What is the worst possible scenario that could be? It’s not always our truth!

Don’t let the title of this article lead you to a negative mindset, it’s not meant to. It is all about shifting to a more positive and realistic frame of mind. In coaching we call this “safety net” coaching and we use it to let clients explore what the worst possible outcome in a situation might be, because most of the time it isn’t the truth and just a story or a flurry of thoughts that we create in our minds that only serves us by holding us back and keep us stuck in non-movement and in a place of fear. It came to mind for me earlier today as fear came up for me. It was then that I realized that I had unknowingly used safety net coaching in my own life challenges and I thought I would share some examples of what that looks like. Fear can be a very real feeling, yet it can also be a debilitating one and in that sense not real and it holds us back from what we truly want.

So for me in certain life challenges and to get to the next level I had to ask myself the question: “What is the worst possible thing that could happen?” When I thought about the worst and wrapped my mind around that, I think it lead me to: “Ok, so what is the best possible outcome?” and it allowed me to process things in a more realistic and present mindset.

When I was deciding if I wanted to end a marriage in my late 20’s, I was terrified to leave the relationship for many reasons and I thought of what the worst possible outcome could be, and there really was none. In fact, the worst possible scenario would have been if I stayed in the relationship and remained unhappy and looked back in the same place years later with regret.

In my 30’s I experienced the traumatic event of my mother’s passing and giving birth to my daughter within days. I was in a very dark place called a “grief induced post-partum depression.” For me simply being in that state was the worst possible scenario, so I finally managed to shift out of it (with much support in many areas) to a place of turning all of my negative life experiences into positive ones.

In my 40’s I was diagnosed with breast cancer and that was definitely a game changer for me because I was consciously aware at that time and the thoughts and emotions kept flowing around my mortality, around where my life was going, around my career, my relationship and my children. I remember thinking at that time also: “What is the worst possible thing that could happen?” The answer there was that I could not control this diagnosis and that yes, the worst case scenario would be I could die. Being a religious person and one with a very deep connection to faith, I was willing to accept that if it was, but that didn’t stop me from thinking about what could be and what would be and that was the best possible scenario. So when I got passed the place of what the worst could be, I was able to get to what the best possible outcome could be and although it would be a painful and emotional experience, I could walk through what I had to face, get the care and treatment that I needed and then get back to managing my relationships, my career, the care of my children and of myself.

More recently I experienced this with a career change. After 30 years in one field, I decided to start two new businesses. My initial reaction was to immediately revert to safety and took a very well-paying job where someone else would employ me. This didn’t sit well in me for long in my gut and I decided to nix that choice and go with opening up both businesses. Again, I asked myself: “What’s the worst case scenario?” The answer was simple: “If I failed I could always go back to safe, but if I didn’t explore the fear the regret would be even worse!” So here’s the thing, by exploring the worst possible scenario came the birth of the best case scenario and what exists now for me, the opening and sustaining of both businesses and the flexibility to pursue my passion.

So you see, most of the time we go on automatic pilot and think the only thing that can happen is the worst possible scenario, when in reality that is so far from the truth because we have so many options open and available to us.

Even if we do have to face the “worst possible scenario” we can do it in a place where we live in the moment and we make choices on how we want to move forward. I am seeing it via a colleague who is facing a “worst case scenario” in terms of an illness that is very real and she still walks and lives in a space of her best possible scenario every day. I have to say I am truly amazed and inspired and so happy to know her and be taught by her. We are forever all teachers and students and we were put on this earth to explore and make choices. 


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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Dance

Listening to a discussion of Shamanism on the radio, I hear dancing as an aspect of shamanism referred to as pejoratively.  Indigenous people do, “dance around, wear headdresses and blow smoke at you “…  

In my life, I have spent many years participating in indigenous ceremonies.

The dances expressing the essence have been the most profound, exquisite, healing, bonding and creative song to multiplicity of our worlds. 

