know there is a purpose for my pain. Around the same time I was diagnosed with my incurable, life long pain, my grandson died. It was because of these instances that my purpose was born. I got serious about my life, I got engaged in life, I stopped playing church and lived for Christ. I sought my purpose and began living in it. Now pain moved in with my purpose and they will not be separated. And I’m okay with that as long as I am living a purposeful life. No one ever told us that finding our purpose would be a painless life. Just look at Mother Theresa, Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Pain followed them, it was part of their purpose. And part of my purpose is to help other Chronic pain sufferers know that they can still have purposeful and wonderful life.

Beauty for Ashes is what God promised me. So I can hold on. I can see the big picture. I can endure the pain. I understand its benefits. I thank the Lord for my pain. But its hard. It’s especially hard on days like today when I can barely type this blog, I’m fatigued, I’m experiencing brain fog and my body feels like its been hit by a Mack truck. However, I will overcome, because I have work to do. I have a purpose…..

Audaciously,

Natasha

Source: https://elevatesite.wordpress.com/2015/10/...

The Power Of Your Thoughts

Have you ever wondered how powerful your thoughts are? Do you know that what you think is what you make manifest in your life?

You may profess you seek for abundance but without having a thought process or mindset inline and aligned with abundance, it will be hard to achieve. Our thoughts are life and bring about the blessings we experience. The moment we align our thoughts to the words we speak as our minds process those, we walk in the realm of that which is spoken.

We may subconsciously think that some things are not attainable. The more we allow our thoughts to remain in that subconscious state; we will not be able to achieve those things. We are created to achieve the impossible and can truly make this happen by a making a shift in our mindset.

We were created with abundance from our inception and our conception. In this lies the power that allows us to fulfill every possibility. However, some tasks may seem daunting but are attainable, as long as we set our minds on endless possibilities. 

Choose to speak life to every situation you face. What you speak is what you make happen. What you make happen, is what you work at. What you work at, is what leads to your success. Without a shift in your mindset, there will be no shift. Start to make that shift and see things begin to manifest in abundance. Learn to tame your thoughts; do not let your thoughts tame you. There is power in your thoughts and it commands the words you utter. The more positive thoughts you have, the more positive things will manifest in your life. Shift your thoughts towards positivity. A positive mindset can only yield positive results.

Copyright © 2014 Kemi Sogunle - www.love-not-hurt.org

Kemi Sogunle is an author, writer, speaker, professional life and relationship coach.  She is also the Founder/CEO of the nonprofit organization (501c3), Love Not Hurt, an organization that promotes self-development, building healthier and stronger relationships while living with purpose.

Source: http://www.love-not-hurt.org

NIETZSCHE'S ETERNAL RETURN

Asked about Nietzsche’s eternal return.

Living the same life every day, doing the same things every day for eternity.

I was asked if I could survive that.  

I asked in return, "Do you mean, by this question, the same acts each getting out bed, getting dressed, going to work, eating, walking, interacting?  Or, do you mean how I do these things, how I approach life?

That each day I awaken to a new day, with the light in a slightly different place, see the beauty of the natural world, breathe & approach with wonder.

What will I see today,  how will it be, how will I react?

What clouds, rainbows, shadows of sun will light the mountains?

What venue will I find to allow myself to flow?

What emotional dramas will I create to entertain us?

What suffering will I experience?

How will I heed the song of my heart? What will it sing?

The second I could do for eternity."

Source: www.nikaannon.com

Going Above & Beyond: The Many Benefits Of Coaching

A few years ago, I read a biography of Bruce Lee that included a section describing how he experienced a series of recurring nightmares. 

These led to a growing sense of fear and unease during his waking hours, and he lost confidence in various areas of his life. It’s fairly obvious why confidence is important to a kung fu master and international film star; the negative effects of his anxiety took a toll on him professionally.

Eventually, after much soul searching, Lee recognized the root of his fear, then set it aside and moved forward. His career flourished, and today his name is known by just about everyone. Although most of us are not martial arts heroes on the silver screen, each of us can imagine what Lee’s experience was like. 

