The Dangers of Living on Auto-Pilot

Life comes at you fast. It can be full of ups and downs. There’s some good and some bad. And sometimes you end up just plain tired – stressed and overwhelmed. And you might want something to just go on predictably for a change, right? Maybe? Or maybe not so much.

How’s your life going? Do you feel like you’re on top of your game and things are going well? Or are you starting to feel that nagging sensation that there’s got to be more? Or do you  feel like it’s time for a change – but you might be a little bit afraid or a lot afraid of doing what it needs to be done in order to create that change? I feel you. I’ve been there. Many times.

Today I just want to encourage you about not getting lulled into the complacency of autopilot. Because here’s the tragedy. The tragedy is that many, many people live their lives on autopilot. They wake up, get dressed, go to work or go about their days – business as usual. One day blends into the next and blends into the next and you look up in five years have passed. You think about all those dreams and all those ambitions that you had once upon a time. You might start to think maybe it’s too late.

But let me say something to you loud and clear! It is NEVER TOO LATE!

It’s never too late to try something new.

It’s never too late to pursue your passion.

It’s never too late to say yes to your soul.

If you are ready to say yes to your soul and to pursue something that has been tugging at your heart for a very long time – IT IS TIME TO START.

It’s time to take a risk.

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone.

It’s time to take yourself seriously and honor your truest desires.

ARE YOU READY?

Come with me and let’s take this adventure together! Because after all – it’s YOUR life, and you have a say! And it is time to JUST DO YOU!

Many blessings to you and yours from in from my heart to yours.  I pray that you will create the life of your dreams. If anything in this message inspired you to think about something different, to do something different, to make a bold decision – I encourage you to reach out to me.

Email me at trina@mycoachtrina.com, and let’s set up a time to talk about how you can take things to the next level in your life. I look forward to speaking with you!

Yours in UNLIMITED possibility,

Trina Ramsey


Career & Life Strategist

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The Power Of Your Thoughts

Have you ever wondered how powerful your thoughts are? Do you know that what you think is what you make manifest in your life?

You may profess you seek for abundance but without having a thought process or mindset inline and aligned with abundance, it will be hard to achieve. Our thoughts are life and bring about the blessings we experience. The moment we align our thoughts to the words we speak as our minds process those, we walk in the realm of that which is spoken.

We may subconsciously think that some things are not attainable. The more we allow our thoughts to remain in that subconscious state; we will not be able to achieve those things. We are created to achieve the impossible and can truly make this happen by a making a shift in our mindset.

We were created with abundance from our inception and our conception. In this lies the power that allows us to fulfill every possibility. However, some tasks may seem daunting but are attainable, as long as we set our minds on endless possibilities. 

Choose to speak life to every situation you face. What you speak is what you make happen. What you make happen, is what you work at. What you work at, is what leads to your success. Without a shift in your mindset, there will be no shift. Start to make that shift and see things begin to manifest in abundance. Learn to tame your thoughts; do not let your thoughts tame you. There is power in your thoughts and it commands the words you utter. The more positive thoughts you have, the more positive things will manifest in your life. Shift your thoughts towards positivity. A positive mindset can only yield positive results.

Copyright © 2014 Kemi Sogunle - www.love-not-hurt.org

Kemi Sogunle is an author, writer, speaker, professional life and relationship coach.  She is also the Founder/CEO of the nonprofit organization (501c3), Love Not Hurt, an organization that promotes self-development, building healthier and stronger relationships while living with purpose.

Source: http://www.love-not-hurt.org

Owning The Cape

"Even when I'm a mess, I put on a vest with an S on my chest..." Alicia Keys

This line is from Alicia Keys's song "Superwoman". It's one of the many anthems to womanhood that have been penned over the years. Today I'm writing about my own battle with this label. I am a self-confessed "A type". I do a lot and have a lot of roles. As a working mother of two, and now also working on my coaching business, my life is very full. Some days it’s a bit TOO FULL lol. But I enjoy it. I know that I'm in the right space in time for me right now, so even though my pace is a bit manic at times, it's extremely fulfilling.

I have not always been at peace with this. I've had the title "superwoman" for most of my adult life. But I didn't OWN it. As a matter of fact, you could even say I resented it. I once journaled, "Superwoman is dead. She was crushed by the weight of the world on her shoulders." Wow, right? That's a very strong statement, but that was the space I was in at the time. Totally a victim - "poor me, I've got too much to do". But it is very real when you are in that space - in overwhelm and not able to find a good way to balance it out.