One of the reasons I feel such confusion about contemporary western psychological shamanism is that there is no dancing, that the community aspect of shamanism is missing. 

I first heard buffalo songs in womb if indeed they were not what called me into this life. 

An intact ceremonial dance is created from a community, from its deep history  thousands of years of dancing, looking at buffalo dancers thousands of years of buffalo dancers present past and future dance there, the multiverse opens to hold us in its sweet compassionate embrace. 

Songs are created from heart, history and knowing, singing of gratitude for all that we receive, life breaths wisdom, light night, plant life, animal life, rock life, mountain and river life, sunlight, stars, wind, song, dance, creativity.  A specific group in a specific place in a specific time dons the dance. In the fullness of ceremony a community is called together, preparations are made, logs are gathered, food is prepared, songs are prepared, dances are prepared, hearts are prepared, souls are prepared, our sweet frail humanness is prepared. There is fasting, fasting from meat, from salt, from anger list hatred, revenge, fear, shame, pride.  Each cleanses the earth, the heart, the village, the body, the soul, the song, the community, the dance.   Step by note the community reweaves life consciously, with beauty and love, with receptivity and release.

In dance the community honors and shines its wholeness, it is not individuals, it is a living organism expanded through the multiverse beyond space and time. We each with great reverence and joy take up our note, our step, our thread in weaving of reality.  With the song and dances our hearts beat as one, we move into deep reality the rich compassionate multiplicity of being.  

We dance to create the world
— Marcello

Nika Annon incorporates Nuero-linguistic programming (NLP) & Nuero-plasticity techniques to help individuals move beyond limiting beliefs & assumptions that hold them back & create new habits to reinforce the changes which create the desired outcomes. To learn more about Nika, please visit www.nikaannon.com

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What the World Needs Now: LOVE

“What the world needs now is love, sweet love.  It’s the only thing that there’s much too little of.”

-          Bert Bacharach/Diana Ross

As we approach Valentine’s Day, a group of coaches from Life Coach Radio Networks decided to work on shifting the energy in the world – one person, and one action, at a time.

There are bad things that are going on in the world.  Wars. Sickness. Political stagnation and back biting. Violence. Racism and other prejudices. It’s enough to make you pull the cover over your head. But the great thing about living an empowered life is that we can CHOOSE our response to negativity.

Life Coach Radio Networks is proud to announce a new initiative:

One Love. One People. Kindness in Motion.

We are inviting positive people all over to join us in a 10 Day Kindness Challenge.  Join us by dedicating 10 days to being nicer, kinder, and more loving – through specific person-to-person actions.

Each day, do something nice for another person. It can be a stretch… like buying something significant for a family in need, or providing a homeless person with a meal (instead of spare change), or a recent trend to give a 100% tip (how cool is that). Or it can be simple. Pay a compliment. Smile. Initiate conversation with a co-worker that you were at odds with. Forgive a family member who wronged you.  And once you take on the challenge – pay it forward. Invite 2 or 3 people to do the same.  If you want to share on social media feel free. Or do it in a smaller, more anonymous way. But let’s do something good. 

 WHY ME? WHY NOW?

There are many benefits to being nice. It reduces stress, helps you feel more connected and increases your lifespan.  People who are more generous experience less depression and improve relationships.See The Benefits of Generosity, Lisa Firestone

Also, we all know that forgiveness is more for the person who is doing the forgiving than the offender.  Smiling releases endorphins, which helps us feel less stress, and releases the harmful stress hormone cortisol. See7 Benefits of Smiling and Laughing, Jennifer Smith  So clearly, doing something for others is equally beneficial to ourselves. 

OUR WORLD NEEDS YOU

But above all that, the world is hurting right now. We live in an age of instant gratification, stress, and constant exposure to all the negative news. Our media outlets stress the bad more than the good, which can contribute to why people are feeling like things are just bad all over. We need to restore hope in humanity – in our inherent goodness.  That we ALL MATTER – no matter what our race, income or sexual orientation.  I AM YOU. And YOU ARE ME. 

