It’s Time To Take Back Our Power!

It’s been on my heart to discuss the sharp uptick in angst, anger, and dismay over the upcoming transition of power. It’s been a very difficult time for many as we watch in horror the things that have transpired since the election. Twitter fights, bullying, unnecessary aggression and devaluing of citizens lives, as legislators rush to dismantle cornerstones of our democracy and leave the public hanging high and dry… people they were elected (and paid very well) to protect and serve. It’s scarcity mentality at the utmost level.

Personally, I’ve had difficulty dealing with it as well – I cycle between anger, frustration, and sheer disbelief – along with what I have coined “Election Induced Tourrete Syndrome” – the compulsion to yell and curse in response to news commentators and public figures. Anyone else?

But I’m here today with good news.

WE CAN TAKE BACK OUR POWER. WE MUST. This moment in American history is like none other, and we cannot afford to stand back and take it.

  • If you’ve been wringing your hands, worrying and shut down, it’s time to shake it off and get into action.
  • If you’ve been waging wars on Facebook and Twitter, it’s time to turn that energy towards those in power and hold them accountable.

WE THE PEOPLE are in charge of this democracy. We own it. And we MUST step up to the plate. There have been other regimes around the world where tyrants have taken over, and people have survived. Resistances have formed. People find a way to thrive and stand for each other. It is no longer appropriate to sit back and wait for THEM to fix things. We are the leaders the worlds been waiting for. Each of us. It’s time to get to work.

What you can do:

  1. Like a good friend says, “Get local”. Volunteer for a cause you believe in. Get involved in local politics. Heck – run for office yourself! You have no idea the power that you possess. Be a part of the solution.
  2. Use your voice. Lobby your elected officials (at all levels) for the changes you stand for. Defend policies that are under attack. Be vigilant. Be fearless. There are many great organizations that stand for “the people” where you can amplify your voice – such as Common Cause, ACLU, People for the American Way, Color of Change, NAACP, Planned Parenthood and many others. Get involved. You don’t have to have all the answers.
  3. Take care of yourself, your family and your community. Life goes on. Enjoy life and embrace the people around you. Pray, feed your spiritual life and connect with like-minded people. Count your blessings and do what you can in the spaces you occupy.
  4. Be the change. Start something new. If you see a problem, find new ways to fix it. Step up in leadership. Use your gifts and talents to inject positivity and creativity into the world.

AND REMEMBER….

If it’s to be, it’s UP TO ME. 
The people, united, can never be defeated!

NOW is the time to step up to the challenge before us. WE CAN DO THIS. WE MUST. Future generations are depending on us. We can’t let them down.

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My Word for 2016

As a society we seem to have turned away from New Year’s resolutions and turned toward a single word to sum up our intentions for the clean slate of a new year. A Word which could and would bring us back to center in moments of uncertainty, moments when a decision mandates we consider the bigger picture of our why and how.

As I embraced the search for my own why and how I paused to take a look deep inside, to see what was important to me. Really, I was searching for a word that summed up my goals and aspirations – but what are they? Some aspirations like prioritizing my marriage, regaining a higher level of fitness and shedding the final forty pounds of baby weight have been with me for a while. Other goals like ignoring comparisons to other mothers are newer, but no less compelling. These goals required a word that was action oriented and contemplative.  A word that wouldn’t shrink under the sheer volume and momentum of a mompreneur’s to do list.

I’m not entirely sure if I found my word or my word found me. Either way it is concise, compact and oddly liberating.

My word for 2016 is Me.

That’s Me with a deliberately capitalized M – the Me of my higher, enlightened Self.

What does Me mean? It means a year of radical self-love and radical self-care, which ensures I show up as the best version of Me possible.

Me: connecting deliberately with my husband. Sharing my joy, my strength, my passion and my compassion.

Me: connecting consciously with my child.  Focusing when we are together kicking the ‘must multitask’ monkey mind to the curb and reveling in the joy of raising a competent, independent thinker.

Me: shrugging off unsolicited advice and comparisons. I’m the Wife, Mother and Woman I’m meant to be. I am enough as I am and I chose to grow stronger and more fearless each day.

Me: eating healthy foods 85-90% of the time. Me and My Family are worth the time and cost associated with proper, healthy meals, nutritious foods and luscious desserts. Oh and drinking more water because I’m worth the potty break time-outs.

Me: Running. Lifting. Coming back to my badass self who could once out lift every other chick in the gym.

Me: Splurging on new running shoes, seamless socks and a weekly yoga class.

Me: growing into my professional role. Working during office hours with clients and on programs that bring passion, purpose and empowerment.

Me: caring about those who care about me. Friendship is built on trust, loyalty and laughter.

Me: laughing long and loud with those friends I value who force me to level up my game.

That’s Me for 2016. What’s your word?