We’ve all had the sense of being held back, of being unable to move past some hidden blockage and onward toward a better future. To a lesser or greater extent, each of us has our own monster holding us back, and that’s where coaching can help. Sometimes, we need someone else to step in and help us slay the beast.

What Can We Gain from a Life Coach?

People often hold misconceptions about coaching. Many confuse coaching with counseling and mentoring, but a coach doesn’t provide advice or work with a client over a long period of time. Instead, a coach’s goal is to empower his clients so they can act on their desires and work toward goals. Generally, this is achieved over a short series of sessions.

Coaching doesn’t involve going into an office and lying down on the couch (as is the case with therapy).

Many coaches never even meet their clients. Skype has made it possible to connect coaches with clients all over the world, allowing clients to conveniently experience highly meaningful and successful sessions. Because of this, virtually anyone can benefit from coaching — even people who consider themselves happy and successful. 

Who Can Benefit from Coaching?

The majority of people who seek coaching suffer from a lack of confidence. People of all ages — from teenagers to retirees — find themselves restricted by fears of what they can actually accomplish. It sounds strange, but many people find it difficult to cope with the idea of success.

People often react to barriers they built early in their lives, usually before the age of 12. At some point, they developed a sense of their own incapability. These barriers can be self-imposed or constructed by social pressures. Although the high-water mark varies from person to person, almost everyone has an internal concept of his own limitations. Once a person approaches this supposed limitation, he says, “I can’t.”

Many people know they have a desire (for a promotion, for social recognition, or whatever else), but they fear what will happen once that desire is attained. Will they be able to handle it? Will they be capable of fulfilling the function? When it comes right down to it, these people are battling with two internal voices: one saying “I can” and the other saying “I can’t” or “I never will.”

Just about everyone can benefit from coaching, but people in the following situations will undoubtedly profit from the experience: 

  • People experiencing transition: A coach is useful when changing jobs, relocating, having a baby, retiring, divorcing, or during any other time when it’s important to assess your situation and develop strategies to move forward positively.
  • People who feel they have come to a crossroads: Coaching provides help when determining your values and goals in a way that will set you down the best path possible.
  • People who feel “stuck”: Coaching provides a means of analyzing and surpassing barriers.
  • People with unrealized dreams: A coach can help develop strategies for bringing goals and dreams to fruition.
  • People who are happy and successful: Even successful people have barriers. Breaking them down only leads to further prosperity.

Research Proves the Benefits of Coaching

recent survey performed by the UK’s The Work Foundation, a research and management consultancy, found that the effects of coaching are quantifiable, and their findings attest to the benefits of engaging a coach.

  • 84 percent reported improvement in their ability to work toward goals.
  • 60 percent reported a heightened openness to personal development and learning.
  • 58 percent reported a better ability to identify solutions to work-related issues.
  • 52 percent reported an increase in responsibility.
  • 42 percent reported a higher sense of self-awareness.

The same report also found a wide variety of benefits for organizations that provide coaching to employees, such as an outstanding increase in each employee’s utilization of his talents, a general increase in organizational performance, a more motivated staff, better relationships between different departments, and an increased willingness to adopt a new management style.

Simply put, coaching provides the boost necessary to push a person far beyond the limits of what he thinks he is capable of. This brings about a positive result for individuals, the organizations for which they work, and society as a whole.

A key aspect of daily life involves overcoming challenges and pushing past barriers. That’s how life is for almost all of us. We all spend our lives in the pursuit of success, whether it’s small or large, physical or intangible. In order to achieve these goals, it may be helpful to have someone remind you to listen to the inner voice that says “I can.” Sometimes, it takes a little bit of coaching to get there.


For more than 30 years, Rod Beau has been an internationally sought-after education and management consultant and keynote speaker. His practical, real-world business experience and career have been in educational leadership, relocation consulting and executive and leadership coaching. As a Senior Consultant and Master Executive Coach, Rod is also an Accredited ANLP Trainer - specializing in Executive and Leadership Coaching. To learn more about Rod Beau, please visit www.sherpanlp.com

 

THE MOST EXCITING TICKET IN TOWN

Q: What was the most exciting ticket in town this past weekend?

