5 Things To Do This Year

Hello good people – and HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

Take a deep breath – can’t you just smell the “new car scent” in the air? This is one of my favorite times of the year. Many of us use the New Year as a turning point, a fresh start, a re-commitment to taking our lives to the next level. 

But SOME of us take it too far. We become overly obsessed with changing each and every area of our lives. And then we get overwhelmed. And because we aren’t able to focus on more than a few new things at a time, we inevitably fall short on some things. And instead of celebrating the good, we beat ourselves up because of the failures. Does this sound familiar?  If so, this message is just for you! As usual, I would love to hear any feedback you'd like to share! 

Trina


As you can imagine, I’ve been busy working on all my New Years stuff. This is naturally a busy season for coaches. As I was pondering what to share with you amid the myriad of New Years wishes, self-improvement gurus, fitness and diet advice, I decided to just give you a KISS instead.  (Keep It Simple Stupid).

So, here are my top 5 tips for making 2015 a great year.

1.  Ditch Resolutions!  Set goals and intentions instead.  Yes, I said it! I stopped making resolutions some time ago. But I do set aside time to really focus on the year behind while deciding what’s on tap for the new year. I’m NOT saying that you shouldn’t work on new stuff for the new year – of course you should! What I am saying is that instead of using resolutions, which many of us tend to talk about heading into the new year and not again after February. Rather, set some meaningful goals and intentions for yourself – and work steadily towards them.  More on that next…

2.  Focus. It’s so very tempting to try to do it all. It’s good to push yourself and expect more. I believe wholeheartedly in raising the bar and not settling. But if you try to take on too many new things on top of what is most assuredly a very busy life, you are setting yourself up for failure.  Choose a very small set of goals to focus on moving this year. Make them big goals. Make them impactful – things that will help you move closer to the life of your dreams or improve the quality of your life.  I recommend no more than 3, but if you must – 5 at the most.

3.  Take one step at a time. But most importantly – GET STARTED! Yes, this sounds elementary, but it’s true. Sometimes we heap so many expectations upon ourselves to ‘nail it this time’ that it paralyzes us. Start where you are – take it a step at a time, and you’ll see results.

4.   Don’t go it alone. Any journey is better with friends. Moral support and accountability partners are the key to making progress on your goals.  You can get this in a variety of ways. Enlist a workout buddy to hit the gym together. For big goals, coaches and mastermind groups can help you stay on track.

5.    Cheat – a little. All work and no play makes Jack/Jane a dull boy/girl.  Don’t make it all about work and achievement. Reward yourself along the way. Build in days off if you are pressing towards a big goal. 

Most of all - remember to have fun along the way. We all get WAY TOO SERIOUS about this stuff. Push, but not too hard that you stress yourself out and don't get to enjoy the ride. 

C-ya next time! 

Trina

PS... As always, I'm available for 1:1 communication and motivation in-between these messages. I'm happy to provide a free Discovery Call to talk things out and see if coaching might help you achieve your goals this year. Email me at tramsey43@gmail.com and we can set something up! 


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

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Affirmation Of The Day: “Treatment is happening on all levels, and my future is benefiting now!”

I found this affirmation and thought it was appropriate to share what came up for me around it. For most of my young adult life I thought I wasn’t good enough. Then I started to dig deep to find the answers why because I didn’t want to live in that space anymore. With the help of others and life experiences, I relearned that I was in fact good enough and my confidence started to build, even though I had always excelled at everything I did. However, now things were different, I felt I had a purpose in my life. I continued to work to bring my inner child to the surface and then another life event happened. My mother, my best friend, was diagnosed with late stage ovarian cancer. I did all I could to support her, going to doctors’ appointments with her, doing research on clinical trials at medical libraries in Manhattan in an effort to save her life when the statistics read differently for her disease. I was the buffer between her doctors receiving news that I didn’t want to fall on her ears. It just wasn’t necessary. I wanted her to live the time she had left in the moment and with dignity. At the end my sister and I decided to take her home to hospice to live her last days in the comfort of her home and after 2 days the way she passed will be forever etched in our minds. It was painful, yet beautiful at the same time.

So this is where I started to fully step into my passion. I started fundraising for women’s cancers and became quite successful at it. For me the greatest gift was touching others’ lives and creating connections that might not have been made if I hadn’t had the life experience that put me in this arena. I did this for years and then one day I thought I would stop since I figured I had done all I could in raising dollars for research and support of women’s cancers.