Join us, won’t you? Let’s do something GOOD…. TOGETHER.  Visit http://www.lifecoachradionetworks.com/1love1peoplekindnessinmotion/ for details.

Russell Terry, Jr.  Founder & Executive Producer, Life Coach Radio Networks, Author of My Gratitude Journal

Trina Ramsey, Career & Life Coach, Host of “Career Talk with Coach Trina” on Life Coach Radio Networks  www.trinaramsey.com


BENEFITS OF GENEROSITY

The Benefits of Generosity, Lisa Firestone

The Benefits of Generosity, Lisa Firestone, Huffington Post 6/13/14

Not only does generosity reduce stress, support one's physical health, enhance one's sense of purpose, and naturally fight depression, it is also shown to increase one's lifespan.

If a longer, less stressful and more meaningful life is not enough to inspire you to rev up your practice of generosity, consider that generosity also promotes a social connection and improves relationships


7 Benefits of Smiling and Laughing, Jennifer Smith

7 Benefits of Smiling and Laughing

1. Neurotransmitters called endorphins are released when you smile.

These are triggered by the movements of the muscles in your face, which is interpreted by your brain, which in turn releases these chemicals. Endorphins are responsible for making us feel happy, and they also help lower stress levels. Faking a smile or laugh works as well as the real thing—the brain doesn’t differentiate between real or fake as it interprets the positioning of the facial muscles in the same way. This is known as the facial feedback hypothesis. The more we stimulate our brain to release this chemical the more often we feel happier and relaxed.

 2. Endorphins make us feel happier and less stressed.

They also act as the body’s natural pain killers. For sufferers of chronic pain, laughing and smiling can be very effective in pain management, as can laughing off the pain when you bump an elbow or fall over.

 3. While the release of endorphins is increased, the stress hormone cortisol is reduced.

Cortisol is more active when we feel stressed or anxious and contributes to the unpleasant feelings we experience, and by lowering it we can reduce these negative feelings.

 4. Laughing expands the lungs, stretches the muscles in the body and stimulates homeostasis.

This exercises the body, replenishing the cells from a lungful of oxygen and gaining all the benefits of exercising the body.

 5. A good laugh can be an effective way to release emotions.

A good laugh can help you release emotions, especially those emotions that you might bottle up inside. Everything looks that little bit better after a good laugh and life can be seen from a more positive perspective. Smiling and laughing have positive social implications as well.

 6. Smiling is an attractive expression, which is more likely to draw people to you rather than push them away.

Smiling makes you appear more approachable. Interaction with others is easier and more enjoyable when smiles and laughs are shared, and these behaviours are contagious, making others feel better too, and make you a more appealing and attractive person to be around. This in turn will have a positive effect on your well-being.

 7. A happy, positive expression will serve you well in life.

This is particularly  true for challenging situations such as job interviews: a smiling, relaxed persona indicates confidence and an ability to cope well in stressful situations. This will also be of benefit in your career, building healthy relationships with colleagues and being seen in a favourable light by your employers.


The Health Benefits Of Generosity – It Really Is Better To Give Than Receive

POSTED BY STUART FARRIMOND 

Science is increasingly showing us that being outward-focused and generous is linked to better health. In recent years, medics and psychologists have been discovering what good things happen inside the body when we do good things for others. One important experiment showed that when volunteers were given cash to spend on someone else they felt markedly less shame and more positive thoughts than when spending that amount of money on themselves. Yes, feeling good after giving might seem obvious, but this experiment also showed that one charitable act can change the body’s internal chemistry – significantly lowering levels of potentially harmful stress hormones.