A: Well, it depends on what you’re into, but for me, it was the Inaugural Life Coach Radio Network Workshop Weekend!

I’m part of this amazing network of coaches from around the country, and we’re on the radio several times a month; however, this was our first live event and it was a great success. Here are some of my takeaways. My hope is that you will be inspired in some aspect of your life by some of these really amazing coaches!

·         Mindful Eating: I was able to apply lessons from this talk right away, especially because it took place right before lunch! If you know me, you know I love me some Japanese ramen. Well, I went to my fave place for lunch and practiced the mindful eating techniques Danielle Mercurio provided during her workshop. I left feeling satisfied, yet not full and was able to return to the event fully charged, but not lethargic.

·         Spirituality: This is an area I’m constantly looking to work on. Jennifer Kottler provided a fresh new perspective – a different way to look at spirituality that I can incorporate into my daily practice. Her use of analogies and phrases made it very simple for a novice spiritual-ite to engage.

·         Resilience: Man, this is one of my favorite topics. Developing resilience serves us in so many aspects of life- work, diet/exercise, personal relationships and hell- even the NYC Subway system! When I was promoted a few years back in my conference life, I had an executive coach who focused on resilience with me, and these lessons have served me well. Filomena Iorio-Tasoluk and Veronica Taylor really broke down the top 10 characteristics to grow and build upon to develop this important muscle. They’re turning it into an online workshop soon, too!

·         Defining Your Life, Your Way: This was my workshop and it’s a topic area I’m super passionate about. We talked about defining what matters to you- not what matters to others- and the next step is to put what matters to you into a WIP “Life Plan” so to speak that can be changed as you go and grow.

·         Going With The Flow: We had our first live studio audience for an actual LIVE radio show on this very topic! Coaches Andrea Ruchelman, Tim Billiter and Russ Terry talked about how to get into the right mindset to be able to do this naturally and easily. This TOTALLY came in handy during snarled traffic and commutes due to freezing train lines this week!

·         Clearing Clutter: Danielle Mund shared her theory on “Your ONE thing,” where she laid out what multitasking actually does to our brains and why focusing on Your ONE thing will help you actually achieve results. She talked about how you can define your one thing to move forward. This was REALLY helpful to me, because in addition to my growing coaching business, I do event work so I am constantly mutli-tasking. This helped me understand how to cultivate my ONE thing while still being practical.

·         Networking With Linked In: Russ Terry brought the workshop weekend HOME, yo! He closed the weekend on an equally strong note to the rest of the amazing workshops with a really practical, hands on approach to using Linked In to find business opportunities and the job of your dreams. I was able to use my computer in real time to update my profile and make it stronger.

Unfortunately, I was unable to clone myself and attend all the various workshops going on at once.  There were opportunities to hear from Divorce Coach Martin Salama, Life Purpose Coach Annette Johnson, Clutter Coach Tracy Pierce, Leadership Coach Barbara Hetzel, Purpose and Transitions Coach Mandy Roczniak and Corporate Coach Shannon Sennefelder.

If you’re looking for some guidance on any of these areas of your life, definitely contact them or me and be sure to listen in on our upcoming shows!


Jill Ozovek is a personal development coach who works with 30-something women (and others!) with demanding careers and busy lives get real with themselves and figure out how to take the next big step in their lives, whether it be a career change, personal development goal or relationship challenge. To learn more, visit www.jillozovek.com

Tune into Success ~ Tune into Resilience!

Have you ever had a friend or relative who, no matter how many times they fell down, scraped their knee or faced some unexpected hardship, they got back up again with a focused positive attitude.   You know, those people who after a long day they still have a great smile on their face, ready to take on any new challenge that comes their way!  They always seem to see the glass as half full.  When situations occur that get others mad or depressed, they’re energy is bubbly!  Amazing isn’t it?   What planet are they from anyway???

