What Is Weighing You Down?

Weight loss can be as simple as “Exercise more and eat less”! That can work but short term only. The weight that is lost in this way will almost always come back because we have not gone to the root of the problem. We have not figured out what is weighing us down.

Many of us are carrying emotional baggage from past hurt, from abusive/unhappy relationships, not being able to pursue our passion, lack of love, being lonely, past guilt or shame (which is a big one). When we have not healed these emotional issues it becomes hard to “move”.

What can we do to help heal ourselves and in turn be able to get up and “move”?

1. Forgive others and forgive yourself

2. Keep communication open in our relationships and pay attention to what is not working

3. Always spend some time in doing what makes us happy i.e pursuing a hobby, a sport, spending time with friends

4. Seek professional help i.e coaching/ counseling if it seems like it will help

5. Taking lots of deep breaths, laughing out loud and loving ourselves and our loved ones more!!!


Kalpana is a certified Life Coach (ICF) and a certified Eating Psychology Coach from The Institute For The Psychology Of Eating. Her main goal in her coaching practice is to help people to love themselves "now" as opposed to waiting to do that only when they "get there." She has a true passion for helping people cultivate unconditional love for themselves, and helping people to form healthy relationships with food.

 

Icing

Who eats the icing first? 

We find the most delicious cupcake with the best vanilla icing imaginable. We dive into the icing first, ignoring the cake.  Is this you?

This can be used as a metaphor of life. We all love to look good, get our hair dyed, nails done, a little facial improvement with Botox, the latest lipstick color, or a much needed tummy tuck after all those babies. We even go in for that magic diet pill that we hope will finally be the answer, after dozens of diet pills that didn’t work before.

The question is, are we ignoring the real foundation to health, as we focus on the icing, oblivious of the ingredients in the cake? 

Is it all consuming looking at the outside appearance that we ignore what’s going on inside?  Are we forgetting to feed our body with real whole foods?  Does this even come to mind when we look in the mirror? 

There are many reasons we tend to put on weight such as:  Daily lifestyle habits, inflammatory foods, stress, and being estrogen dominant to name a few. Endocrine disruptors can be found in hair dyes, lipstick, nail polish, diet pills and more.  Accumulation of processed foods, sugar, alcohol and toxins may be slowing our capacity to metabolize estrogen.  In fact, the ineffective way we metabolize estrogen can directly sabotage weight loss. 

“ Diet and Lifestyle have a tremendous effect upon your entire neuroendocrine system.”(1)

There are some foods we consume daily that can be sabotaging our health and our weight.  Many diets are based on low fat, no fat, chemicals, colors and dyes, which can disrupt our endocrine system, weaken our immune systems and result in our biochemistry being out of balance. We may even add a mix to that process with more disruptors such as hydrogenated and vegetable oils, HFCS, nitrates, sulfites, and aspartame.  Continuing with fast, easy, now and convenient, we consume flour, sugar and caffeine.  Unfortunately these all lack nutritional value and all contribute to hormone imbalances, stress, weight gain and auto immune disorders. These types of foods alter and destroy the balance of the endocrine system and metabolic function.

Are you feeling bloated? Can’t zip those new pants?

Here are some foods that can cause Visceral Fat:(Abdominal fat, is a type of body fat that exists in the abdomen and surrounds the internal organs.)

Wheat/gluten

2% milk-more fat, sugar & calorie count (increases belly fat)

Soda..diet & regular

Pasta

Muffins

Cupcakes

Croissants

Cheese/dairy

Pizza

Refined Salt

Trans-fats/ fried foods

Alcohol

Potato Chips

Refined Sugar/Candy

Store bought Smoothies

Bottled Salad Dressings

Processed Meats

Junk/Processed Foods

*If you want to tame your cravings, it’s important to note -processed foods pull nutrients from our system leaving us craving for more.

Some Foods that Help Decrease Belly Fat:

Cruciferous vegetables are proven to help fight both stomach fat and xenoestrogens.

So here’s where I became excited about eating this specific class of vegetables.  Cruciferous vegetables, such as broccoli, cabbage, kale, cauliflower are the most useful in helping you burn belly fat. They contain phytonutrients to counter the influence of exogenous estrogen.

Cruciferous vegetables are high in vitamin C and fiber, low in calories and a low energy density which means you can eat large portions without gaining weight. This is a very important factor in weight loss, especially when it comes to eliminating those last couple of stubborn inches.

Statistics say we gain an average of 5 pounds a year.  Simple math:  10 years can put us 50 pounds heavier, wondering how that happened.  What is your 20 year plan?