For it is a life with high levels of stress hormones (particularly one called cortisol) that increases our risk of many health issues: digestive problems, heart disease, diabetes, chronic pain, weight gain and depression. Lack of sleep, poor work-life balance and excessive alcohol all lead to high cortisol levels; whereas relaxation, massage and exercise can bring the levels back down again. Now that we know that big-heartedness also helps undo the ravages of modern life it one more reason to be pleased it’s Christmas. Be it a shoebox, a stocking filler, or a phone call to Aunty, acts of kindness big and small can work wonders.

5 Things To Do This Year

Hello good people – and HAPPY NEW YEAR! 

Take a deep breath – can’t you just smell the “new car scent” in the air? This is one of my favorite times of the year. Many of us use the New Year as a turning point, a fresh start, a re-commitment to taking our lives to the next level. 

But SOME of us take it too far. We become overly obsessed with changing each and every area of our lives. And then we get overwhelmed. And because we aren’t able to focus on more than a few new things at a time, we inevitably fall short on some things. And instead of celebrating the good, we beat ourselves up because of the failures. Does this sound familiar?  If so, this message is just for you! As usual, I would love to hear any feedback you'd like to share! 

Trina


As you can imagine, I’ve been busy working on all my New Years stuff. This is naturally a busy season for coaches. As I was pondering what to share with you amid the myriad of New Years wishes, self-improvement gurus, fitness and diet advice, I decided to just give you a KISS instead.  (Keep It Simple Stupid).

So, here are my top 5 tips for making 2015 a great year.

1.  Ditch Resolutions!  Set goals and intentions instead.  Yes, I said it! I stopped making resolutions some time ago. But I do set aside time to really focus on the year behind while deciding what’s on tap for the new year. I’m NOT saying that you shouldn’t work on new stuff for the new year – of course you should! What I am saying is that instead of using resolutions, which many of us tend to talk about heading into the new year and not again after February. Rather, set some meaningful goals and intentions for yourself – and work steadily towards them.  More on that next…

2.  Focus. It’s so very tempting to try to do it all. It’s good to push yourself and expect more. I believe wholeheartedly in raising the bar and not settling. But if you try to take on too many new things on top of what is most assuredly a very busy life, you are setting yourself up for failure.  Choose a very small set of goals to focus on moving this year. Make them big goals. Make them impactful – things that will help you move closer to the life of your dreams or improve the quality of your life.  I recommend no more than 3, but if you must – 5 at the most.

3.  Take one step at a time. But most importantly – GET STARTED! Yes, this sounds elementary, but it’s true. Sometimes we heap so many expectations upon ourselves to ‘nail it this time’ that it paralyzes us. Start where you are – take it a step at a time, and you’ll see results.

4.   Don’t go it alone. Any journey is better with friends. Moral support and accountability partners are the key to making progress on your goals.  You can get this in a variety of ways. Enlist a workout buddy to hit the gym together. For big goals, coaches and mastermind groups can help you stay on track.

5.    Cheat – a little. All work and no play makes Jack/Jane a dull boy/girl.  Don’t make it all about work and achievement. Reward yourself along the way. Build in days off if you are pressing towards a big goal. 

Most of all - remember to have fun along the way. We all get WAY TOO SERIOUS about this stuff. Push, but not too hard that you stress yourself out and don't get to enjoy the ride. 

C-ya next time! 

Trina

PS... As always, I'm available for 1:1 communication and motivation in-between these messages. I'm happy to provide a free Discovery Call to talk things out and see if coaching might help you achieve your goals this year. Email me at tramsey43@gmail.com and we can set something up! 


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

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Where Is The Love?

These words are from the song, "Where is the Love", by the Black Eyed Peas. Very fitting indeed... 

A lot is going on in our world right now. We are becoming more and more divided, and less and less tolerant of one another. And people are dying at the hands of those who should be protecting them. Nations are turning against nations, and friends and family members are at odds about the “right way” to handle things. And social media and traditional media is whipping us up into a frenzy.  It’s nuts.  And it doesn’t have to be. 