In the proverbial search for the meaning of life, the question is asked over and over again:  What is it that we all want out of life?  Some say it’s success, however if so many are struggling, just to get by, can we even tune into the thought?  “Do I believe I am capable”  Those voices are always standing by, ready to resolve to defeat.

Enter into the picture, a second person who’s extremely quiet and shy.  Someone with very little confidence and a very small circle of friends.  We observe this person socializes with comfort food as a crutch to drown his mood and goes through each day with little direction much less any focused energy on a target or long-term goals. 

Take a few minutes to conjure up in your mind, the image of these two very different people.  You probably know a number of people who fit into the positive achiever mode as well as people go through life with a down, why does this always happen to me, energy.  It’s always fascinating when you meet two people from the same family, who are total opposites. What’s the driving force that drives these two diverse personalities?

The studies of Bruce Lipton, PhD, in “biology of belief” and “the wisdom of our cells” enlighten us to the understanding of our conscious mind and the far more powerful sub-conscious mind which is runs our immune system, nervous system, respiratory, keeps our heart beating, and is the core to our belief system.  We can actually change our DNA with our thoughts.  Lipton’s studies show how our subconscious programming is all established in the first six years of our lives.  Every aspect of our environment establishes our core beliefs.  We grow up nourished, knowing we can do anything our mind sets out to do or we grow up skeptical, always the “devils advocate”.  Dr. Lipton would say this is the sub conscience tuning into all possibilities.  If we weren’t so fortunate to grow up surrounded with a loving energy with support and positive feedback, we can work on re-programming our internal tape to see if we can overcome feelings of self doubt.

A women looses her mother in her teenage years, she is lost, rebelling, and it appears no one seems to understand her.  She is sent away to college to find herself, maybe meet new friends.  With a depressed nature she succumbs to peer pressure, and spirals into a drug addiction.   Was there a resilient foundation in place before her mothers death?

Another women discovers she has cancer, she is told it is a very aggressive cancer and she will have to fight hard for her life.  Without skipping a beat she takes control with ease and a beautiful smile.  It is tiring at times but her friends, (her support system) are by her side.  She discovers she is stronger then she knew herself to be.  She lives.

Two friends are chatting about their diets.  The first one says, “I wish someday I could be healthy and feel great.”  The second one says, “I intend to be healthy and feel great.”

Which one do you think is going to get healthy and feel great?  Yep ~ the one who intends it. 

Can we all have support, positive intentions and beliefs?

Yes we can.  Two keys to intention in business and health is support and action – Taking action no matter who stands in your way, negative nelly or those voices in your head. 

Did you know that you can even set an intention to have a great day?

Rather than diving into your morning and hoping you’ll achieve your day’s big goal, why not take a moment and tune yourself up for success?  You can Have a Great Day… Every Day!

You can start with healthy food choices such as a variety of organic fruits, nuts and veggies.  One can’t have a healthy “in tune brain” without a “healthy gut”.  Can you tune into your gut feelings?

  • Think about your desired outcome. Take a deep breath and visualize yourself succeeding.
  • Replay your success several times in your mind.
  • Next, add other senses, including sounds, smells, taste and touch. All these affect our inner energy. For instance, if you listen to crap radio, that sound can interfere with intention and focus.
  • As you replay your success tape, you now also hear the director offering you the gig, or you feel the physical sensation of your finger hitting the “send” button on your latest assignment.
  • Lastly, replay the scene again, adding emotions.  Feel your elation at getting to your desired weight or your pride at finally finishing your project.

So how can you build your intention muscle? 

  1. Get clear on what you want, what you believe in and what you desire.
  2. Resolve- to find an answer or solution to the roadblocks of your life.
  3. Do something to make your desire happen.
  4. Do you intend to lose weight, eat healthy, and feel fantastic?  Make a plan to tune into success, resilience and health by getting the support you need!
  5. Remember to Nourish-because nourishing thoughts, foods and behavior makes that spoon full of medicine go down much easier. Having a nourishing lifestyle means you can make the choice to have a solid belief system, lean toward a healthy glow, feed your body with organic foods, share a genuine smile, attain peace and serenity.

