The world is your oyster... so go ahead and SHUCK IT!

I celebrated a birthday in January and received one card specifically that really got me to thinking. My dear friend wrote "The world is your oyster... so go ahead and SHUCK IT!" I love that term, not that I hadn't heard it before, but to associate it with myself and what this year has the potential to be about is so real for me that I had to share.

How many times do you see and feel things for others that you don't apply to yourself? Why is it that everyone else is worthy of making the big IT happen and we go on living our ordinary lives, devoid of our own IT??

Well, the answer to that question is the person who looks back at you in the mirror! It's really about how you see yourself, how you support yourself, and how you get in your own way towards reaching your intended goal. It's about you not letting yourself off the hook, about you carving out and keeping that time for you and what's important. It’s about putting a stop to consistently putting other people and things in your way and using them as an excuse. (whoa)... I know, I may have hit a nerve, but dammit, I'm talking to myself too!

Half of the reason why we aren't where we want to be is because we do not make ourselves a priority, often times believing and behaving as if we're the only ones who can get a certain things done. Am I right? What would happen if we suspend that idea and let others take care of themselves first. I’m not suggesting that we totally abandon our family, friends, and commitments. The challenge to myself and you is to think about you FIRST.

Here's my short list of ways that will support me as I SHUCK IT this year. Feel free to make it your own or add to it!

  • Write it down/journal - My single most effective form of outlet.
  • Record it - Not my cup of tea, but may work for you
  • Use your most creative hours in the day to create (every day) - for me 5 - 7 am (I know.. crazy, right?)
  • Put it in the calendar - Keeps you timely
  • Stay out of overwhelm - once your calendar is populated, manage it properly
  • Just say No – “No” is a complete sentence. Once you get into explaining why “no” is “no”, you will talk yourself into something.
  • Work out/exercise - together with early morning creative time??? Game over!
  • Co-create - find a partners) who shares your vision and will share the load.
  • Use technology for reminders - never hurts, so use it
  • Cross it off when it's complete - This motivates me!
  • Schedule time for facebook, and other social media outlets - They are good for some things but not during my creative times
  • Schedule time for e-mail - this disciplines not only you, but the people you respond to
  • Get help from a coach - "Everybody needs somebody, sometimes!" Every coach needs a coach. I have one, do you? I would be more than happy to be a resource to you!
  • Finish what you start - plan how you're either going to a) finish it or b) delegate it; or c) delete it. Thanks David Allen - Author of "Getting Things Done"
  • Just do it - plain and simple... shut it down, stop with the excuses, and get it done!

This is just the beginning of great ways to shuck it this year. Please comment and add to the list!

Promise yourself that you'll do it for you. If you need accountability, connect with a friend who will hold your feet to the fire. I would be more than happy to do the same.

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May 2015 be the year you SHUCK IT!

My hope & prayer is that you find your pearl along the way!


Tamarra Causley Robinson has 20+ years of experience as an IT Professional and through the many fluctuations in world of IT, uses her experience of staying relevant and prepared for change within her coaching firm, Causley Robinson & Associates where Tamarra serves as the CEO, Lead Coach and Consultant. Tamarra is a game-changer and specializes in assisting professionals who are grappling with self-imposed or organizational change by encouraging, and assisting as they work through emotions of fear, helplessness and hopelessness that change creates to a safe place of forward movement, confidence and power. Through her coaching program, clients adopt new bold and courageous ways of living their lives, unapologetically! To learn more, visit www.dare2doitnow.com

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Tune into Success ~ Tune into Resilience!

Have you ever had a friend or relative who, no matter how many times they fell down, scraped their knee or faced some unexpected hardship, they got back up again with a focused positive attitude.   You know, those people who after a long day they still have a great smile on their face, ready to take on any new challenge that comes their way!  They always seem to see the glass as half full.  When situations occur that get others mad or depressed, they’re energy is bubbly!  Amazing isn’t it?   What planet are they from anyway???

In the proverbial search for the meaning of life, the question is asked over and over again:  What is it that we all want out of life?  Some say it’s success, however if so many are struggling, just to get by, can we even tune into the thought?  “Do I believe I am capable”  Those voices are always standing by, ready to resolve to defeat.

Enter into the picture, a second person who’s extremely quiet and shy.  Someone with very little confidence and a very small circle of friends.  We observe this person socializes with comfort food as a crutch to drown his mood and goes through each day with little direction much less any focused energy on a target or long-term goals. 

Take a few minutes to conjure up in your mind, the image of these two very different people.  You probably know a number of people who fit into the positive achiever mode as well as people go through life with a down, why does this always happen to me, energy.  It’s always fascinating when you meet two people from the same family, who are total opposites. What’s the driving force that drives these two diverse personalities?