Shortly after, my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer and I knew I couldn’t stop. A year later my own breast cancer diagnosis came all of the experiences that I had gone through with my mom, sister and myself lead me to becoming a life coach with a niche in working with women facing a cancer diagnosis and undergoing treatment.

Throughout my training and even in building my business I felt the old voices of “I’m not good enough” coming back and at times I wanted to give all of it up and throw the baby out with the bathwater. I internalized things and thought to myself: “I’m not good enough because if I managed my cancer journey so well, how could I think of serving others when I had not experienced some of the parts of their journey they had?” I was comparing myself to others and this was a huge mistake. I knew in my heart because of all I had been through I could inspire others. That had been my passion since I was a child.

It was at that time, and because of the benefit of my life experiences, coach training and the supportive individuals in my circle that I looked back at all of the events of my life and how I had inspired others with my strength. And that is where I came to the place where I fully realized that my life purpose was inspiring others as a survivorship coach and empowering women to get through fearful and overwhelming events of their lives and to educate and give them the tools to get rid of all of the “I’m not good enough” that resides in them so that they could rebuild their lives and create new beginnings during treatment and after cancer.

Clearly this has been a process for me over many years and I think I was finally able get to the place where I realized my purpose of inspiring others via the help of a friend and fellow coach. Knowing her and seeing all of the challenges she has gone through, far more than mine, and seeing her take one each punch, each step at a time with the will and determination and unstoppable attitude and knowing I could be by her side to love, inspire her and make her smile even brighter helped me seal the deal.

The win, win of this later experience has been that even in the face of her own adversity, she has managed to love, inspire and make me smile. We have been mirrors for each other and inspiring each other in ways we never imagined. We are 2 amazing coaches with the ability to inspire others in their journey like no others!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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Cancer, It’s A Marathon, Not A Sprint!

When surgeries and treatment are over it’s time to embark on new territory. Adjusting to life after treatment can be challenging. Treatments and doctor visits stop and in some cases survivors can feel very alone and isolated. You can be left with the feeling of: “What direction do I go in now? I feel so lost!” These feelings and emotions that come up at this stage of the journey are completely valid and normal for what you are going through. Don’t forget, for the last year to two years you have probably been using all of the energy that you have to get from point “A” to “B” and all of your doctors, nurses and other caregivers have become your family over the months and years of treatment. So when the routine ends, of course you are left feeling a little bewildered as to where to turn next.

During this time, your relationships may have also changed along with other changes like career adjustments, eating and exercise habits. You may also be feeling fatigue as a result of anesthesia’s, chemotherapy or hormone therapies. Your energy and engagement definitely feel different as well.

Although this can feel like a downer to most survivors in that moment of discovery, the good news is that we all have choices and there are so many options open to us. Consider this a time for recreating your life and your perspective of how you view your life and how you want to live it moving forward. It is really all an education and growth process. Some of the choices that we can make from the “get go” are letting go of how you “used to do things”, e.g., constantly picking up around the house and making sure laundry is folded immediately and that the house is pristine or whatever your “used to be” modus of operation was. This is the time to learn to let go of the little things take the time to focus on what matters, mainly healing and living! Learn to ask for help, delegate to others and most of all exercise self-care! One of the best ways, aside of physical activity, to decrease fatigue is to decrease stress levels and this may mean doing less, or doing things differently and that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It can open you up to so much more of what you really want to do. You might also want to give yourself permission to take a break or nap or simply take some “alone” time for yourself to reflect on what is next for you.

I encourage my clients to take a look back and embrace how far they have come, then to look at their old way of doing things to see if those old thoughts and behaviors still serve them. In many cases, your eyes can be opened to a whole new way of living and you might even be wondering why you hadn’t made these choices in the past. The answer to that question really doesn’t matter, what matters is that you realize that you have these choices in the now are you are ready to start acting upon them.

Again, it’s a marathon, not a sprint, and the process can be an enlightening one! If you need support along the way, contact me!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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New Beginnings After Breast Cancer - A Survivor's Story

So much comes up when we receive our initial cancer diagnosis. I remember receiving mine and I immediately reframed it to taking cancer out of the equation. I told my husband right there in the moment: “this isn’t cancer, this is the boob job I always wanted.” And yes, the tears definitely fell from my eyes throughout the experience, but I kept an Rx of humor in my back pocket along with many other coping skills I had collected over the years.