 Footnotes:

 (1)-Dixie Mills, MD. What is Estrogen Dominance, http://www.womentowomen.com/menopause/estrogendominance.aspx

 Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach, specializing in toxins that can disrupt our skin, metabolic and endocrine health.  www.bitesizepieces.net

Make Food Your Friend

Take a few minutes to conjure up in your mind the image of two women.  One thing they have in common is that they both love to eat.  The first woman loves the food she’s known all her life – Big Macs with the side of fries and the extra-large Diet Coke, of course.  It might be Wendy’s another day, Kentucky Fried Chicken the day after that.  More often than not, she grabs her food in a bag handed to her through a drive through window, and will have finished the meal before she gets home.  She doesn’t cook – she’s usually too hungry when it’s mealtime to take the time to cook, and anyway, the food tastes better soaked in lard and fried in grease.  She may socialize with comfort food, fried chicken and potato salad at a church social, followed by apple pie that is likely to be bought at the grocery store, where they’ve been sitting prettily on the shelf thanks to the preservatives used to keep them looking good.  This woman’s approach to food, the food she loves, is almost frantic.  She loves it so much, she just can’t wait to eat it.  During the day, she may curb her hunger between meals with a Snickers bar or maybe even a “healthy” granola bar or serving of sugary yogurt.  She can’t go to bed without a helping of Ben and Jerry’s – that stuff is to DIE for.  She eats it as if she would die without it, and the fact is, she’s dying because of it.

Can you picture her?  She may be skinny, but more than likely she’s overweight.  For sure her skin isn’t as clear and bright as it could be.  She isn’t grounded.  Food rules her life, and she loves this food.  But it doesn’t love her back.  She suffers from many issues including digestion, stress, hormone, sleep, hair, skin, and mood.

Picture the second woman.  She loves her food, too.  But she loves it in a wholly different way.  She strolls through the farmer’s market on a Saturday morning.  She takes her time inspecting and admiring the fruits and vegetables in the produce bins.  She loads her basket with carefully chosen greens, artichokes, carrots, onions, organic peppers and sweet potatoes.  She adds fresh strawberries, kiwi, melons, and apples.  She might choose an organic chicken and some duck eggs from the same farmer.  She talks to the farmers, asks about their crops and harvests.   Whatever she can’t find she picks up the local grocery store – a little quinoa, spices, olive oil, beans and a bottle of organic red wine.  Perhaps she even has her own garden, where she grows her own eggplant, tomatoes and bib lettuce.  When she gets home she takes her time cooking an organic veggie chili. She cuts the onions, peppers, sweet potatoes and carrots, puts them in the crockpot with the beans adding some tomatoes, kale and spices.  The house fill with the aroma.  She uses her mothers favorite recipe to bake her artichokes.  She makes a salad and pours some wine.  Her company arrives to a meal they’ll all share and savor together.

I’m sure you can picture this second woman, too.  A healthy glow to her skin, a genuine smile.  A peace and serenity about her.  She’s not frantic. She’s not sick.  She’s at peace with herself, and with her food.  The two go hand in hand.

Now – who loves food more?  I mean, truly loves it?  Respects it?  Honors it?  And enjoys it in a peaceful, dignified, grounded way?

The first woman claims she loves food, but the food is her enemy.  It controls her, and if she wanted to “diet,” to lose weight or otherwise get control of herself, she would easily see food as an obstacle to her goals.  Right now, food is something she is panicked about, desperate for, and grabs when she feels she is empty and needs to fill herself up – very much like a dysfunctional relationship, in fact!  If she wanted to change her habits, food would be something she’d have to manage, deprive herself of, conquer and defeat.  It would be a constant struggle, because of her mindset.

The second woman already sees food as her friend, and she doesn’t seem deprived at all – does she?  She takes her time, appreciates the food – the way it looks, feels, smells.  She cooks it carefully, and serves it in the midst of joy and happiness.  She makes it with love.  And the best part?  The food she loves DOES love her back!  She’s healthy and happy, and the food fuels her.  When she eats, she spends more time thinking about what she’s putting in her body so she can live and thrive, not what she’s depriving herself of.

Food – real, whole, nourishing food – is your friend.  Thinking of  your food that way is important for health.  So go to your favorite farmers market and  discover the foods you love, and they will love you back.

Know your food-Because Real Food Changes Everything!

Connie Rogers is a Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach and Wellness Writer. www.bitesizepieces.net

Expert in toxins that can disrupt our metabolic and endocrine health.