The studies of Bruce Lipton, PhD, in “biology of belief” and “the wisdom of our cells” enlighten us to the understanding of our conscious mind and the far more powerful sub-conscious mind which is runs our immune system, nervous system, respiratory, keeps our heart beating, and is the core to our belief system.  We can actually change our DNA with our thoughts.  Lipton’s studies show how our subconscious programming is all established in the first six years of our lives.  Every aspect of our environment establishes our core beliefs.  We grow up nourished, knowing we can do anything our mind sets out to do or we grow up skeptical, always the “devils advocate”.  Dr. Lipton would say this is the sub conscience tuning into all possibilities.  If we weren’t so fortunate to grow up surrounded with a loving energy with support and positive feedback, we can work on re-programming our internal tape to see if we can overcome feelings of self doubt.

A women looses her mother in her teenage years, she is lost, rebelling, and it appears no one seems to understand her.  She is sent away to college to find herself, maybe meet new friends.  With a depressed nature she succumbs to peer pressure, and spirals into a drug addiction.   Was there a resilient foundation in place before her mothers death?

Another women discovers she has cancer, she is told it is a very aggressive cancer and she will have to fight hard for her life.  Without skipping a beat she takes control with ease and a beautiful smile.  It is tiring at times but her friends, (her support system) are by her side.  She discovers she is stronger then she knew herself to be.  She lives.

Two friends are chatting about their diets.  The first one says, “I wish someday I could be healthy and feel great.”  The second one says, “I intend to be healthy and feel great.”

Which one do you think is going to get healthy and feel great?  Yep ~ the one who intends it. 

Can we all have support, positive intentions and beliefs?

Yes we can.  Two keys to intention in business and health is support and action – Taking action no matter who stands in your way, negative nelly or those voices in your head. 

Did you know that you can even set an intention to have a great day?

Rather than diving into your morning and hoping you’ll achieve your day’s big goal, why not take a moment and tune yourself up for success?  You can Have a Great Day… Every Day!

You can start with healthy food choices such as a variety of organic fruits, nuts and veggies.  One can’t have a healthy “in tune brain” without a “healthy gut”.  Can you tune into your gut feelings?

  • Think about your desired outcome. Take a deep breath and visualize yourself succeeding.
  • Replay your success several times in your mind.
  • Next, add other senses, including sounds, smells, taste and touch. All these affect our inner energy. For instance, if you listen to crap radio, that sound can interfere with intention and focus.
  • As you replay your success tape, you now also hear the director offering you the gig, or you feel the physical sensation of your finger hitting the “send” button on your latest assignment.
  • Lastly, replay the scene again, adding emotions.  Feel your elation at getting to your desired weight or your pride at finally finishing your project.

So how can you build your intention muscle? 

  1. Get clear on what you want, what you believe in and what you desire.
  2. Resolve- to find an answer or solution to the roadblocks of your life.
  3. Do something to make your desire happen.
  4. Do you intend to lose weight, eat healthy, and feel fantastic?  Make a plan to tune into success, resilience and health by getting the support you need!
  5. Remember to Nourish-because nourishing thoughts, foods and behavior makes that spoon full of medicine go down much easier. Having a nourishing lifestyle means you can make the choice to have a solid belief system, lean toward a healthy glow, feed your body with organic foods, share a genuine smile, attain peace and serenity.

Along our journey, there will be challenges as the road is never perfect.  The strength and resolve of our belief system, anchored in a total commitment to do what ever it takes, is the difference between reaching our intended goal, or giving up.  What is your intention today?

Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Health Coach. She supports her clients on their way to true health. Make a plan to tune into success at www.bitesizepieces.net

For more tips on how to use resilience to tune in to success, please join co-hosts Connie Rogers, (www.bitesizepieces.net), Filomena A. Iorio-Tasoluk (www.bounce-life.com), and Veronica Taylor (www.lifeleaderscoaching.com) on Monday, February 3, 2014 at 7pm/est on Life Coach Radio Network:  HOW RESILIENCE CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS!

 

How to Turn Your New Year’s Resolution into a Routine

New Year after New Year, millions of people pledge to lose weight, stop smoking, exercise five times a week and eat out less, but have you ever wondered how many of them actually follow through and turn these resolutions into routines?

Unfortunately, the answer is not many. This is because simply making the resolution and wanting to follow through isn’t enough. Here’s why: In order to achieve sustainable health and wellness, you must change your behaviors. And in order to change your behaviors, you must gain awareness and understanding of the different stages of change.

Too often people make lofty goals without a solid understanding of the stages of change, thus setting them up for failure. By understanding each stage, you can prepare yourself for the challenges ahead and recognize them as necessary steps to effecting the change you desire.

The Stages of Change

Stage #1: Pre-Contemplation: In this stage you have no intention of changing within the next six months. You may not be aware that a problem exists, you may be in denial, or you may be unwilling to change. In addition, you may be feeling hopeless in this stage after your last failed attempt to change your behavior.

Stage #2: Contemplation: At this point you have recognized that you desire change, but you alternate between reasons to change and reasons to keep things as they are. For example, you acknowledge that you need to lose weight but you rationalize that exercise will take time away from your kids, and you really don’t want to miss out on them growing up.

Stage #3: Preparation: Once you have realized that the advantages of change outweigh the disadvantages, you make a mental commitment to take action in the near, foreseeable future.

Stage #4: Action: The action stage begins when you have successfully altered your behavior for a minimum of one day and a maximum of six months, and are continuously working toward success.