Now, before I go any further, I am NOT claiming to have figured this all out and have the magic formula. But over the years, and with God's grace and the help of some wonderful teachers, I have begun to challenge my perception of things. The truth of the matter is, I LIKE to be busy. And part of my busyness is because of the various relationships I have - family and friends, and taking time to focus on things that matter to me. So now I embrace the fullness of my life - it gives me focus and adds richness to my life. Recently I've been struggling to balance things out, so I thought writing this would help refocus an reenergize. Hope you enjoy it, too.

OWNING THE CAPE
... so how do you shift into wearing the cape proudly? Here are a few suggestions:
 

  1. Feed your spiritual life. Having a relationship with God helps us tap into a higher power and not feel so helpless when things are out of our control. We all experience bumps along the way, (sometimes valleys and derailments!) but knowing that God is with you throughout makes a huge difference. One of my favorite scriptures is Romans 8:28: "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."(KJV). This verse has gotten me through many rough spots, and in retrospect, I find it to be true! Some of my greatest blessings have come after a period of loss or trial. God knows what he is doing, and part of the trick in owning the cape is knowing when to let go and let Him have control.
  2. Acceptance. If you are a superwoman (or superman) wear the cape proudly! Clearly there is something about you that resonates strength, leadership and/or perseverance. All wonderful traits to embrace!
  3. Cultivate a positive attitude. Do you routinely see the glass as "half full" or "half empty"? We've all heard "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade", and similar adages. How you view things makes a huge difference. So rather than seeing your talents as a burden (like I used to), wear that cape proudly. Cultivate a swagger and own the power that God has endowed you with!
  4. Take care of yourself. I'm sure this seems very basic, but when we are juggling a lot, sometimes we slip to the bottom (or off) of the priority list. This can lead to burnout, resentment and worse. Yes, it's easier said than done, but it is absolutely essential. When I wrote that "superwoman is dead" bit I was not even on the radar screen. Always allow some time for yourself - to enjoy things you like to do, spending time with people you love, or just DOING NOTHING. 

Have a wonderful week, and *raising cup of coffee*... here's to the journey!

Peace & Blessings,
TRamsey © 9/2010


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

Looking Into The Eyes Of An Apple

“Living in the sixties we all set out to change the world as we knew it.”

How do you identify your roll in life, when your life has taken a U turn? As John Lennon said “Life is what happens when you’re making other plans”

Most of us have seen many friends and family pass away from cancer.  I have.  At the moment they retire or come down with an illness you may hear them say things such as, I’m not working any more, I’m taking time off, I’m resigning or I have to concentrate on my health now.  How many times have you heard this, and then they go off to die.

Why do we wait so long, to hear that we’re about to die, to make the decision to begin to live?

On October 5, 2011,  “Apple announced that Steve Jobs has passed away,” and for many, the world came to a long empty silence, as they had lost a powerful guiding light in their lives.  A visionary, who had changed their world.  The question in their minds:  would the team he left behind, have the ability to carry the torch, with the same breakthroughs and innovations to continue into the future?

The journey begins, and a most fascinating story it is:  Once upon a time, we were all small children, exploring, discovering, growing with each new experience.  Our dreams at night were dynamic, colorful, vibrant and some, their dreams began to drive them during their waking hours.  We see these people as visionaries, leaders, innovators, working their way to the top of every field.  The Beatles changed the music industry.  Steve Jobs changed the computer industry and gave us smart phones, iPads and more.

Maybe you know someone who’s one of these unique visionaries.  Maybe it’s you!  As a health coach, I ask one simple question:  Which is more important:  Your health or your wealth?  If we become what we focus on, and our entire focus is driven by our job, our vision, our career path, then we are missing a huge element to our long-term success.  We are, to put it quite simply:  Out of balance!

History is filled with brilliant visionaries, who died way too young.  George Harrison died at 58 years old.  That means at 29, he was middle aged.