I am one of those people that can sometimes annoy others with my optimism. I find a way to look on the bright side or lend an encouraging word. But to be honest, I am struggling right now.  And while I’m trying to stay informed, I am avoiding those talking head shows like the plague – because the producers inevitably pit people with vastly opposing views against one another and they slug it out with words – analyzing and replaying what has happened when the truth is – we have to move FORWARD from here.  

Today I’m going to contrast two emotions:  Fear vs. Love.

FEAR

Fear breeds mistrust and distances people. I see you as my enemy instead of my potential ally.  I am in a “fight or flight” posture, and when things get heated, I will fight (or shoot) first and ask questions later.  Every man (or woman) for him/herself.  This is a lonely, disempowered and diminished existence. 

LOVE

Love promotes openness and understanding.  I see you first and foremost as another human being.  I trust you first, and assume the best. And when we disagree, I work with you to find a place of mutual understanding so that we can move forward.  This is a much more empowered stance, and tends to help people to move forward and seek unity.

Here’s the thing:  We will NEED TO WORK TOGETHER to get to the other side of this. And we will need to learn how to see the commonalities in one another instead of the difference.  As Steven Covey states, “seek first to understand, then to be understood”.  United we stand, divided we fall… all that good stuff.  The problems of our nation and our world are so huge that it can be difficult to imagine workable solutions. But look to South Africa where apartheid was the norm until a different way was imagined, and until the collective will of the people set things in motion to create lasting change in that country.  Look to Germany, where world leaders got to the point of tearing down a wall that divided the country for many years. Real change can happen, but we must be open to it. We must first put our fears aside and open ourselves up to love.

10 DAY KINDNESS CHALLENGE

It’s the holiday season, where people find ways to be more generous, loving and caring.  I am issuing this challenge to you, and invite you to pay it forward.  While you are going about your day to day life, take the 10 Day Kindness Challenge.  Each day, do something nice for another person. It can be a stretch… like buying something significant for a family in need, or providing a homeless person with a meal (instead of spare change), or a recent trend to give a 100% tip (how cool is that). Or it can be simple. Pay a compliment. Smile. Initiate conversation with a co-worker that you were at odds with. Forgive a family member who wronged you.  And once you take on the challenge – pay it forward. Invite 2 or 3 people to do the same.  If you want to share on social media feel free. Or do it in a smaller, more anonymous way. But let’s do something good. 

SPREAD THE LOVE AND WATCH IT GROW….

In love and peace, 

Trina


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business. For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus  or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

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The Little Things

A simple song that moves you to tears.  A walk in the park that reminds you of nature’s beauty.  A gentle hug that lets you know someone cares. The smell of freshly cooked food that brings anticipation of a good meal. The first compliment you get that causes you to blush.  The kiss that takes your breath away. 

All of these simple things are beautiful, heartfelt, and treasured at the exact moment you experience them.  However, once the moment is gone, one might consider these same moments as small, little, and un-noteworthy.  We forget that life is made up of a multitude of happy, sad, painful, and beautiful moments thoughtfully woven together.  Moments that often times are overlooked as insignificant because in the pursuit of our happiness, we only look forward to grand moments, planned special occasions, and the big events that will bring us hours of pleasure or happiness.

Sadly, when something injures us, those are the moments that are remembered and held onto tightly.  We allow a scar to form and often remind ourselves of it, not allowing it to properly heal.  Don’t hold so tightly onto the moments that bring sadness or cause pain. Allow those moments to bring you understanding of yourself and others.  Allow those moments to aid you in your growth.  Then allow those moments to pass, only to be reflected upon to thoughtfully remember the lesson gained.

Throughout your life, don’t trip yourself up with thinking in either terms of “grand” or “insignificant”, the simplest gesture from you toward someone, can hold deep meaning to them.  It can make their day!  It can inspire!  It can bring about positive change!