Stage #5: Maintenance: You have been engaged in your new behavior for more than six months and are evaluating the gains attained during the previous stages. For example, you have been working out for eight months and are noticing that you have more energy, your clothes fit looser and you’re in a better mood.

When thinking about creating change in your life, assess what stage you are currently in and where you want to be. Perhaps you’ve been in the contemplation stage for months now, going back and forth between eating healthier, which requires more work, and keeping things as they are, which is far easier to manage. Assess whether you’re happy in the contemplation stage, or want to move forward in the process.

Wondering the best way to get started? Focus on one change at a time. Write down the change you’d like to make, and identify the trigger and replacement habit. Your trigger is what prompts you to engage in your current habit. For example, stress may trigger your cravings for Oreo cookies and other junk foods. In this case, you need to identify a replacement habit. What could you do, other than eat junk food, when you’re feeling stressed? Maybe you could go for a walk, meditate or practice relaxation techniques. For the next thirty days, focus on your replacement habit when your trigger occurs, and don’t forget to reward yourself for small victories!

The Top 5 Principles Of The Living

I recently did a radio show (LIFE COACH CHAT) on Bronnie Ware’s blog post, “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying”.  Bronnie wrote about her experience as a palliative caretaker, she took care of those who went home to die.  She valiantly spent the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives with them.  During those weeks she witnessed her patient’s experience denial, fear, anger, remorse, and more denial and eventually acceptance.

There is where she began to question her patient’s about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are her most common five:

As I read through the top 5 regrets, all I could think about is how can those who still have a chance to shift their lives use these pearls of wisdom to their advantage? So, I decided to shift the conversation to a proactive approach; one that can help others live a life with less regret. So, I decided to turn Bronnie’s Five Regrets of the Dying into Five Principles of the Living. Here are the five principles and how to overcome your potential energy blocks:

1.  You can choose courage or comfort but you can’t have both.

“Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyway” – Robert Anthony

Courage starts with self-approval.  If you approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you love.  However, if you lack self-acceptance then you lead of life fueled by inner resistance.  We are all artists in our own way; we have a purposeful offering we are destined to share with the world. Ask yourself what is really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer.

Energy Block: Be aware of resistance, it transforms into fear, self-doubt, and procrastination.  Resistance is what’s keeping you small.

2. Laugh like you’re ten, dance like you’re twenty.

“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”

There’s always a time and a place for seriousness but having too of a serious mindset isn’t that great all the time.  It can create negative feelings; which in turn can create negative situations.  Play, it’s not just for kids, as adults we exchange play for work and responsibilities.  By giving ourselves permission to play with the joyful abandon of childhood, we connect with others by sharing joy, laughter, and fun.  We develop empathy, compassion, and trust.  It’s also the antidote to loneliness, isolation, anxiety, and depression.

Energy Block: Assumptions can create unrealistic expectations of who we are or should be.

3. Freedom is the door and vulnerability is the key.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change”. – Brené Brown

Vulnerability is where your authenticity resides.  Make peace with all of your human emotions, yes, including the ones you’re most like to suppress, anger, rage, disappointment, and grief.  You cannot numb what you don’t want to feel and not numb what makes us wholehearted. Vulnerability is a skill; it takes time to develop it.  The more you do it, the better you’ll get.

Energy Block: Let go of the negative limiting beliefs about yourself, life, and the world that are limiting you.

4. Build your Tribe.

“We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community.” Dorothy Day

There is nothing more important than building a community that is supportive and loyal.  None of us can do anything alone; we must embrace help and do it fearlessly.  Don’t be afraid of creating ‘tribes’ that support you in your life’s mission.  Find those individuals who have commonalities and are already reaping their fruits of their labor.  Those are individuals who will guide, support, and encourage you to grow in the direction you aspire to.

Energy Block: Eliminate the interpretations that you’ve made up about events, situations, and people.

5.  Your goal is happiness your strategy is contentment.

“Contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Therefore, acquire contentment”. Anonymous

Today, the media bombards us, selling us on being “Happy”.  Let’s be clear, happiness is an emotion that comes and goes.  On the other hand, contentment is sustainable from day-to-day and moment-to-moment.  It is an inner-feeling of satisfaction that isn’t dependent on external factors.

Energy Block: Let go of your inner-critic, the voice that tells you, in one way or another, that you’re not good enough.

The average person has a “time bank” of 28,000 days in a lifetime.  If you’re 25, you have about 18,000 days to live.  If you’re 50, you have about 9,000 days left to live.  If you’re 65, you have about 3,000 days left to live.  This is your journey, how do you plan to live the rest of your days?

 

Veronica Taylor, CPC, Leadership Coach

Veronica Taylor, CPC, Leadership Coach

Veronica is a certified leadership coach (CPC), a Master Practitioner in the Energy Leadership Index (ELI-MP), radio show host and writer from San Francisco who works passionately and wholeheartedly with women in their 20s and 30s who are in search of greater meaning and fulfillment in their lives.  For more information, please visit Veronica’s official website at www.lifeleaderscoaching.com.