What Makes True Weight Loss Different from Weight Watchers. You are not fat - You are toxic!

Beyond specific nutrients and individual needs, getting your nutrients from real foods - whole foods - nutritious foods - is really the only way to go for long-term health, controlling weight and obtaining quality of life.  Or is it?  Some books I have explored are about overweight or obese individuals starving for whole foods and good nutrition.  My findings are- that this is only part of the journey. 

Most people get frustrated with dieting after a few weeks.  Several theories say “that to lose weight you need to increase your activity and eat less”.  Theoretical equations sound so easy, don’t they?  But if losing weight really were this simple, why does the collective girth of the United States continue to grow?  The reason is that the old concept of:  calories in, calories out, doesn’t work any more. 

There is another side to this puzzle.  It’s called:  Chemicalsare keeping us fat. 

Things we do on a daily basis, without thinking, “known as daily habits,” can contribute to weight gain.  There are many symptoms that can be external signs of internal distress such as:  visceral fat, obesity, frequent exhaustion, a foggy brain and mood swings.  Add in to the mix medications, menopause, stress, Candida and endocrine disruptors, it’s easy to see why our weight loss efforts can be sabotaged. 

Our bodies are not separate parts designed to work by themselves.  Our organs, systems, glands, nerves and tissues are designed to work in harmony.  Frequent antibiotic use or choosing foods with antibiotics can wreak havoc on our hormonal balance, causing inflammation and increasing our bottom line. (fat)   Antibiotics can be found in meat and dairy. ("Antibiotic use in animals is out of hand," said Dr. Gail Hansen, a veterinarian and senior officer for the Pew Campaign on Human Health and Industrial Farming, a project aimed at phasing out overuse of antibiotics in food production.”)

Many medications taken by mouth can effect the endocrine system.  Sometimes a quick fix for a headache is to take Tylenol and get back to our fast-paced life but is that the best solution?  Tylenol has been recalled over 16 times. Amounts of acetaminophen as low as 3 to 4 grams in a single dose or 4 to 6 grams over 24 hours have been reported to cause severe liver injury in some people.  Tylenol is an endocrine disruptor.  (http://humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/early/2013/05/12/humrep.det112.full)see also (http://www.medicinenet.com/tylenol_liver_damage/page4.htm)

Did you know that dehydration can easily lead to a headache?  Your brain, gut and liver will thank you when you increase your daily water intake, at lease 10 glasses a day.  And drinking water is one of the best things you can do for weight loss.

Endocrine disruptors that are keeping us fat:

There is now strong evidence that our bodies mistake certain man-made chemicals for naturally occurring hormones that regulate the production and storage of fat cells.

“Evidence has been steadily accumulating that certain hormone-mimicking pollutants, ubiquitous in the food chain, have two previously unsuspected effects.  They act on genes in the developing fetus and newborn to turn more precursor cells into fat cells, which stay with you for life.  And they may alter the metabolic rate, so that the body hoards calories rather than burning them…”  (Taken from Retha Newbold of the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences.)

One leading cause of obesity that often gets lost in this ongoing discussion is how the abundance of toxic chemicals in our air, food, water, and even those lurking in your kitchen and bathroom cabinets are making us fat.  Research by the Mercer University School of Medicine found a higher prevalence of obesity in the participants with high urinary concentrations of a pesticide known as 2,5-dichlorophenol (2,5-DCP).  It’s important to note that 2,5-DCP is one of the most widely used pesticides on the globe. 

An endocrine disruptor called:  “Obesogens" are a quickly expanding class of chemicals that directly and indirectly cause weight gain thru the metabolic, digestive and endocrine systems. They have the ability to alter fat cell development, alter metabolism, and promote fat retention. These are in plastics, food packaging, pesticides and cosmetics.

Smell those Phthalates:  a solvent or fragrance used in pharmaceutical coatings and personal care products.  This is an endocrine disruptor and can be found in:  shampoos, candles, lotions, air fresheners, laundry detergents and dryer sheets.  Using these products can interrupt our ability to loose weight.  

Because phthalates are synthetic estrogens they can mimic natural estrogen in the body.  These toxins get absorbed into the largest organ of our body, our skin.  When our skin is toxic our liver is toxic, and when the liver can no longer process toxins from our body, our system stores the toxins in fat cells!