All the money in the world has not been able to save brilliant people from the grips of degenerative diseases.  Sure, none of us get out alive, but let’s make sure that we can enjoy a vibrant life while we are here.   Cancer is a metabolic disease and can take hold anywhere in our body many years before you hear those words, “you have cancer.”  We don’t catch cancer, we create it.  Our digestive system, liver, blood sugar levels and hormones plays a direct part in pancreatic cancer.  Pancreatic adenocarcinoma, the most common type of pancreatic cancer, strikes about 40,000 Americans per year.  However, it most often goes undiagnosed. http://www.siteman.wustl.edu/ContentPage.aspx?id=3890 See also http://carcin.oxfordjournals.org/content/early/2013/12/11/carcin.bgt480.abstract

Steve Jobs was diagnosed in 2003, but could have had cancer many years before his diagnoses.  Pancreatic cancer is a malignant tumor of the pancreas caused by changes in DNA.  DNA is responsible for cell production, the instruction codes of our cells.  When DNA is damaged, pancreatic tissue cells become unhealthy, begin to grow uncontrollably, and can develop into malignant tumors. http://www.puristat.com/pancreas/pancreaticcancer.aspx

This story is too familiar with many that have succumbed to this disease. Most of our loved ones have battled with depression, eating or anxiety disorders, which many refer to as “their demons.”  Sugar, anti depressants, endocrine disruptors, sleepless nights can all play a big role in how the body balances hormones, internal gut health and cancer cells.  I had a friend that actually ate dried fruit every day of his life until he was given 2 weeks to live from having pancreatic cancer.  He  passed at 39 years old.  I had another that was living on store bought bottled fruit juices all day long while at work because she didn’t want to take time out to prepare a meal.  My sister had depression, mood swings and medications to handle her anxiety, way before being diagnosed with cancer.  She has passed.

Metabolic disorders such as diabetes and pancreatitis can begin with diet, stress and internal toxic related issues.  We stress our bodies to work longer hours and demand ourselves to be faster and quicker then our team members.  We consistently run on sugar and caffeine just trying to keep up. 

The dance of emotions: The liver plays a roll in how one controls one’s emotions ( includes temper or mood swings.)  When running optimally the liver removes toxins with little effort.  But when our liver is toxic and hot, we can have severe mood swings.  Have you seen road rage on TV lately?  What do you think can cause this?  Is it possible that many people are out of control because they are toxic? 

Steve was said “to be like a haunted house by his early girlfriend ~ Chrisann Brennan, having many mood swings.”   I could only speculate that sugar and caffeine may have played a roll in Steve’s diet over his lifetime.

Mr Jobs admitted to suffering bouts of depression and divulged he took LSD which is a drug broken down by the liver and has been shown to increase blood pressure.  High blood pressure can negatively effect liver health.  However, there are many pieces to this puzzle that we call cancer.

Endocrine Disruption: Cancer types that have been well documented in literature to be related with environmental exposure to toxins include the reproductive system, breast, lung, kidney, pancreas, and brain. There is a significant correlation between exposure to xenoestrogens and increased, gender-related, cancer risk.  http://www.ehjournal.net/content/11/S1/S8

1-Sugar is an endocrine disruptor.  In addition to hyperinsulinemia, the increased blood glucose and free fatty acids in diabetes may also promote the growth of pancreatic cancer.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7638764?dopt=Abstract&holding=f1000,f1000m,isrctn

2-Research published in the November 2007 issue of American Journal of Clinical Nutrition which concluded there was “evidence for a greater pancreatic cancer risk with a high intake of fruit and juices.

3- Grains and soy can be considered disruptors and can feed cancer. https://www.bulletproofexec.com/steve-jobs-dr-dean-ornish-and-vegetarian-cancer/

4-There is known pancreatic cancer risk and environmental toxins from  PCB’s and dioxins- http://www.foxriverwatch.com/pancreatic_cancer_pcbs_1.html

5-Dry cleaning and paint removals are disruptors- http://aje.oxfordjournals.org/content/153/9/841.full

6-Gingivitis or periodontal disease-Helicobacter pylori infection /gut bacteria can be linked to cancer.

Whether or not you are at risk for developing pancreatic cancer, cleansing your body of wastes and toxins is vital for optimal health, which is directly linked to metabolic and endocrine health.

Consider the fact that petroleum products, ranging from fertilizers to deodorants, are one of the most prevalent toxins in our environment. Chemicals in, on and around us act as xenoestrogens (synthetic estrogen), blocking liver function, and interfering with hormone functioning.  “These toxins work to weaken the neuroendocrine system – where certain pancreatic cancers develop – wreaking havoc on the glands that secrete hormones into our bloodstream.”