Jennifer Bellber is a Certified Professional Life Coach & Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner. She's a wife, mother of a toddler, sometimes blogger, photographer for fun and charitable causes, slow runner and weight lifting enthusiast who reduced her physical self by 120 pounds a few years ago. 

Jennifer's passion is helping overwhelmed parents figure out who they want to be when their kids grow up, ditch the Mommy Guilt (or Daddy Guilt as the case may be) and live a connected, empowered, wickedly amazing sexy life of their own design.

To learn more about Jennifer, visit: www.jenniferbellber.com

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Owning The Cape

"Even when I'm a mess, I put on a vest with an S on my chest..." Alicia Keys

This line is from Alicia Keys's song "Superwoman". It's one of the many anthems to womanhood that have been penned over the years. Today I'm writing about my own battle with this label. I am a self-confessed "A type". I do a lot and have a lot of roles. As a working mother of two, and now also working on my coaching business, my life is very full. Some days it’s a bit TOO FULL lol. But I enjoy it. I know that I'm in the right space in time for me right now, so even though my pace is a bit manic at times, it's extremely fulfilling.

I have not always been at peace with this. I've had the title "superwoman" for most of my adult life. But I didn't OWN it. As a matter of fact, you could even say I resented it. I once journaled, "Superwoman is dead. She was crushed by the weight of the world on her shoulders." Wow, right? That's a very strong statement, but that was the space I was in at the time. Totally a victim - "poor me, I've got too much to do". But it is very real when you are in that space - in overwhelm and not able to find a good way to balance it out.

Now, before I go any further, I am NOT claiming to have figured this all out and have the magic formula. But over the years, and with God's grace and the help of some wonderful teachers, I have begun to challenge my perception of things. The truth of the matter is, I LIKE to be busy. And part of my busyness is because of the various relationships I have - family and friends, and taking time to focus on things that matter to me. So now I embrace the fullness of my life - it gives me focus and adds richness to my life. Recently I've been struggling to balance things out, so I thought writing this would help refocus an reenergize. Hope you enjoy it, too.

OWNING THE CAPE
... so how do you shift into wearing the cape proudly? Here are a few suggestions:
 

  1. Feed your spiritual life. Having a relationship with God helps us tap into a higher power and not feel so helpless when things are out of our control. We all experience bumps along the way, (sometimes valleys and derailments!) but knowing that God is with you throughout makes a huge difference. One of my favorite scriptures is Romans 8:28: "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."(KJV). This verse has gotten me through many rough spots, and in retrospect, I find it to be true! Some of my greatest blessings have come after a period of loss or trial. God knows what he is doing, and part of the trick in owning the cape is knowing when to let go and let Him have control.
  2. Acceptance. If you are a superwoman (or superman) wear the cape proudly! Clearly there is something about you that resonates strength, leadership and/or perseverance. All wonderful traits to embrace!
  3. Cultivate a positive attitude. Do you routinely see the glass as "half full" or "half empty"? We've all heard "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade", and similar adages. How you view things makes a huge difference. So rather than seeing your talents as a burden (like I used to), wear that cape proudly. Cultivate a swagger and own the power that God has endowed you with!
  4. Take care of yourself. I'm sure this seems very basic, but when we are juggling a lot, sometimes we slip to the bottom (or off) of the priority list. This can lead to burnout, resentment and worse. Yes, it's easier said than done, but it is absolutely essential. When I wrote that "superwoman is dead" bit I was not even on the radar screen. Always allow some time for yourself - to enjoy things you like to do, spending time with people you love, or just DOING NOTHING. 

Have a wonderful week, and *raising cup of coffee*... here's to the journey!

Peace & Blessings,
TRamsey © 9/2010


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

Stuff

I left home with 3 suitcases and $1000 to my name. Now 45 years later I’m looking at stuff.  We all seem to like “stuff”.  It’s a fact-we are creatures that accumulate stuff!  We buy big houses to put all our stuff into.  And if that doesn’t work, we pay extra to have our stuff in storage units. We work long hours at a job where we cannot see or enjoy our stuff.  The weekend comes and we collapse in bed, ignoring our stuff. 

We tend to hold onto it, carrying that one box of precious stuff as we move from location to location. We purchase stuff, AKA collector’s items, old cars, junk jewelry, antiques, china, Lladro and more, that we don’t have space for anymore.  Maybe these hold memories of our younger days or they remind us of our childhood, our children or loved ones that have passed away.  To part with these seems impossible.

There is a saying that goes, “You have to get rid of the old to make way for the new.” or “If you are feeling stuck in your life, ditch the stuff and do some “Spring Cleaning”. 

To make way for this new “Spring Clearing” with every step we need to take a long hard look at the things that no longer serve us, things that drain us instead of giving us energy, and things that keep us from moving forward. We may also need to leave those toxic friendships behind.  Saying goodbye to old clutter and toxic friends may not be an easy task but it can prove beneficial for bringing in the new.  In the “Spring Season” we welcome new energy, new growth and new beginnings. 