For me personally, I was able to embrace a positive mindset immediately because of the lengthy and rocky relationship I had with cancer. I was caregiver to my mother who died of complications of being treated with chemo for her stage 4 ovarian cancer in 2001. She passed away and 3 days later I gave birth to my first born. To say the least, this was a very dark period for me but when I came out of it I vowed to turn all of my negative life events into positive ones. This was a conscious choice that I made on how I wanted to live my life moving forward. It helped me shed so much of the negativity that surrounded me as a child. It further lead me to being very proactive in my own health, pursuing genetic testing and becoming a top individual fundraiser for women’s cancers for an organization based in NYC and LA. Then I had the experience of my sister being diagnosed with breast cancer and a year later I received the same diagnosis.

I had a lot of tools to get me through my diagnosis and treatment. However, I still went through the entire process. Initially, I had feelings of being overwhelmed and anxious, followed by doubt and a little depression which ultimately lead me to acceptance. I had doubts on what my life would look like “after cancer” and how people would receive me. Getting through and to all of these emotions is key to getting to a place of peace and acceptance. When you get to that point you are fully able to accept what has been placed on your doorstep so that you can put your efforts into working on what you can control in your life and letting go of what you can’t. What you can do is take control of your health and your life from this point on.

Giving up control of “doing it all” for the sake of others and getting support is also critical, followed by self-care. There is no other way to fully heal unless you learn to go down this path. So many of my clients have trouble giving up the old mindset of: “If I don’t do it myself, it won’t get done” or finally coming to the place where they realize everything they have done up until this point in their lives has been to please others and they rarely do anything for themselves first. They get to a place where they realize that it is “OK” to allow them to receive!

You see, with a cancer diagnosis, not only do thoughts and emotions come up around a diagnosis and treatment, they also come up about who you are at your core. I am not one to minimize the impact of a cancer diagnosis (I saw my mother through her last days in hospice, they are forever etched in my mind and I have had my own physical and emotional journey with breast cancer) but I try to help my clients come to a place where they can see the opportunity to create awareness of who they are,  how they are living and how they can use this life altering experiencing to reassess their lives to reduce stress which feeds not only physical healing but in the mind as well and making choices to pursue the life you have always wanted to live. This can include looking at yourself and why you act as you do on a deeper level, looking at your relationships to see which serve you and those that do not, looking at the patterns in your lifestyle that have kept you on the same page and left you wondering why you are still there and so much more. When you go to your core to find out who you really are vs. who you think you should be, magical things can happen.

The next step is taking action and making choices to change your life. The choice is yours!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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Have You Been Affected By Breast Cancer?

  • Have you been recently diagnosed with breast cancer? Are you overwhelmed by all of the draining thoughts and emotions that you are experiencing?
  • Are you in the middle of treatment and struggling with fatigue and experiencing stress?
  • Have you just finished treatment and feel like all of a sudden you are lost, your life has come to a complete halt or you feel like you have fallen off of a cliff?

If you fall into any of the above categories you are reading the right post!

I have the experience of being a caregiver to my mom, seeing my sister through a diagnosis of breast cancer and I have walked in your shoes as a breast cancer survivor myself and now as a survivorship coach. Through the incredible world of coaching, I help women cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience so that they can feel confident and in control of their lives again.

Unlike others that you are trying to connect to, I totally get where you are, what you are going through and trust me…EVERYTHING that you are experiencing is perfectly valid and normal as you walk through these life altering events! On top of all of, other “stuff” comes up as you walk each step along the way.  You change, relationships change, and your career may change. Life is all about change. The good news is that once we know and accept that change is a constant in our lives, we can manage it and that is all about the commitment that you have to loving yourself as an individual.  The next step is making a choice and commitment to yourself.

I help women going through each of the above stages transform their lives by owning and experiencing their emotions, getting to the bottom of where they are coming from and letting them pass so that you can shift to being present of a place of healing energy. I will educate you and ask you questions around how you can manage stress and reduce fatigue by changing your thoughts, patterns, and as a result your lifestyle.  We will look at how you show up in life, how that suits you and what you want to keep and what you want to let go of or change.  We will also work on adjusting on going from treatment back to daily living. In the relationship as coach and client you will be able to finally move from being “stuck” to a place to where you are feeling peaceful, at ease, accepting of and I control of your life once again.