Along our journey, there will be challenges as the road is never perfect.  The strength and resolve of our belief system, anchored in a total commitment to do what ever it takes, is the difference between reaching our intended goal, or giving up.  What is your intention today?

Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Health Coach. She supports her clients on their way to true health. Make a plan to tune into success at www.bitesizepieces.net

For more tips on how to use resilience to tune in to success, please join co-hosts Connie Rogers, (www.bitesizepieces.net), Filomena A. Iorio-Tasoluk (www.bounce-life.com), and Veronica Taylor (www.lifeleaderscoaching.com) on Monday, February 3, 2014 at 7pm/est on Life Coach Radio Network:  HOW RESILIENCE CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS!

 

The Top 5 Principles Of The Living

I recently did a radio show (LIFE COACH CHAT) on Bronnie Ware’s blog post, “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying”.  Bronnie wrote about her experience as a palliative caretaker, she took care of those who went home to die.  She valiantly spent the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives with them.  During those weeks she witnessed her patient’s experience denial, fear, anger, remorse, and more denial and eventually acceptance.

There is where she began to question her patient’s about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are her most common five:

As I read through the top 5 regrets, all I could think about is how can those who still have a chance to shift their lives use these pearls of wisdom to their advantage? So, I decided to shift the conversation to a proactive approach; one that can help others live a life with less regret. So, I decided to turn Bronnie’s Five Regrets of the Dying into Five Principles of the Living. Here are the five principles and how to overcome your potential energy blocks:

1.  You can choose courage or comfort but you can’t have both.

“Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyway” – Robert Anthony

Courage starts with self-approval.  If you approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you love.  However, if you lack self-acceptance then you lead of life fueled by inner resistance.  We are all artists in our own way; we have a purposeful offering we are destined to share with the world. Ask yourself what is really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.

Energy Block: Be aware of resistance, it transforms into fear, self-doubt, and procrastination.  Resistance is what’s keeping you small.

2. Laugh like you’re ten, dance like you’re twenty.

“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”

There’s always a time and a place for seriousness but having too of a serious mindset isn’t that great all the time.  It can create negative feelings; which in turn can create negative situations.  Play, it’s not just for kids, as adults we exchange play for work and responsibilities.  By giving ourselves permission to play with the joyful abandon of childhood, we connect with others by sharing joy, laughter, and fun.  We develop empathy, compassion, and trust.  It’s also the antidote to loneliness, isolation, anxiety, and depression.

Energy Block: Assumptions can create unrealistic expectations of who we are or should be.

3. Freedom is the door and vulnerability is the key.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change”. – Brené Brown

Vulnerability is where your authenticity resides.  Make peace with all of your human emotions, yes, including the ones you’re most like to suppress, anger, rage, disappointment, and grief.  You cannot numb what you don’t want to feel and not numb what makes us wholehearted. Vulnerability is a skill; it takes time to develop it.  The more you do it, the better you’ll get.

Energy Block: Let go of the negative limiting beliefs about yourself, life, and the world that are limiting you.

4. Build your Tribe.

“We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community.” Dorothy Day

There is nothing more important than building a community that is supportive and loyal.  None of us can do anything alone; we must embrace help and do it fearlessly.  Don’t be afraid of creating ‘tribes’ that support you in your life’s mission.  Find those individuals who have commonalities and are already reaping their fruits of their labor.  Those are individuals who will guide, support, and encourage you to grow in the direction you aspire to.

Energy Block: Eliminate the interpretations that you’ve made up about events, situations, and people.

5.  Your goal is happiness your strategy is contentment.

“Contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Therefore, acquire contentment”. Anonymous

Today, the media bombards us, selling us on being “Happy”.  Let’s be clear, happiness is an emotion that comes and goes.  On the other hand, contentment is sustainable from day-to-day and moment-to-moment.  It is an inner-feeling of satisfaction that isn’t dependent on external factors.

Energy Block: Let go of your inner-critic, the voice that tells you, in one way or another, that you’re not good enough.