Remember, all things in life are fleeting.  Don’t take the little things for granted, because they disappear in a heartbeat.  They can melt away like the winter snow giving way to the birth of spring.  Cherish all things in your life that hold meaning to you, even if it's just a moment.  Express gratitude for all things in your life, for all things that come to you, for all things you are given.

Are the little things really the little things?

Peace and Love to the Universe!!!


Monica Ortiz is a successful Life Coach, Author, and Speaker whose award-winning work has touched thousands of lives over her 20-year career. Her debut book in 2013 received over 100 five-star reviews and critical acclaim, and has led to speaking invitations at leading institutions such as Stanford University on topics ranging from Success in Your Career and Relationships to Shifting Your Energy to Shape Your Reality. She is founder of The Universe Series, a professional organization bringing the tools she teaches to millions of people around the globe. To learn more, visit www.theuniverseseries.com

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New Beginnings After Breast Cancer - A Survivor's Story

So much comes up when we receive our initial cancer diagnosis. I remember receiving mine and I immediately reframed it to taking cancer out of the equation. I told my husband right there in the moment: “this isn’t cancer, this is the boob job I always wanted.” And yes, the tears definitely fell from my eyes throughout the experience, but I kept an Rx of humor in my back pocket along with many other coping skills I had collected over the years.

For me personally, I was able to embrace a positive mindset immediately because of the lengthy and rocky relationship I had with cancer. I was caregiver to my mother who died of complications of being treated with chemo for her stage 4 ovarian cancer in 2001. She passed away and 3 days later I gave birth to my first born. To say the least, this was a very dark period for me but when I came out of it I vowed to turn all of my negative life events into positive ones. This was a conscious choice that I made on how I wanted to live my life moving forward. It helped me shed so much of the negativity that surrounded me as a child. It further lead me to being very proactive in my own health, pursuing genetic testing and becoming a top individual fundraiser for women’s cancers for an organization based in NYC and LA. Then I had the experience of my sister being diagnosed with breast cancer and a year later I received the same diagnosis.

I had a lot of tools to get me through my diagnosis and treatment. However, I still went through the entire process. Initially, I had feelings of being overwhelmed and anxious, followed by doubt and a little depression which ultimately lead me to acceptance. I had doubts on what my life would look like “after cancer” and how people would receive me. Getting through and to all of these emotions is key to getting to a place of peace and acceptance. When you get to that point you are fully able to accept what has been placed on your doorstep so that you can put your efforts into working on what you can control in your life and letting go of what you can’t. What you can do is take control of your health and your life from this point on.

Giving up control of “doing it all” for the sake of others and getting support is also critical, followed by self-care. There is no other way to fully heal unless you learn to go down this path. So many of my clients have trouble giving up the old mindset of: “If I don’t do it myself, it won’t get done” or finally coming to the place where they realize everything they have done up until this point in their lives has been to please others and they rarely do anything for themselves first. They get to a place where they realize that it is “OK” to allow them to receive!

You see, with a cancer diagnosis, not only do thoughts and emotions come up around a diagnosis and treatment, they also come up about who you are at your core. I am not one to minimize the impact of a cancer diagnosis (I saw my mother through her last days in hospice, they are forever etched in my mind and I have had my own physical and emotional journey with breast cancer) but I try to help my clients come to a place where they can see the opportunity to create awareness of who they are,  how they are living and how they can use this life altering experiencing to reassess their lives to reduce stress which feeds not only physical healing but in the mind as well and making choices to pursue the life you have always wanted to live. This can include looking at yourself and why you act as you do on a deeper level, looking at your relationships to see which serve you and those that do not, looking at the patterns in your lifestyle that have kept you on the same page and left you wondering why you are still there and so much more. When you go to your core to find out who you really are vs. who you think you should be, magical things can happen.

The next step is taking action and making choices to change your life. The choice is yours!