Please reach out to me if you are interested in working together and entering into a coaching relationship where we will create a safe and healing environment and the space to create sustainable change in living your New Beginning.


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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5 Tips For Menopause

Menopause at 47, 51 or 60 is no reason to accept someone else’s idea of what your limitations are.  We can all be destined to have vibrant health before, during and after menopause and banish years of discomfort and hormone imbalances.  In fact now is the time to discover the best in yourself, including your power to finally deal with some core issues that can lead  to weight gain, depression, brain fog, hot flashes and insomnia. 

1-Listen to a thyroid that has been overloaded with toxins for years. Thyroid issues may be highly aggravated by the onset of menopause.  In fact Menopause &  Thyroid Symptoms may look alike. These are, Exhaustion, Brain Fog, Depression, Lethargy, Changes in Energy, Hair Loss, Changes in Skin Color and Hair Texture, Change in Libido, Insomnia, and Anxiety. 

2- The Digestive, adrenal, inflammation connection.  Leaky Gut could be implicated as a primary contributor to  food allergies, migraines and RA.  There may be toxins in our system which may add to a broader pattern of inflammation which often shows up during Menopause.  Many women have been sensitive to certain foods for decades but only realize it after they lose estrogen’s soothing effect on the digestive tract.   

“Most allergies involve an inflammatory process.  As the adrenal function decreases, allergies worsen.  As the adrenal glands heal, allergies are markedly reduced.” http://cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=488.15 

3- Sugar is an endocrine disruptor and robs the body of nutrients, testosterone, B 12 and Calcium.  Sugar can increase insomnia, mood swings and body fat, cause inflammation and high cholesterol levels in the body.  Hypoglycemia increases menopausal symptoms and mood swings.  Sugar also reduces the amount of oxygen in the blood and thus increasing the impact that toxins can create in the body.   The body will find a way to get rid of toxins and this typically results in the body saying “Too many toxins…must sweat these out through the largest organ, “The Skin.” (hot flashes) 

4- Commonalities to Menopause are Cravings, Inflammation, Emotions and Hormonal Imbalances.  Did you know many symptoms of Candida overgrowth such as weight gain,  muscle fatigue and early menopause can be caused by hormonal imbalances?  Candida can also be a causative factor to cravings.  In Menopause, the links between hormonal balance, toxicity, inflammation and body fat aren’t the only factors that block weight loss. Unresolved emotional issues can often be the root cause of unhealthy eating habits.

Hormones are tremendously powerful in coordinating the actions of our organs and glands and affecting our quality of life!  Low estrogen levels can cause depression, headaches, migraines, and blood sugar irregularities.  Migraines explained.  http://eepurl.com/ZH-cz 

Progesterone is derived from cholesterol.  Cholesterol levels can change with menopause.  http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10916282  “Without inflammation being present in the body, there is no way that cholesterol would accumulate in the wall of the blood vessel which can be dangerous.  Without inflammation, cholesterol would move freely throughout the body as nature intended.  It is inflammation that causes cholesterol to become trapped.” (Dr. Dwight Lundell)

5- A clogged lymph system can cause headaches.  When our lymph is clogged our body looks for alternative ways to get rid of the trash.  Plan B is making mucous out of it.  Lots of mucous in the morning can be a symptom of a problem.  By gently promoting the movement of lymph with dry brushing, the body detoxifies and decongests. http://www.wisegeekhealth.com/what-is-the-function-of-the-lymphatic-system.htm

With stress, inflammation and hormone changes sometimes we forget to take a moment to breathe.

Here are some tips: 

A- Deep breathing is one of the best ways to move lymph fluid through your body.  Our lymph system is a pressure system that runs best on physical activity and movement.  Our lymph can become blocked when we are feeling stuck or unable to express ourself.” http://www.womentowomen.com/detoxification/the-lymph-system-and-your-health-2/ 

B- Stress can negatively affect the adrenal glands and increase inflammation.  Begin an exercise program.  Exercise improves mood, prevents dementia and balances hormones.

 C- Remember to Hydrate Your Body, and avoid mucus forming foods such as sugar, gluten, rBGH dairy and processed foods..

Follow thru with lifestyle changes and get the support you need, feel better and see results.

