My Word for 2016

As a society we seem to have turned away from New Year’s resolutions and turned toward a single word to sum up our intentions for the clean slate of a new year. A Word which could and would bring us back to center in moments of uncertainty, moments when a decision mandates we consider the bigger picture of our why and how.

As I embraced the search for my own why and how I paused to take a look deep inside, to see what was important to me. Really, I was searching for a word that summed up my goals and aspirations – but what are they? Some aspirations like prioritizing my marriage, regaining a higher level of fitness and shedding the final forty pounds of baby weight have been with me for a while. Other goals like ignoring comparisons to other mothers are newer, but no less compelling. These goals required a word that was action oriented and contemplative.  A word that wouldn’t shrink under the sheer volume and momentum of a mompreneur’s to do list.

I’m not entirely sure if I found my word or my word found me. Either way it is concise, compact and oddly liberating.

My word for 2016 is Me.

That’s Me with a deliberately capitalized M – the Me of my higher, enlightened Self.

What does Me mean? It means a year of radical self-love and radical self-care, which ensures I show up as the best version of Me possible.

Me: connecting deliberately with my husband. Sharing my joy, my strength, my passion and my compassion.

Me: connecting consciously with my child.  Focusing when we are together kicking the ‘must multitask’ monkey mind to the curb and reveling in the joy of raising a competent, independent thinker.

Me: shrugging off unsolicited advice and comparisons. I’m the Wife, Mother and Woman I’m meant to be. I am enough as I am and I chose to grow stronger and more fearless each day.

Me: eating healthy foods 85-90% of the time. Me and My Family are worth the time and cost associated with proper, healthy meals, nutritious foods and luscious desserts. Oh and drinking more water because I’m worth the potty break time-outs.

Me: Running. Lifting. Coming back to my badass self who could once out lift every other chick in the gym.

Me: Splurging on new running shoes, seamless socks and a weekly yoga class.

Me: growing into my professional role. Working during office hours with clients and on programs that bring passion, purpose and empowerment.

Me: caring about those who care about me. Friendship is built on trust, loyalty and laughter.

Me: laughing long and loud with those friends I value who force me to level up my game.

That’s Me for 2016. What’s your word?


Jennifer Bellber is a Certified Professional Life Coach & Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner. She's a wife, mother of a toddler, sometimes blogger, photographer for fun and charitable causes, slow runner and weight lifting enthusiast who reduced her physical self by 120 pounds a few years ago. 

Jennifer's passion is helping overwhelmed parents figure out who they want to be when their kids grow up, ditch the Mommy Guilt (or Daddy Guilt as the case may be) and live a connected, empowered, wickedly amazing sexy life of their own design.

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5 Things To Do This Year

Hello good people – and HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

Take a deep breath – can’t you just smell the “new car scent” in the air? This is one of my favorite times of the year. Many of us use the New Year as a turning point, a fresh start, a re-commitment to taking our lives to the next level. 

But SOME of us take it too far. We become overly obsessed with changing each and every area of our lives. And then we get overwhelmed. And because we aren’t able to focus on more than a few new things at a time, we inevitably fall short on some things. And instead of celebrating the good, we beat ourselves up because of the failures. Does this sound familiar?  If so, this message is just for you! As usual, I would love to hear any feedback you'd like to share! 

Trina


As you can imagine, I’ve been busy working on all my New Years stuff. This is naturally a busy season for coaches. As I was pondering what to share with you amid the myriad of New Years wishes, self-improvement gurus, fitness and diet advice, I decided to just give you a KISS instead.  (Keep It Simple Stupid).

So, here are my top 5 tips for making 2015 a great year.

1.  Ditch Resolutions!  Set goals and intentions instead.  Yes, I said it! I stopped making resolutions some time ago. But I do set aside time to really focus on the year behind while deciding what’s on tap for the new year. I’m NOT saying that you shouldn’t work on new stuff for the new year – of course you should! What I am saying is that instead of using resolutions, which many of us tend to talk about heading into the new year and not again after February. Rather, set some meaningful goals and intentions for yourself – and work steadily towards them.  More on that next…

2.  Focus. It’s so very tempting to try to do it all. It’s good to push yourself and expect more. I believe wholeheartedly in raising the bar and not settling. But if you try to take on too many new things on top of what is most assuredly a very busy life, you are setting yourself up for failure.  Choose a very small set of goals to focus on moving this year. Make them big goals. Make them impactful – things that will help you move closer to the life of your dreams or improve the quality of your life.  I recommend no more than 3, but if you must – 5 at the most.

3.  Take one step at a time. But most importantly – GET STARTED! Yes, this sounds elementary, but it’s true. Sometimes we heap so many expectations upon ourselves to ‘nail it this time’ that it paralyzes us. Start where you are – take it a step at a time, and you’ll see results.

4.   Don’t go it alone. Any journey is better with friends. Moral support and accountability partners are the key to making progress on your goals.  You can get this in a variety of ways. Enlist a workout buddy to hit the gym together. For big goals, coaches and mastermind groups can help you stay on track.

5.    Cheat – a little. All work and no play makes Jack/Jane a dull boy/girl.  Don’t make it all about work and achievement. Reward yourself along the way. Build in days off if you are pressing towards a big goal. 

Most of all - remember to have fun along the way. We all get WAY TOO SERIOUS about this stuff. Push, but not too hard that you stress yourself out and don't get to enjoy the ride. 

C-ya next time! 

Trina

PS... As always, I'm available for 1:1 communication and motivation in-between these messages. I'm happy to provide a free Discovery Call to talk things out and see if coaching might help you achieve your goals this year. Email me at tramsey43@gmail.com and we can set something up! 


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

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