According to news reports, back in 2004 Jobs underwent successful surgery for a pancreatic neuroendocrine tumor.  These tumors produce excess hormones. (Hormone Disruption) (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/05/steve-jobs-health-timeline_n_997313.html)

 Fortune magazine publishes a controversial piece claiming that Jobs masked his cancer battle for nine full months before informing anyone outside of the most intimate of inner circles.  A Buddhist and vegetarian, Jobs reportedly "considered not having surgery at all," upon receiving his diagnosis, according to the piece.

August 2011: Jobs announces his resignation  "I have always said if there ever came a day when I could no longer meet my duties and expectations as Apple’s CEO, I would be the first to let you know.  Unfortunately, that day has come."

Looking within:  Even today there is misinformation promoted by pictures of food pyramids, focused on calcium content, protein requirements to the paleo diet.  Jumping to grab the latest fad, we lose sight of true health.

Some say they are eating vegetarian but remain faithful to their daily toxic cheese and french fry habit loaded with carcinogens, morphine, sugar and trans fats.   Vegans all come together with the object of health as a commonality but in really is it so?  Have you seen vegans eat tons of sugar?

How can we obtain true health while still ingesting chemicals.  When we look at how GMO’s have poisoned our food supply, do we still buy conventional?   When we look how far we’ve come knowing that toxins cause cancer do we think ourselves immune, thinking that it can never happen to us?   When we have the flu or arthritis do we run to the nearest doctors for the fastest relief?  If we do all these, then are we ready to accept the diagnosis?

Advertisements are intentionally deceptive.  Do we believe in happy pills, sleeping pills and getting your life back into control pills?   Are we active members of the twilight zone giving up our sub-conscience to our TV’s as we chow down on a bag of potato chips?  It is never just one thing that we expose ourselves to.  As a spa owner for almost 4 decades, I know which ingredients can be toxic endocrine disruptors.   Whether TV promotes a cream or lotion to look 20 years younger-do we see it as something we want to ingest?   Did the chemical lab of that product sell you on a sham story, that it was going to make you more beautiful and desirable?   Did he research those toxins and disclose your cancer risk?   Are you dying to look good?

Some people promote everything is good in moderation. However I believe-since when is a toxic poison in moderation good for us?

In the 60‘s we were going to change the world.  Have we made those necessary bite size steps or do we still practice behavior that can cut our life in half?

Steve Jobs was building a business, with his stress, his demons and ill health, but  where is he today?  He tried to practice mindfulness with Buddhism at the same time denying he had a daughter.

Cancer is our body’s way of saying we can’t take the insults any more.

Our toxic beliefs live inside us, we call these our demons.  Knowing how to truly nourish ourselves in mind, body and spirit is truly the key to living a strong, vibrant life. 

Steve you will be missed.  I wish I could have been your Health Coach.

Connie Rogers is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, specializing in toxins that can disrupt your Metabolic and Endocrine Health. Founder and owner of BiteSizePieces.net

If we take a U turn toward our vision, do we forget our health along the way?  The answer in most cases has been yes. Being laser focused on a huge long-term goal, building a business, some entrepreneurial venture, or what ever your dream might be, make sure you never lose focus on you.

 

How Can We Just Be?

Do you find yourself spending a lifetime of just doing,

or wishing you could rewind the tape? 

You look around and wonder where did the time go, or what else is there? 

I believe we can reinvent ourselves if we spend some quality time with being..

Were you told as a child if you want to be, then you just do?  We want to be thinner, happier, have it all and all pain free, yet do we ever address what are we doing along the journey to get there?  Staying in the “comfort zone” can be considered a “blind zone”  and even when it doesn’t serve many people, we seem to “just stay there”.

From a mothers point of view, we have opportunities and reasons “why” we do the things the way we do.  Sometimes it dates back to how our parents did it.  If we don’t find these habits serve us any more, Quit.  Yes, we can quit habits that don’t bring out the best in us.  Intelligence tells us if we feel bad when we eat something rotten, don’t eat it!   As with any new muscle formation, our “quitting muscle” means we can venture out with “new ways of being”.

When we concentrate on "being" who we truly are, we find joy.   If we can concentrate on being vs. doing, we can actually improve our health, save time and have less stress in our lives.  

Energy...