If you need a little gentle nudge to toss stuff, consider these:

  1. First sit back - see if there’s stuff taking over your life.  Cleaning out the clutter is “done in layers”.  In a moment of mindfulness, you may be able to expand your comfort zone and look at what you really need and enjoy in your life and look at what you can remove that’s no longer working. Ask yourself- “Do I allow stuff to identify who I am?”
  2.   If you live alone, make the decision to surround yourself with what makes you happy, what you enjoy most and down size the rest.  If you have an office at home make it uniquely yours and remove the clutter.  Removing clutter opens new doors to opportunities.
  3. Our bodies accumulate toxic residues -that may also need to be cleaned out.  And “Spring” can be the perfect time with the warmer weather it brings.  Try juicing at home, for 5 days. Juicing can give your digestive system a rest.  You may also experience improved immune function.
  4. If you have a ton of skin care products, look at the expiration dates. The epidermis constantly rebuilds itself.  Nothing worse than old skin care products going on your brand new skin! (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0005206/)

We can experience many emotions when we clear the clutter, such as depression-helplessness-survival and fear. Include “Self Care” in your day- this can mean a hug, a walk, a home cooked meal or having a meaningful conversation with a loved one.  Honor your health and embrace change.

Hire a health coach for any growth area you need to work on.  Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach.  For more health tips I invite you to visit www.bitesizepieces.net and https://www.facebook.com/ReverseageWellnessSpa

 

Is Your Co-Worker Really A Vampire? How YOU can protect yourself & others!

One of our popular past radio shows was the around the topic of positive energy and how you can raise the levels in your life to feel invigorated and motivated to accomplish your goals.  It provided great insight on how the community around you could be holding you back from your highest potentials!

How typical is a Monday morning involving your snooze alarm?  There’s an epidemic that has been created by this magical button that gives us the gift of another 5 or 10 minutes to put off the rest of the day a little bit longer.  So my question is WHY?  Why aren't we leaping out of bed in the morning? Why are we putting off going to the gym in lieu of more sleep?  Where is this drainage coming from?

A big part of it is the people and surroundings that we interact with on a daily basis.  It is unconsciously draining you of your internal resources!  The widespread community of people are also known as ENERGY VAMPIRES!  These aren't the sexy Eric Northman types from True Blood, they are the people around you that are literally sucking you dry.  We all know the type; it’s the person that wears you down and no one else wants to be around.  You’re probably thinking in your head “must escape” as soon as they come your way!  It also thrives on the atmosphere we are in, such as a noisy city with lights and sirens or a crowded mall with angry customers and long lines.

Is the solution to slay everything in your path a la Buffy?  Not necessarily… There are other ways to spot the energy vampires in your life and defend yourself from being completely depleted of your vitality!  Read on.

Step One: Self Care.  Any good soldier knows that in order to prepare for battle, they must train first.  Same goes for you.  When we aren’t at our best mentally and physically, we are already more vulnerable right from the start.  Be sure to get enough sleep, exercise, and nutrient rich foods, as well as cut back your hours at work.  Remember you are your own best ally and should be treated with respect.

Step Two:  Establish Boundaries.  Find your baseline and break the cycle!  Vampires do not understand the limits of overstepping; therefore you have to set the tone for you both.  Think about the ways you can reduce contact and shield your energy.  Be vocal if need be.  The more you practice and develop your own personal space, the stronger you will become and the energy vampires will be less attracted to you.

Step Three:  Be Empathetic.  To a point that is.  Try to cut the other person some slack and maybe see it from their point of view.  Sometimes we make assumptions about a situation without really researching if it’s true or not.  The thing is, you may never really find out; and as such shouldn't draw conclusions on just a possibility.  Alternatively, send that other person some love and be on your way.  In turn you will make that person feel better and it also keeps you in a healthy state.

For even more about the types of energy vampires and how you can boost your liveliness to start off the day right, listen to my show on demand now at Blog Talk Radio!  Just click the link below and you are on your way!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lifecoachradionetwork/2013/07/03/new-you-city-coach-chat-wdanielle-mercurio

Did you try out one of the methods discussed or have your own tactics for dealing with negative energy?  Comment and share your thoughts!

 

Danielle Mercurio

Danielle Mercurio

The “New You City Chat” with Danielle Mercurio is on the Featured Life Coach Radio Network every first and third Tuesday of every month at 8:00 PM/EST.  Much of the show's focus is on centering yourself in an overwhelming city environment, building confidence and creating the look and feel of the hot body you desire!  Danielle Mercurio is a lifestyle coach who provides group or individual coaching, facilitates workships, and is a motivational speaker.  You can contact Danielle directly at danielle@daniellemercurio.com or go to www.newyoucitycoaching.com