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Fear Around Cancer Recurrence

I was at a conference this weekend, among a group of women who had metastatic breast cancer. The courage and the fear that these women had was amazing! They all came to the discussion wanting answers to individual questions and the group provided a safe place for them to share all of their fears and accomplishments. It was amazing how at the beginning of the discussion the energy was kind of wary in the room, but by the end of the discussion there was a sense of unity among the group!

One woman expressed how she had beat the disease for many years without recurrence, but now because of that length of time that had gone by, she had a feeling that “the other shoe might drop” and that maybe it was time for her disease to recur. She also expressed that if and when she passed from her disease she was concerned about all of the grief and pain her children would have to endure.

Fear of recurrence is a very real, valid and normal feeling for survivors of any cancer and it is always there lurking in the back of one’s mind. As a survivorship coach it was amazing what the group, myself included, tried to share with this woman and that was to shift her perspective to not seeing the length of her “well-being” as a fear, but more of an accomplishment of all of the achievements since her diagnosis and perhaps the longer “out” since diagnosis and treatment she was, how much better life could be. We also shared a change of perception of why not enjoying her children and have her children enjoy her in the here and now in lieu of thinking about the future, which often causes fear and anxiety.

For myself, I will admit, fear of recurrence is always there for me, but I don’t live my life daily in that state or rather I reframe my thoughts so see and live a better picture. I have learned that there are triggers for me that prompt my fear of recurrence. Since I have had so many losses in my life, e.g., divorce, loss of my mom and days later giving birth to my daughter, and via the diagnosis of breast cancer and losing the “old me” that when things start going well for me and in a very energetic direction, that is when my fear of recurrence comes in. Somewhat like this woman, when things are going my way, thoughts like: “Omg, things are going so well, this is too good to be true, my cancer must be coming back!!!” come up for me. This can be a very real and frightening experience and it can bring you back to the day of diagnosis. When these draining thoughts come up for me I catch myself and tell myself that the messages that I am hearing are my “trigger points” and that they are coming from an old voice inside of my head that is no longer serving me. Once I get to this place I am able to shift and refocus my thoughts to the here and now.

If you think about it, the here and now is all any of us really have so why not inhale and embrace every moment of it. Just remember a few things: you are not alone and all of the thoughts, feelings that are coming up for you are perfectly valid and normal for where you are. The thing is, you have a choice to change your thoughts and that can change your life!

If you are need some support in your journey in this regard, reach out to me or another professional. You can live a life of peace and happiness with cancer.  Cancer does not define you, you define you and changing your thoughts can create sustainable change for you! 

Coaching provides a safe, confidential environment for you to share your experiences, while collecting tools to shift your perspective from draining thoughts to healing thoughts.  You can email me at gina@newbeginningswithgina.com, visit my fb page: facebook.com/ginacostacoach, visit my website: gina@ewbeginningswithgina.com or just give me a call 917-882-2402. 


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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Myths & Misinformation: What Depletes Calcium

There are two types of calcium found in nature (organic and inorganic). The human body can only recognize and utilize one type of calcium: organic calcium. This bio-available type of calcium found in fruits and vegetables. The physical characteristic of organic calcium is the only available form that the body needs and uses.

“Organic calcium is found within the body in the matrix, spongy living core of the bones. Animal and dairy products contain inorganic calcium, which is not recognized, nor utilized by the body.” Dr. Stanley Kaplan, MD has found that organic calcium losses were elevated markedly in individuals for 3-4 hours after a meal rich in calcium from dairy and high protein.”

"The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition published a long term study observing a diet consisting of 75 grams of protein per day, along with 1,400 mg. of calcium. It was discovered that a greater amount of calcium was lost through urine than was being absorbed into the body, creating a negative calcium balance. This study confirmed what many health specialists suspected. Protein consumption has the greatest impact on calcium depletion of the bones, even greater than the level of calcium intake through diet."

"A Study of Osteoporotic Fractures Research Group speaking on dietary animal protein intake, suggest an increase in vegetable protein intake and a decrease in animal protein intake may decrease bone loss and the risk of hip fracture."

In the book “The Milk Imperative” the author shows how dairy milk feeds nanobacteria, thus causing many serious diseases. Commenting on the book Dr. Amy Lanou (Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine, USA) said: “There is a compelling argument that today’s pasteurized milk, in all its guises, has virtually no redeeming features at all, and serves only to cause disease and poor health. By simply switching from dairy to non-dairy milk we will make a dramatic and long-lasting improvement to our health.”