We are busy, tired, wired and stressed. What is keeping us awake at night and sleepy during the day?  If we eat for energy instead of comfort, we can achieve this delicate balance.   Most comfort foods are processed foods and “processed foods are electrically distorted foods.” (1)

Imbalances always begin with the decline of electrical integrity within the body, leaving one with chronic congestion and inflammation.  Deep within our subconscious soul, our body hears everything we think and say.   Because the body increases production of the adrenal hormones when under stress, this can be linked to nutritional deficiencies.  “Every cell in our body has a positive and negative electrical charge.”  A healthy body is made up of trillions of cells in a continual delicate balance of plus and minus energies.  When we pollute our inner environment it strips our electrical charges, and we fall out of balance.

All matter is energy.  All energy is in constant motion.  Even when we sleep our heart pumps and our body detoxes automatically.  Fully awake we have to ask the question:  Are we full of vibrant energy and life or are we “just doing” what it takes to get by?

Labels...

Have you thought while watching some nightly TV show:  “What if all life was a drug for this “dis ease” or a punishment for that “lawbreaker?”  Society tends to put “labels” on “things.”

Explore a life without labels.  In the beginning we were love and light, and if we remove our blinders, we’ll discover that, we still are!  Rather than labeling things, or people, a far more grounded, healthier energy is found in quieting out the noise, and finding that place of awareness.   It can be intuitive if we take a moment to “listen.” 

Listening....

A fascinating habit, so many of us do, when we meet new people is to ask:   “So, what do you do?”  What they do, often has little to do with who they are.  Right?   You’ll find out when you listen and discover who they really are.  I know people who say they would like a more fulfilling relationship.  The lesson is in the listening. 

Imagine you’re home with your teenager after school.   His teacher called and said “Your son had a fight in the classroom today.”  Before speaking to your son, ask yourself:  “Can this situation be looked at in a different way that I haven't been considering?”  “Can I stop the stress and give what I see my child needs right at this very moment?”  Listen for the answer.  It’s a wonderfully productive zone to “be in” and a state that also unexpectedly makes you smile, instead of frowning.   A conscience effort put in motion with everything we want to “be.”  ~ Love. 

Can we be the change? 

Here’s a basic reality check:

Do you find yourself worrying or anxious about stuff you’ve got to get done every day?  Do you want to say goodbye to habits that don’t serve you?  What is your time worth?  Maybe it’s time to stop living in the land of “some day I’ll...”   There’s no better time then NOW to remember to have intention to “be the change”.   All change begins in your mind first!  ~ You see, hear, hit replay and feel it.

It’s a choice-To be healthy, To be conscience, To be kind, To be loving.  Become aware that you can choose your foods and thoughts, which in turn can make your life easier and less stressful.  “The power of being in the now is full awareness of our environment.” (2) And remember, any bite size step is a win. 

Most of the time it is easier to stay stuck and /or addicted in our actions and our thoughts.  Procrastination/indecision, fills a life with “unfulfilling matter’ and “regrets” while never giving us the results we want to achieve.  It has been said that if you change your mind about stress, your body actually reacts differently to stress.   If you tell yourself “this is going to be a stress free day” - it will be.

Some mistakes you can avoid:

1-There’s an old saying~Don’t rush the spaghetti sauce.  Making your family number one takes time and patience.

2-”Doing” doesn’t always equal joy.  Find time to relax and “just be”.

3- Munching on chips in front of the TV doesn’t help you to chill and de-stress…it only adds stress.  Learn why digestion is so important. “30 to 40% of the total digestive response to any meal is due to our full awareness of what we’re eating.”(2) 

4- ADD can be mislabeled. Check here for more info:  http://www.cchrsiliconvalley.org/adhd/

5-Look at what’s holding you back, but don’t wallow there. 

6-Don’t be afraid to ask for support.  Make a plan to succeed by getting the support you need!

 

Connie Rogers is a Certified Health Coach and Reiki Master at www.bitesizepieces.net.   A powerful way to support my clients is in  “finding joy by being” and “making the room to make changes”.  Evaluate how your current decisions are affecting you and what they are costing you when you ignore them.

Footnotes:

Electrical Nutrition by Denie Hiestand

http://psychologyofeating.com/the-metabolic-power-of-vitamin-a-awareness/

http://psychologyofeating.com/the-metabolic-power-of-vitamin-a-awareness/