The average person has a “time bank” of 28,000 days in a lifetime.  If you’re 25, you have about 18,000 days to live.  If you’re 50, you have about 9,000 days left to live.  If you’re 65, you have about 3,000 days left to live.  This is your journey, how do you plan to live the rest of your days?

 

Veronica Taylor, CPC, Leadership Coach

Veronica Taylor, CPC, Leadership Coach

Veronica is a certified leadership coach (CPC), a Master Practitioner in the Energy Leadership Index (ELI-MP), radio show host and writer from San Francisco who works passionately and wholeheartedly with women in their 20s and 30s who are in search of greater meaning and fulfillment in their lives.  For more information, please visit Veronica’s official website at www.lifeleaderscoaching.com.

What is Happiness? A Q&A with Russ Terry, Life Coach

Are you happy? It’s a simple question with a not-so-simple answer for every person. While most of us seek to be happy, what defines individual happiness may differ for each person and may depend in some ways on where we are in our lives. Someone can be happy after landing a new job or the birth of a baby, but can one achieve true and lasting happiness? I caught up with certified life coach and fellow (Syracuse University) alum, Russ Terry and asked him if it’s possible to be truly happy.

ECC: Can you briefly describe what a life coach does for those unfamiliar with the profession?

RT: A Life Coach helps people get from functional to optimal or ordinary to extraordinary.  We build confidence, break down fears, ask empowering and open-ended questions and work with people to come up with a plan for what they want to accomplish – and when.  That last part is just as important as the ‘what’.

ECC: As you know “happiness” can be defined in so many different ways and is up to each person to define it for his/herself. What is your personal (or professional) definition of happiness and do you believe it is possible to achieve?

RT: Happiness is not only possible but dare I say guaranteed.  If you decide to be happy, you will be.  Life may not always go as we plan it or would like it to, but we can choose how we respond to it.  In other words, we can dwell on the bad things that do happen or the good things that don’t, or we can instead just enjoy all the great things that do happen.  That’s what I do.  I’m grateful for all that’s wonderful in my life.  So much so that I’m writing a book called “My Gratitude Journal:  365 days of the people & things I’m grateful for and the lessons you can learn from them”.  It will be out in early 2014.

ECC: Do you believe you can achieve happiness if you don’t follow your dreams?

RT: That’s a good question.  Certainly following your dreams makes one much more likely to be happy.  However, for some people, stability is one of their core values.  They are the most happy when they’re safe, financially secure, etc.  For them, the risk of going for their dreams could very well be so stressful that it would cause them to be unhappy.

That said, I think most of us will achieve the most happiness by following our dreams.  One of the coolest parts about doing that is we can achieve higher levels of happiness and joy than we ever thought possible.  I’ve experienced this and it’s incredibly amazing.  I never imagined this life for myself and now I’m living it and loving it.

ECC:  What have you seen among your own clientele in terms of clients seeking help in leading happier lives? Have you seen any trends? And if so, in what area are they most seeking fulfillment in?

RT: The two biggest trends I see these days are that people want more balance in their life, and they want a job they’re passionate about.  (Career is definitely the #1 area people are seeking fulfillment in.)   Because life coaching is a growing profession, more and more people are becoming exposed to the fact that great things really are possible for them.  


ECC: I know one population you focus specifically on is Millennial Men, those in their 20s and early 30s. Do you find that they are generally happier or less happy than older clients? What about Millennial women?

RT: I do think younger men in general are more happy than prior generations.  Middle aged men are less able to make changes in their life because they have a wife, kids, more responsibilities, etc.  This doesn’t mean they can’t but it’s just more complicated; there are other people involved.

One of my niches as a Life Coach is women who finally want to put themselves first.  I’ve worked with many ladies of all ages and it’s common across the board for them to have been in service and done for others (job, boss, husband, kids, aging parent) before themselves.  Most women I work with are ready to change this – regardless of their age.

ECC: What advice would you give a new client who is unhappy with one particular aspect of their life?