“In Greece the average milk consumption doubled from 1961 to 1977 (and was even higher in 1985), and during the period 1977 - 1985 the age adjusted osteoporosis incidence almost doubled too. In Hong Kong in 1989 twice as much dairy products were consumed as in 1966 and osteoporosis incidence tripled in the same period. Now their milk consumption level is almost “European”, and so is osteoporosis incidence.” 

“Independent medical studies, those not funded by the Dairy Council, have concluded that excessive calcium found in the body (in the blood stream ) will not be recognized.  Instead, this inorganic calcium from animal sources are removed from the blood and collected in the kidneys.  This can lead to the development of kidney stones.  The body requires calcium for life and daily bodily repair.  Since there is no usable calcium available the brain instructs the bone matrix to release organic calcium into the blood stream.  The net result is a loss of calcium from the bone matrix.  This loss causes a weakening of the bone resulting in osteoporosis according to Dr. John McDougall, M.D.”

“Dr. Colin Campbell, Ph.D., professor of Nutritional Sciences, Cornell University, has studied nutritional bio-chemistry for forty years. He is the director of the China- Oxford Cornell Study, which is the largest study of diet and disease in medical history, and supports the necessity of organic calcium intake. He agrees that calcium intake should be from fruit and dark green leafy vegetable sources. The absorption of organic calcium takes place readily from the blood in its vital role of carrying out the metabolic processes in the body.”

What other habits can deplete calcium?

* lack of exercise can decrease calcium absorption

* antacids deplete calcium

* caffeine in its many forms, including chocolate

* stressed adrenals deplete calcium

* soda & diet soda depletes calcium

* medications deplete the body of essential calcium absorption such as antibiotics and antidepressants

* magnesium deficiency can result in low levels of calcium

Footnotes:

Dr. Stanley Kaplan, MD - http://www.notmilk.com/kradjian.html

Hip fracture with milk -  http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11124760

Chemicals in every glass of milk http://www.naturalnews.com/033075_milk_chemical_contamination.html


Connie Rogers is an Expert in toxins that can disrupt our skin, metabolic and endocrine health. Lifestyle Educator, Reiki Master, 37 years Certified Cosmetologist/Esthetician, Certified Integrated Holistic Health Coach, Accredited through American Association of Drugless Practitioners, Published Author, Wellness Writer, Owner Reverseage Wellness Essential Oils

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Leaning Into Gratitude To Cope With A Loved One’s Cancer

Russ Terry

Russ Terry

The C word.  Cancer.  No one wants to hear it, especially from an immediate family member.  A few weeks ago, my Mom phoned with startling news:  her annual mammogram had turned up something “highly suspicious for malignancy.” I was stunned, shaken, sad, upset, scared.  You name it and I felt it – such a range of emotions.  I’m not going to lie or sugar coat it.  It’s been a rough few weeks.

On the positive side, however, there’s so much I have been grateful for in this situation.  Oh, let me count the ways:

1.       I’m grateful that she’s gotten her mammogram every year for 30 years and does a self-exam on the first of every month.  (Great advice for all women!)  Even if it did turn out to be cancer, I was optimistic that it was caught early and hopeful that this time next year we could not only go on the vacation to Italy that we’ve been planning, but could use the occasion to celebrate life, health, how much we love each other, and our Italian heritage, of which we’re very proud!

2.       I’m grateful for an incredibly wise and supportive group of colleagues.  Right before this all happened, I came to know not one or two but THREE people who would prove immensely helpful.  Two are breast cancer survivors and one is an expert on grief.  It’s like God planted them in my life to make sure I was OK.  Wow.

3.       My friends have been excellent.  I’m so grateful for their support, prayers, positive thinking and encouragement.  Thinking about them makes me smile.  So many have passed on good wishes to me, which I have forwarded to my Mom.  She is grateful, too, which makes me even happier to have all of them – and her – in my life.

4.       I’m so glad I have a job that’s flexible and enabled me to be by her side for her pre-lumpectomy consultation with her surgeon.  I’m grateful for the doctor and his calmness, and that my Mom, my sister and my Mom’s significant other could all be there with her.  We even went out to eat afterward, which we otherwise would never have done on a random Wednesday in early August.  It was lovely!