Besides weight gain, endocrine disruptors can lead us down the path of serious consequences such as diabetes and cardiovascular disorders. “There’s increasing interest in a number of environmental factors that might predispose to type 2 diabetes and inflammation throughout the body” (http://www.loe.org/shows/segments.html?programID=14-P13-00002&segmentID=5)

Mercury is also an endocrine disruptor. It can be found in dental fillings, paint, antiseptics, disinfectants, diuretics, fluorescent bulbs and more.  Diabetes, from mercury toxicity, has hundreds of symptoms; it masquerades under many different medical aliases, and its symptoms are treated by many different specialists. (http://fl.biology.usgs.gov/posters/Ecotoxicology/Mercury_in_Bass/mercury_in_bass.html)

It should be noted that research now shows diabetes to be a metabolic disease, with our genetics only being 3%.

Depressed, Stressed & Fat:

Did you know that some prescription medications have the side effect of weight gain?  This is extremely common with anti-depressive drugs such as Prozac, Zoloft and more.  People on these, can be struggling with drug induced weight gain and will be quite frustrated with years of trying to lose that weight.  These are obesogens at work!

Depression and stress can keep us fat.  In The US the expectation of a "quick fix" is what becomes "normal."  You take a pill, you should feel better.  If you don't feel better, it must not be working, take another.  How we eat and handle stress affects our daily life, in the areas of hormonal & digestive balance, sleep patterns, skin health and weight loss.  Stress can be caused by toxic foods, toxic chemicals and toxic emotions.

Stress causes elevated cortisol levels.  Digestion is disrupted under stress and high cortisol levels holds on to fat storage in our abdominal region.  High stress levels are also noted to increase our cravings for sugar.  (http://www.unm.edu/~lkravitz/Article%20folder/stresscortisol.html

 

Your brain, cravings and science:

Do you believe in science?   Then consider this:  There is science behind the ingredients in junk foods that can make us crave more food and keep us fat. 

Lack of sleep can make you fat:  Lack of sleep can cause weight gain.  Sleep is a restorative process.  The endocrine system increases secretion of certain hormones during sleep. Caffeine interrupts sleep.  De-stressing in fact means eliminating caffeine.  When you don't get enough sleep, you increase your chances of weight gain.  Caffeine is an endocrine disruptor.

Irritation leads to mutation: 

Your body holds onto weight when you have an acid pH.  Ladies this is may be important to you.  What causes your body to become acidic are lifestyle risks that are being promoted through the media.  We've been brainwashed into believing that a lot of advertised foods are actually health promoting, such as non-fat or low- fat. 

Does fat cause fat?  Good fats are essential for our health.  Bad fats are not.  That’s pretty simple.  However, some things that can be very misleading are companies that promote their fat.  I have found deceptive and confusing mis-information for you to review.

Heres’s one that states:  “Types of potentially helpful dietary fat are foods made up mostly of monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats are liquid at room temperature, safflower oil, peanut oil and corn oil.”  

These oils above are some of the most chemically altered foods in our diets, some even are GMO, yet they get promoted as healthy.  “Vegetable oils are found in practically every processed food, from salad dressing to mayonnaise to conventional nuts and seeds.  These oils are some of the most harmful substances you can put into your body.”  (http://www.marksdailyapple.com/healthy-oils/#axzz2r4VcXIJK)

 

What’s in your gut?

Is your toxic body inhibiting your weight loss?  Healthy gut bacteria is an important factor for weight loss.  Almost every person has gut issues and benefits significantly from improvements in their gut and digestive function.  What chemicals are you eating?  (http://www.kisswebpage.com/toxinsandweight/)

The highest dietary sources of PCBs and dioxins are in beef, chicken and pork (34%), dairy products (30%).  These are endocrine disruptors.  Chronic intake of farmed fatty fish contributes, rather than prevents, to insulin resistance and obesity and that these negative effects are, in part, mediated by the presence of POPs in fatty fish.  Eating farmed fish can be toxic and increase your chances for a fatty liver.

Sugar equals fat:

Sugar is an endocrine disruptor.  Consuming high levels of sugar, on a regular basis, chronically raises insulin levels in the blood, which selectively deposits energy from foods into fat cells.  Excess sugar eventually affects every organ in the body.

Initially, sugar is stored in the liver.  Since the liver's capacity is limited, a daily intake of refined sugar (above the amount of natural sugars found in whole foods) soon makes the liver expand.  When the liver is filled to its maximum capacity, the excess glycogen is returned to the blood in the form of fatty acids. These are taken to every part of the body and stored in the most inactive areas:  the belly, the buttocks, the breasts and the thighs. 

What YOU can do?

Being aware of how our body functions, acts and reacts to toxins in the world around us, makes us realize that if we are a fat society, we are really carrying around pounds and pounds of extra toxins.