Gina Costa, CPC, ELI-MP is the founder of New Beginnings Coaching Services, LLC, which helps women diagnosed with breast cancer cope, step by step, with the emotional and physical challenges they experience, so they gain confidence and feel in control of their life again. To learn more about Gina and her coaching practice, visit http://www.newbeginningswithgina.com/

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The Number One Killer Of Dreams

What is the number one killer of dreams?

... Insecurity? 

... Laziness? 

... Lack of drive? 

All of those things can  contribute to us not getting what we want out of life.  But in my opinion, the biggest factor keeping us from pursuing our dreams is a simple 4-letter word....fear.

Fear attacks us from all sides. We’re afraid to fail, afraid to not do “what’s expected of us”, afraid of looking bad, afraid to succeed! We’re afraid of losing money, prestige, standing in the community. Afraid of what “they” will think of us.

So we ignore our inner voice. We stuff down the yearning inside of us. We play it safe. We stay in our lane. And life goes on… and on… and on.

And sometimes, most of the time, things work out ok.  And that’s fine. Except for that nagging voice that always wonders “what if”.  What if I had gone for that promotion, moved to another city or country, found the courage to leave a bad relationship or a job I detest instead of settling for “it’s better than nothing”?

But sometimes the nagging sensation eats at us, and we slowly over time realize that “there’s got to be more to life than this”. Yet we allow our fear to keep us trapped in that smaller, safer place. And we become miserable. And we may in turn make the other people in our lives miserable too.

Here’s the thing.

I’m on a mission y’all.  I want to inspire and support people to push past their fear and say “yes” to themselves. I know what it’s like to say “no” to my inner voice, who quietly prodded me to try something new. And I shut her down… QUICKLY (in 30 seconds flat - to be specific).  

And now I also know what it’s like to say “yes” to myself and pursue my gift.  No I’m not a millionaire, and this is still a “side gig” for me.  But let me tell you… I’m having a BALL!  If you’ve listened to my radio show or been to one of my workshops, I’m sure it’s pretty evident.  And THIS feeling is what I feel called to help others achieve.  Because at the end of the day, we only get one crack at this thing called life.  And I’m determined to squeeze every drop out of it. 

Take a few minutes to ponder this…

We’ve got a little more than 90 days left in 2014.  What are you going to do with the rest of it?

Try this exercise for me.  Are you game?  OK… Here we go.

Sit comfortably for 5 minutes and ponder these questions. If you want, write about it. Or just think. If now is not a good time, print this out and come back to it. Trust me – it’s worth it. 

1.   What do I want that I haven’t allowed myself to consider – for whatever practical reason (or out of fear)?

2.    What would change if I allowed myself to consider the POSSIBILITY of pursuing this thing?

3.    How do I feel right now even thinking about this?

4.    What ONE thing can I do that is within my power, time and resources, to make a positive impact in my life before 2014 ends?

What came up for you? Did that feel exciting or SCARY? Empowering? If you came up with something positive to do before 2014, I implore you to follow through on it – no matter how big or small.  Because here’s the bottom line.  Life ticks by… moment by moment… day by day... And we look up and it’s 10 years later.  Carpe Diem my friend! Seize this moment.  Who knows where this one decision will take you!

Today I’m not selling anything. I just want to encourage you to think more about what’s possible in your life. And if this message encouraged you or caused even a tiny shift, I’d love to hear about it.  If you know someone who would benefit from this message, please forward it on. 

Pay it forward! 


Trina Ramsey is a career and life coach, specializing in personal transformation and career transition. With 20 years of experience in business and management, Trina is a "people person" and a change agent. Trina started her business, Perspectives Plus Coaching in 2009 after spending 15 years as a nonprofit fundraiser and experience running her own interior decorating business.

For more on Trina visit trinaramsey.com. @PerspectivePlus or https://www.facebook.com/CareerTalkWithCoachTrina

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