RT: Talk to a Life Coach!  Most (including me) will give you a free session.  In that time, chances are you’ll see the benefits of it and want to move forward as a client.

ECC: Thank you for your time and I look forward to reading your new book when it arrives!

Russ Terry  Executive Producer, Life Coach Radio Networks

Russ Terry

Executive Producer, Life Coach Radio Networks

In addition to serving 50 clients in his first 18 months as a Life Coach, Russ Terry is Creator, Executive Producer and Host of the Life Coach Radio Networks (on Blog Talk Radio) and the Life Coach Television Network (on YouTube).  For more on him and to inquire about a session, go to his website (www.russterrylifecoach.com) and/or the site for his fast-growing media empire (www.lifecoachradionetworks.com).

 

Is Your Co-Worker Really A Vampire? How YOU can protect yourself & others!

One of our popular past radio shows was the around the topic of positive energy and how you can raise the levels in your life to feel invigorated and motivated to accomplish your goals.  It provided great insight on how the community around you could be holding you back from your highest potentials!

How typical is a Monday morning involving your snooze alarm?  There’s an epidemic that has been created by this magical button that gives us the gift of another 5 or 10 minutes to put off the rest of the day a little bit longer.  So my question is WHY?  Why aren't we leaping out of bed in the morning? Why are we putting off going to the gym in lieu of more sleep?  Where is this drainage coming from?

A big part of it is the people and surroundings that we interact with on a daily basis.  It is unconsciously draining you of your internal resources!  The widespread community of people are also known as ENERGY VAMPIRES!  These aren't the sexy Eric Northman types from True Blood, they are the people around you that are literally sucking you dry.  We all know the type; it’s the person that wears you down and no one else wants to be around.  You’re probably thinking in your head “must escape” as soon as they come your way!  It also thrives on the atmosphere we are in, such as a noisy city with lights and sirens or a crowded mall with angry customers and long lines.

Is the solution to slay everything in your path a la Buffy?  Not necessarily… There are other ways to spot the energy vampires in your life and defend yourself from being completely depleted of your vitality!  Read on.

Step One: Self Care.  Any good soldier knows that in order to prepare for battle, they must train first.  Same goes for you.  When we aren’t at our best mentally and physically, we are already more vulnerable right from the start.  Be sure to get enough sleep, exercise, and nutrient rich foods, as well as cut back your hours at work.  Remember you are your own best ally and should be treated with respect.

Step Two:  Establish Boundaries.  Find your baseline and break the cycle!  Vampires do not understand the limits of overstepping; therefore you have to set the tone for you both.  Think about the ways you can reduce contact and shield your energy.  Be vocal if need be.  The more you practice and develop your own personal space, the stronger you will become and the energy vampires will be less attracted to you.

Step Three:  Be Empathetic.  To a point that is.  Try to cut the other person some slack and maybe see it from their point of view.  Sometimes we make assumptions about a situation without really researching if it’s true or not.  The thing is, you may never really find out; and as such shouldn't draw conclusions on just a possibility.  Alternatively, send that other person some love and be on your way.  In turn you will make that person feel better and it also keeps you in a healthy state.

For even more about the types of energy vampires and how you can boost your liveliness to start off the day right, listen to my show on demand now at Blog Talk Radio!  Just click the link below and you are on your way!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lifecoachradionetwork/2013/07/03/new-you-city-coach-chat-wdanielle-mercurio

Did you try out one of the methods discussed or have your own tactics for dealing with negative energy?  Comment and share your thoughts!

 

Danielle Mercurio

Danielle Mercurio

The “New You City Chat” with Danielle Mercurio is on the Featured Life Coach Radio Network every first and third Tuesday of every month at 8:00 PM/EST.  Much of the show's focus is on centering yourself in an overwhelming city environment, building confidence and creating the look and feel of the hot body you desire!  Danielle Mercurio is a lifestyle coach who provides group or individual coaching, facilitates workships, and is a motivational speaker.  You can contact Danielle directly at danielle@daniellemercurio.com or go to www.newyoucitycoaching.com