Eating with intelligence is always recommended.  If you choose a detox, remember this is only part of the puzzle. Your detox must include elimination of all endocrine disruptors.  If not you will be missing a very important step.

Your body can loose weight naturally when given the chance with the necessary information and support you deserve from me, your health coach.

Conclusion:

Looking deeper at our relationship with our toxic environment maybe considered weird.  Being sad, out of control and toxic somehow found it’s way to being the norm.  Some of us may choose life in the fast lane and don’t schedule time to relax and eat or address what can be eating us.  We may feel the need to have control over pleasure or control our pain with drugs or alcohol.  We blindly trust agencies hired to protect us from toxins. Unfortunately how we disregard the integrity of our food system is a goal in this country, with our agriculture dependent on pollution, chemicals, pesticides and antibiotics, ignoring true health.

As a Certified Integrated Health Coach, I specialize in toxins that can disrupt your metabolic and endocrine health.  I can teach you how to balance your hormones, remove chemicals and lose weight effortlessly.  Like others that have joined my program, you can experience weight loss for life and never struggle again.


Connie Rogers is an Expert in toxins that can disrupt our skin, metabolic and endocrine health. Lifestyle Educator, Reiki Master, 37 years Certified Cosmetologist/Esthetician, Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach, Accredited through American Association of Drugless Practitioners, Published Author, Wellness Writer, Owner Reverseage Wellness Essential Oils

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Can We Co-Exist With Dieting?

We live in a society where dieting has become the norm. It’s now a billion dollar industry and yet diets still fail 95% of the time. Would you board a plane if you knew it only landed 5% of the time? Why is dieting any different? The issue is that we are often set up to crash. Weight loss companies need repeat customers in order to thrive and unfortunately, we suffer as a result. The body is manipulated into losing weight in ways impossible to maintain. Food is no longer food but a number (calories, points), or an emotion (good, bad). Being on a diet becomes a difficult, fearful and unpleasant way of life, which often leads to reverse effects such as overeating and self-blame. You start to think you didn’t try hard enough or something is wrong with you. Now, the mind is reversed to thinking that the only way to happiness again is by being thin. And who’s there with open arms, ready to help tackle the weight battle again, only this time for real?? The industry of course! The vicious cycle is back on.

I’m not trying to negate that the diet industry is completely out to get you. There are definitely some good, solid programs that can help you succeed, however often there is one piece missing. We forget to talk to the one person who knows you better than anyone. Yourself.

Diet and exercise programs can be impersonal. We put all of our trust into someone else’s ideas and rules. They can make you feel like you got yourself into this situation and so continuing to entrust in yourself would be a bad idea. But by ignoring your intuition, we weaken our innate ability to feel hunger and fullness as well as our natural relationship with food to be used as fuel. We also never explore why we developed such issues with food in the first place.

If you feel you that maybe you would like to shift to a more manageable way at a healthy non-diet lifestyle, here are some ideas for the week to get you started.

Start slow. It takes time for your body to adjust and figure out what works best. We cannot plant a seed and then expect it to grow into something grand and beautiful within a day. We must nurture it and be patient. Remember that not every day will be perfect and that is okay. Explore what went wrong and try again, without any pressure or judgments.

Use positive reinforcement. Attitude is a major super hero when comes to attacking pesky pounds! It comes down to believing in yourself and that you deserve to be happy – starting TODAY! Not only will it help you lose weight, but maintain it as well. When a person becomes so invested in the idea that looking a certain way will bring contentment, they very often find that they still are unhappy even after they achieve their goal. This can ultimately lead to self-sabotage and weight gain. By starting to embrace the mindset that you are worth it, you can connect to your inner happiness and use that to guide you even further on your journey.

Befriend yourself. Next time you are looking in the mirror or before you go to bed, give yourself a compliment. It doesn’t have to be about your body if that makes you uncomfortable. Start small. You can note the awesome way you accessorized your outfit or how you paid all your bills on time this month. We are often quick to remind ourselves of the things we are doing wrong, however the positive details should not go unnoticed either. By doing this, you can develop a better sense of self appreciation while building your confidence. And who doesn’t want that??

Remember that is possible to co-exist with food. It just takes a bit of enthusiasm and persistence and soon enough you’ll be on your way to creating the body you want without the agony.

 

Danielle Mercurio

Danielle Mercurio

Danielle Mercurio is a personal life coach and founder of New You City Coaching. She is a passionate about helping city dwellers find balance amongst the chaos, as well as implementing simple and quick solutions to finding inner confidence and outer hotness.