5.       Finally, I’m grateful that we got some very good news within the last few days.  Although Mom does have breast cancer, it has not spread. The surgeon said that he’ll likely be able to get everything out when he does the lumpectomy (on September 11th, please keep us in your prayers), and that she won’t need chemotherapy.  Phew!  What a relief.

When I shared the good news with people who are grappling with more difficult cancer experiences, I felt so guilty.  But they were incredibly happy for me.  I’m grateful
for their generous spirits.

You may get good news.  You may not.  Either way, you can always find something to be grateful for, even in tough situations — and now I know ESPECIALLY in tough situations.

Interesting postscript: I sent this to my Mom for her review before submitting it.  I wanted to make sure she was OK with it.  Here’s what she said: “Even if the diagnosis had been the type that needed chemo and radiation I would still be positive because more and more people are surviving cancer.” So inspiring, right??


For information on Russ, visit his website www.russterrylifecoach.com.

Russ Terry and Grief Coach, Jill Smolowe, are co-hosting an in-person workshop, “The Grief-Gratitude Connection,” to be held in New York City on September 15.  For more info and to purchase tickets, visit: http://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-grief-gratitude-connection-strategies-for-easing-the-stress-of-caregiving-and-the-pain-of-loss-tickets-9972777847

Owning The Cape

"Even when I'm a mess, I put on a vest with an S on my chest..." Alicia Keys

This line is from Alicia Keys's song "Superwoman". It's one of the many anthems to womanhood that have been penned over the years. Today I'm writing about my own battle with this label. I am a self-confessed "A type". I do a lot and have a lot of roles. As a working mother of two, and now also working on my coaching business, my life is very full. Some days it’s a bit TOO FULL lol. But I enjoy it. I know that I'm in the right space in time for me right now, so even though my pace is a bit manic at times, it's extremely fulfilling.

I have not always been at peace with this. I've had the title "superwoman" for most of my adult life. But I didn't OWN it. As a matter of fact, you could even say I resented it. I once journaled, "Superwoman is dead. She was crushed by the weight of the world on her shoulders." Wow, right? That's a very strong statement, but that was the space I was in at the time. Totally a victim - "poor me, I've got too much to do". But it is very real when you are in that space - in overwhelm and not able to find a good way to balance it out.

Now, before I go any further, I am NOT claiming to have figured this all out and have the magic formula. But over the years, and with God's grace and the help of some wonderful teachers, I have begun to challenge my perception of things. The truth of the matter is, I LIKE to be busy. And part of my busyness is because of the various relationships I have - family and friends, and taking time to focus on things that matter to me. So now I embrace the fullness of my life - it gives me focus and adds richness to my life. Recently I've been struggling to balance things out, so I thought writing this would help refocus an reenergize. Hope you enjoy it, too.

OWNING THE CAPE
... so how do you shift into wearing the cape proudly? Here are a few suggestions:
 

  1. Feed your spiritual life. Having a relationship with God helps us tap into a higher power and not feel so helpless when things are out of our control. We all experience bumps along the way, (sometimes valleys and derailments!) but knowing that God is with you throughout makes a huge difference. One of my favorite scriptures is Romans 8:28: "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."(KJV). This verse has gotten me through many rough spots, and in retrospect, I find it to be true! Some of my greatest blessings have come after a period of loss or trial. God knows what he is doing, and part of the trick in owning the cape is knowing when to let go and let Him have control.
  2. Acceptance. If you are a superwoman (or superman) wear the cape proudly! Clearly there is something about you that resonates strength, leadership and/or perseverance. All wonderful traits to embrace!
  3. Cultivate a positive attitude. Do you routinely see the glass as "half full" or "half empty"? We've all heard "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade", and similar adages. How you view things makes a huge difference. So rather than seeing your talents as a burden (like I used to), wear that cape proudly. Cultivate a swagger and own the power that God has endowed you with!
  4. Take care of yourself. I'm sure this seems very basic, but when we are juggling a lot, sometimes we slip to the bottom (or off) of the priority list. This can lead to burnout, resentment and worse. Yes, it's easier said than done, but it is absolutely essential. When I wrote that "superwoman is dead" bit I was not even on the radar screen. Always allow some time for yourself - to enjoy things you like to do, spending time with people you love, or just DOING NOTHING. 

Have a wonderful week, and *raising cup of coffee*... here's to the journey!

Peace & Blessings,
TRamsey © 9/2010


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina